Kodi Kunyumba Kwathunthu Kukupangitsani Kukhumudwa Kwanu Kukuipira?

Zamkati

• Momwe malo anu amawonetsera mkhalidwe wanu
• Ukhondo ndi njira yodzilemekeza
• Kuyambira pang'ono
• Zotsatira zakanthawi yayitali
• Tengera kwina

Ndakhala ndikukumana ndi kupsinjika kwakukulu kwa nthawi yayitali ndikukumbukira.

Nthawi zina, kukhumudwa kwambiri kumatanthauza kutuluka usiku uliwonse, kuledzera momwe ndingathere, ndikusaka china chake (kapena wina) kuti ndisokoneze mkatikati mwanga.

Nthawi zina, zimaphatikizapo kukhala mu zovala zanga zogonera ndikumatha masiku, nthawi zina masabata, ziwonetsero zowonera pa Netflix pabedi langa.

Koma mosasamala kanthu kuti ndinali munthawi yachiwonongeko kapena kubisala, gawo limodzi la kupsinjika kwanga lidakhalabe kosasunthika: Nyumba yanga nthawi zonse imawoneka ngati chimphepo chamkuntho.

Momwe malo anu amawonetsera mkhalidwe wanu

Ngati munakhalapo ndi nkhawa, muyenera kuti mumadziwa bwino kukhumudwa komwe kungakupatseni mphamvu ndi chilimbikitso. Kungoganiza zakusamba kumamva ngati kungafune kuyesayesa kwamphamvu kwambiri. Chifukwa chake sizosadabwitsa kuti nyumba ya munthu wopanikizika kwambiri sikuti imawoneka bwino. Zanga sizinali zosiyana.

Kwa zaka zambiri, komwe ndimakhala ndikuwonetsa bwino malingaliro anga: wachisokonezo, wosalimbikitsa, wosakhazikika, komanso wodzaza ndi zinsinsi zamanyazi. Ndimachita mantha nthawi yomwe aliyense adzafunse kuti abwere chifukwa ndimadziwa kuti izi zitanthauza chimodzi mwazinthu ziwiri: Vuto loyeretsa losawoneka ngati losagonjetseka, kapena kuletsa mapulani a munthu amene ndimamukonda. Omaliza adapambana 99% ya nthawiyo.

Ndinakulira ndikumaganiza kuti kukhumudwa sikumakhala matenda ovomerezeka monganso kufooka. Zitha kuthetsedwa ngati ndingoyeserera kwambiri. Ndinachita manyazi kwambiri kuti sindinathe kudzichotsa, ndinachita zonse zomwe ndingathe kuti ndizibise. Ndimamwetulira mwachinyengo, zokonda zabodza, kuseka kwabodza, ndikupitilira ndikupita kwa abwenzi komanso abale zakusangalala komanso chidaliro chomwe ndidamva. Kunena zowona, ndimakhala wopanda chiyembekezo mwamseri ndipo nthawi zina ndimadzipha.

Tsoka ilo, choyimira chomwe ndimagwira ntchito tsiku ndi tsiku kuti ndikhalebe chitha kugwa ngati aliyense alowa m'nyumba mwanga. Iwo amakhoza kuwona mbale zonyansa zikusefukira mosambira, zovala zitamwazika, kuchuluka kwa mabotolo a vinyo opanda kanthu, ndi milu ya zonyansa zodzikundikira pakona iliyonse. Chifukwa chake, ndidapewa.Ndinkaswa mapulani, ndikupanga zifukwa, ndikudzijambula ndekha ngati munthu wapadera yemwe amangosankha anthu kuti asabwere, ngakhale kuti palibe chomwe ndimafunikira kuposa kuti anthu abwere.

Ukhondo ndi njira yodzilemekeza

Pambuyo pazaka zambiri za magwiridwe antchito omwe mwina sanakhutiritse aliyense kukhazikika kwanga, ndidamva mawu akuti ndikadapeza kuti ndi omwe amathandizira kusintha kwakukulu pamoyo:

Ukhondo ndi njira yodzilemekeza.

Mawu amenewo adayamba kusintha malingaliro anga, ndikupangitsa kuzindikira kuti ndanyalanyaza malo anga kwakanthawi kwakanthawi chifukwa ndimadzimva kuti ndatha. Koma makamaka, sindinawone phindu lakuyika patsogolo. Ndinali ndi ngongole zomwe ndimalipira, zomwe ndimavutika kuti ndizigwire ntchito masiku ambiri, ndipo maubale anga anali kuvutika kwambiri chifukwa chosowa chisamaliro komanso chidwi. Chifukwa chake, kuyeretsa nyumba yanga sikuwoneka ngati kuti inali pamwamba pazogwirira ntchito zanga.

Koma tanthauzo la mawu osavutawa lidandikhudza. Ukhondo ndi njira yodzilemekeza. Ndipo zidayamba kumvekera zolimba m'maso mwanga. Nditayang'ana mozungulira nyumba yanga, ndidayamba kuwona chisokonezo cha zomwe zidalidi: kusadzilemekeza.

Kuyambira pang'ono

Pomwe kukonza maubale kumawoneka kovuta kwambiri ndikupeza kukwaniritsidwa pantchito yanga kumawoneka ngati kosatheka, kuthera nthawi yaying'ono kusamalira nyumba yanga tsiku lililonse kunayamba kumva ngati chinthu chogwirika chomwe ndingachite kuti ndikhale ndi moyo wabwino. Chifukwa chake, ndizomwe ndidachita.

Ndidayamba pang'ono, ndikudziwa kuti ndikadya mopitirira muyeso kamodzi, ziwalo zapanikizika zimatha. Chifukwa chake, ndidadzipereka kuchita chinthu chimodzi chabwino tsiku lililonse m'nyumba yanga. Choyamba, ndinasonkhanitsa zovala zanga zonse ndikuziika mulu umodzi, ndipo zidali za tsiku loyamba. Tsiku lotsatira, ndinatsuka mbale. Ndipo ndimapitilirabe motere, ndimachita zochulukirapo tsiku lililonse. Ndidapeza kuti tsiku lililonse latsopano loti zinthu zichitike, ndinali ndi chidwi chowonjezera chotsatira.

Popita nthawi, chilimbikitso ichi chidapeza mphamvu zofunikira kuti ndikhalebe ndi nyumba yoyera yomwe sindinachitenso nayo manyazi. Ndipo ndidazindikira kuti nanenso sindinachite manyazi.

Zotsatira zakanthawi yayitali

Sindinadziwe momwe chisokonezo chakunyumba yanga chimakhudzira moyo wanga. Kwa nthawi yoyamba mzaka, ndimatha kudzuka ndipo osangoyang'anizana ndi kukhumudwa kwanga ngati mabotolo opanda vinyo komanso mabokosi akale otengera. M'malo mwake, ndinawona malo okonzeka. Izi zikuwonetsa mphamvu yanga komanso kuthekera kwanga.

Mpumulo wochepa womwe ndidakumana nawo udangokwanira kundilimbikitsa kuti ndipitirize. Nyumba yanga ikakhala yaukhondo, ndinayamba kuganizira kwambiri za zokongoletsa zake. Ndinapachika zithunzi zomwe zimandipangitsa kuti ndizimwetulira, ndikusintha chofunda changa kuchoka pachinthu china kukhala chowala komanso chowoneka bwino, ndikuchotsa mdima wakuda pamawindo anga kuti dzulo liloŵe koyamba mzaka.

Zinali zomasula. Ndipo, monga zikukhalira, kusintha kosavuta kumeneku kumathandizidwa ndi sayansi. Kafukufuku wofalitsidwa muPersonality and Social Psychology Bulletin akuwonetsa kuti anthu omwe amafotokoza kuti nyumba zawo ndizodzaza kapena zosatha amakhala ndi vuto lakukhumudwa masana. Mbali inayi, anthu omwe adafotokoza nyumba zawo kukhala zadongosolo - mudaganizira - adamva kuti kukhumudwa kwawo kuchepa.

Tengera kwina

Mwa zovuta zambiri zomwe anthu ali ndi vuto ili, kukonza nyumba yanu ndichimodzi mwazinthu zowoneka bwino kwambiri. Sayansi imanenanso kuti ukachita izi, umva kukhala wamphamvu komanso wathanzi.

Ndikumvetsetsa kwathunthu kuti kusandutsa tsoka lachisokonezo kukhala nyumba yomwe mumamverera bwino kumatha kumveka ngati chinthu chosatheka, makamaka mukakhala pamavuto azovuta. Koma kumbukirani kuti si mpikisano! Monga ndidanenera, ndidayamba ndikuyika zovala zanga zonse pamulu umodzi. Chifukwa chake, yambani pang'ono ndikuchita zomwe mungathe. Chotsatiracho chidzatsatira.