3 Njira Zomwe Mnzanu Angasokonezere Kudya Kungawonetsere Pachibale Chanu

Zamkati

• 1. Nkhani zokhala ndi mawonekedwe akuthupi zimakhudza kwambiri
• 2. Zochita zokhudzana ndi chakudya zimatha kukhala zopanikiza
• 3. Kutsegula kungakhale kovuta
• Kulankhulana momasuka kumalola mnzanu kugawana mavuto awo, kupempha thandizo, komanso kulimbitsa ubale wanu

Ndi zomwe mungachite kapena kunena kuti muthandize.

Tsiku lina lomwe ndinayamba kucheza ndi mnzanga, pamalo odyera osakanikirana a ku India ku Philadelphia, adayika foloko yawo, nandiyang'ana mokwiya, ndipo adandifunsa, "Ndingakuthandizireni bwanji pakachiritso kanu?"

Ngakhale ndimaganizira zokambirana izi ndi anthu ochepa pazaka zambiri, mwadzidzidzi sindinadziwe choti ndinene. Palibe m'modzi mwazibwenzi zanga zam'mbuyomu yemwe adandifunsa funso ili. M'malo mwake, nthawi zonse ndimayenera kuwakakamiza kuti adziwe momwe vuto langa la kudya lingawonetsere ubale wathu ndi anthuwa.

Zowona kuti mnzanga adazindikira kufunikira kwakukambirana uku - ndipo adatenga udindo woyambitsa - inali mphatso yomwe sindinaperekedwepo kale. Ndipo inali yofunika kwambiri kuposa momwe anthu ambiri amaganizira.

Pakafukufuku wa 2006 omwe adawona momwe azimayi omwe ali ndi anorexia nervosa amakondera ndi maubale awo, amayiwa adalongosola kwa anzawo omwe amamvetsetsa zovuta zawo pakudya monga chinthu chofunikira kwambiri kuti amve kukondana. Komabe, abwenzi nthawi zambiri samadziwa momwe vuto la kudya la anzawo lingakhudzire chibwenzi chawo - kapena momwe angayambitsire zokambiranazi.

Kuti ndithandizire, ndalemba njira zitatu zachinyengo zomwe vuto la kudya kwa mnzanu lingawonetsere muubwenzi wanu, ndi zomwe mungachite kuti muwathandize pakulimbana kwawo kapena pakuchira.

1. Nkhani zokhala ndi mawonekedwe akuthupi zimakhudza kwambiri

Zikafika pathupi pakati pa anthu omwe ali ndi vuto la kudya, nkhanizi zimathamanga. Izi ndichifukwa choti anthu omwe ali ndi vuto la kudya, makamaka omwe ndi akazi, amakhala othekera kuposa ena kukhala ndi chithunzi cholakwika cha thupi.

M'malo mwake, mawonekedwe oyipa amthupi ndiimodzi mwazinthu zoyambirira zopezeka ndi matenda a anorexia nervosa. Nthawi zambiri amatchedwa kusokonezeka kwa chithunzi cha thupi, Izi zitha kukhala ndi zovuta zingapo kwa anthu omwe ali ndi vuto la kudya, kuphatikizapo kugonana.

Kwa akazi, chithunzi cholakwika cha thupi chimatha zonse madera azakugonana ndikukhutira - kuchokera pakukhumba ndikukakamira mpaka pamalungo. Pokhudzana ndi momwe izi zingawonetsere muubwenzi wanu, mutha kupeza kuti wokondedwa wanu amapewa kugonana ndi magetsi, amasiya kuvula panthawi yogonana, kapena amatha kusokonezedwa munthawiyo chifukwa akuganizira momwe amawonekera.

Zomwe mungachite Ngati ndinu mnzake wa munthu yemwe ali ndi vuto la kudya, kutsimikizika kwanu ndikutsimikizika kuti mumakopeka ndi mnzanu ndikofunikira - komanso kothandiza. Ingokhalani otsimikiza kukumbukira kuti sikungakhale kokwanira kuthetsa vutoli palokha. Limbikitsani mnzanu kuti akambirane mavuto awo, ndipo yesetsani kumvetsera popanda chiweruzo. Ndikofunika kukumbukira kuti izi sizokhudza inu ndi chikondi chanu - ndizokhudza mnzanu komanso vuto lawo.

2. Zochita zokhudzana ndi chakudya zimatha kukhala zopanikiza

Zizolowezi zambiri zachikondi zovomerezeka zachikhalidwe zimaphatikizapo chakudya - bokosi lamachokoleti a Tsiku la Valentine, usiku wopita kumalo osangalalira kusangalala ndi okwera ndi maswiti a thonje, tsiku lodyera zapamwamba. Koma kwa anthu omwe ali ndi vuto la kudya, kupezeka chabe kwa chakudya kumatha kuyambitsa mantha. Ngakhale anthu omwe akuchira amatha kuyambitsidwa akamaona kuti sangathe kudya.

Izi ndichifukwa choti, mosiyana ndi zomwe anthu ambiri amakhulupirira, sikuti anthu amakhala ndi vuto la kudya chifukwa cha kuchepa ngati muyezo wokongola.

M'malo mwake, zovuta zamavuto ndimatenda ovuta omwe ali ndi zovuta zachilengedwe, zamaganizidwe, komanso chikhalidwe, zomwe nthawi zambiri zimakhudzana ndikumverera kwakulakalaka. M'malo mwake, kupezeka kwa zovuta kudya komanso nkhawa limodzi ndizofala kwambiri.

Malingana ndi National Eating Disorders Association, matenda ovutika maganizo amapezeka pakati pa 48 mpaka 51 peresenti ya anthu omwe ali ndi anorexia nervosa, 54 mpaka 81 peresenti ya anthu omwe ali ndi bulimia nervosa, ndi 55 mpaka 65 peresenti ya anthu omwe ali ndi vuto la kudya mopitirira muyeso.

Zomwe mungachite Zochita zokhudzana ndi chakudya zimatha kukolezera nkhawa anthu omwe ali ndi vuto la kudya, ndipo chifukwa cha izi, ndibwino kuti izi zisadabwe. Kaya wina pakadali pano ali ndi vuto lakudya, kapena atha kuchira, angafunike nthawi kuti adzikonzekeretsere zinthu zofunika kudya. Funsani mnzanuyo za zosowa zawo. Kuphatikiza apo, onetsetsani kuti chakudya sichinawatulukire - ziribe kanthu momwe zolinga zanu za keke zakubadwa ziliri zokoma.

3. Kutsegula kungakhale kovuta

Kuuza munthu wina kuti uli ndi-kapena kuti unakhalapo-ndi vuto la kudya sikophweka. Kusalidwa kwamaganizidwe kuli paliponse, ndipo malingaliro olakwika okhudzana ndi kudya amachuluka. Kuphatikizidwa ndi mfundo yakuti anthu omwe ali ndi vuto la kudya nthawi zambiri komanso kuti amayi omwe ali ndi vuto la kudya akuwonetsa kuthekera kwakukulu kwakumva za ubale, kukhala ndi zokambirana zapamtima zamavuto okhudzana ndi kudya kwa mnzanu kungakhale kovuta.

Koma kupanga malo oti mnzanu azikulankhulani za zomwe akumana nazo ndikofunikira pakukhazikitsa ubale wabwino ndi iwo.

M'malo mwake, kafukufuku apeza kuti, poyang'ana momwe azimayi omwe ali ndi anorexia nervosa amatanthauzira zosowa zawo moyandikana, zovuta zawo pakudya zidathandizira pamalingaliro ndi kuthupi komwe amakhala mumacheza awo. Kuphatikiza apo, kutha kukambirana momasuka za zovuta zawo pakudya ndi anzawo ndi njira imodzi yolimbikitsira chidaliro mu ubale wawo.

Zomwe mungachite Kupezeka kuti mukambirane za vuto la kudya la mnzanu momasuka komanso moona mtima, komanso mwachidwi, kungawathandize kuti azimva kuti ndi otetezeka komanso kuti ali pachibwenzi. Ingokumbukirani kuti simukuyenera kudziwa mayankho abwino pakugawana kwawo. Nthawi zina kumvetsera ndi kupereka chithandizo ndikwanira.

Kulankhulana momasuka kumalola mnzanu kugawana mavuto awo, kupempha thandizo, komanso kulimbitsa ubale wanu

Kukhala pachibwenzi ndi munthu yemwe ali ndi vuto la kudya sikungafanane ndi kucheza ndi munthu yemwe ali ndi matenda osachiritsika kapena olumala - zimabwera ndimavuto ake apadera. Pali, komabe, mayankho pamavutowa, ambiri mwa iwo amatengera kulumikizana momasuka ndi wokondedwa wanu za zosowa zawo. Kulankhulana momasuka, momasuka nthawi zonse kumakhala mwala wapangodya wa maubwenzi achimwemwe. Amalola mnzanu kugawana mavuto awo, kupempha thandizo, motero kulimbitsa ubale wawo wonse. Kupatsa wokondedwa wanu ndi vuto la kudya mpata wopanga chidziwitsocho kukhala gawo lanu lolumikizirana kumangowathandiza paulendo wawo.

Melissa A. Fabello, PhD, ndi mphunzitsi wachikazi yemwe ntchito yake imaganizira kwambiri zandale zamthupi, chikhalidwe cha kukongola, komanso zovuta pakudya. Tsatirani iye pa Twitter ndi Instagram.