Kodi chimathandiza ndi chiyani? Njira 11 Zakuzindikira Mmodzi

Zamkati

• Kuthandiza motsutsana ndi kupatsidwa mphamvu
• Zizindikiro kapena mawonekedwe amaloleza
• 1. Kunyalanyaza kapena kulekerera khalidwe lamavuto
• Chitsanzo cha khalidweli
• 2. Kupereka ndalama
• Chitsanzo cha khalidweli
• 3. Kuwaphimba iwo kapena kupereka zifukwa
• Zitsanzo za khalidweli
• 4. Kutenga gawo lopitilira gawo lanu
• Chitsanzo cha khalidweli
• 5. Kupewa nkhani
• Chitsanzo cha khalidweli
• 6. Kutsuka zinthu
• Chitsanzo cha khalidweli
• 7. Kukana vutoli
• Chitsanzo cha khalidweli
• 8. Kudzipereka kapena kuvutikira kuzindikira zosowa zanu
• Chitsanzo cha khalidweli
• 9. Osatsatira zotsatira zake
• Chitsanzo cha khalidweli
• 10. Kusasunga malire anu
• Chitsanzo cha khalidweli
• 11. Kumva kukwiya
• Chitsanzo cha khalidweli
• Momwe mungaletse kuthandiza wokondedwa
• Bweretsani chidwi pa nkhaniyi
• Alimbikitseni kuti athandizidwe
• Khazikitsani malire anu ndikuwachirikiza
• Kumbukirani kuti zili bwino kunena kuti ayi
• Yesani mankhwala nokha
• Pewani kugwiritsa ntchito zinthu zowazungulira
• Tengera kwina

Mawu oti "athe" amatanthauzanso munthu yemwe machitidwe ake amalola wokondedwa kupitiriza mchitidwe wodzivulaza.

Mawuwa amatha kusalidwa chifukwa nthawi zambiri pamakhala chiweruzo cholakwika. Komabe, anthu ambiri omwe amathandiza ena satero mwadala. Mwina sangazindikire zomwe akuchita.

Kulola nthawi zambiri kumatanthawuza mitundu yomwe imawonekera mukamamwa mankhwala osokoneza bongo kapena mowa mwauchidakwa. Koma malinga ndi American Psychological Association, itha kutanthauzira mitundu ya maubwenzi apamtima omwe amathandizira machitidwe aliwonse ovulaza kapena ovuta ndikupangitsa kuti khalidwelo lipitirire.

Kulowetsa sizitanthauza kuti mumathandizira zosokoneza za wokondedwa wanu kapena machitidwe ena. Mutha kukhulupirira ngati simuthandiza, zotsatira zake kwa aliyense amene akukhudzidwa zikhala zoyipa kwambiri. Mwinanso mumapereka zifukwa zovutikira, kubwereketsa ndalama, kapena kuthandiza m'njira zina.

Koma ndikofunikira kuzindikira kuti kuthandizira sikuthandiza kwenikweni. Popita nthawi zitha kukhala zowononga wokondedwa wanu ndi ena owazungulira. Zimakhala zovuta kuti wina apeze thandizo ngati sakuwona bwino zotsatira zake.

Ngati mukukhudzidwa mwina mutha kuloleza machitidwe a munthu wina, werengani kuti mudziwe zambiri pakuthandizira, kuphatikiza zizindikilo, momwe mungayimire, komanso momwe mungathandizire wokondedwa wanu.

Kuthandiza motsutsana ndi kupatsidwa mphamvu

Sizovuta nthawi zonse kusiyanitsa pakati kulimbikitsa wina ndi kutheketsa iwo. Pakhoza kukhala kusiyana pang'ono pakati pa ziwirizi.

Anthu ambiri omwe amathandiza okondedwa awo safuna kuvulaza. M'malo mwake, kuwapangitsa kumayambira ndikufunitsitsa kuthandiza. Kulola machitidwe nthawi zambiri kumawoneka ngati othandizira machitidwe. Mutha kuyesa kuthandiza ndi zolinga zabwino ndikuthandizira wina mosazindikira.

Koma kupatsa mphamvu wina sikutanthauza kuthana kapena kubisa mavuto. M'malo mwake, mukapatsa wina mphamvu, mumachita chimodzi kapena zingapo zotsatirazi kuwathandiza kuchita bwino kapena kusintha pawokha:

• apatseni zida
• awathandize kupeza zofunikira
• aphunzitseni maluso

Mwanjira ina, mumawapatsa mphamvu kuti apange zisankho zawo ndi kuthana ndi mavuto.

Kulowetsa nthawi zambiri kumafotokoza zovuta zomwe zimakhudza kusuta kapena kugwiritsa ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo. Koma sizikhala choncho nthawi zonse. Kulowetsa kumatha kufotokozera momwe mungathandizire poyesera kubisa zovuta kapena kuzichotsa.

Thandizo ili pamapeto pake silothandiza, chifukwa nthawi zambiri silimapangitsa vuto kutheratu. Nthawi zambiri zimaipiraipira popeza munthu wothandizidwa amakhala ndi zifukwa zochepa zosinthira ngati apitiliza kupeza chithandizo chomwe chimachepetsa kufunika kosintha.

Zizindikiro kapena mawonekedwe amaloleza

Zizindikiro zotsatirazi zitha kukuthandizani kuzindikira pomwe njira yoyeserera ingakhale itayamba.

1. Kunyalanyaza kapena kulekerera khalidwe lamavuto

Ngakhale simukugwirizana ndi zomwe wokondedwa wanu amachita, mutha kuzinyalanyaza pazifukwa zosiyanasiyana.

Ngati mukukhulupirira kuti wokondedwa wanu akufuna chisamaliro, mwina mukuyembekeza kuti kunyalanyaza zomwe zachitikazo kudzachotsa chidwi chawo kuti apitilize.

Mungapewe kulankhula za izo chifukwa choopa kuvomereza vutolo. Inu kapena wokondedwa wanu mwina simunavomereze kuti pali vuto. Mwinanso mungawope zomwe wokondedwa wanu anganene kapena kuchita ngati mungatsutse izi.

Chitsanzo cha khalidweli

Nenani kuti mnzanuyo ali ndi vuto lomwa mowa mwauchidakwa. Amati sanamwe, koma mumapeza risiti mu zinyalala za bafa zogulitsa zakumwa usiku wina. Usiku wotsatira mumapeza risiti ya bala m'dera lanu. M'malo mowafunsa za malisiti, mwasankha kuti musakakamize nkhaniyo.

2. Kupereka ndalama

Nthawi zambiri sipakhala choipa pakuthandizira wokondedwa wanu ndalama nthawi ndi nthawi ngati ndalama zanu zimaloleza. Koma ngati amakonda kugwiritsa ntchito ndalama mosasamala, mopupuluma, kapena pazinthu zomwe zitha kuvulaza, kuwapatsa ndalama nthawi zonse kumatha kuchititsa izi.

Kupereka ndalama kwa wokondedwa wanu kumatha kukhala ndi zotsatirapo zoyipa makamaka ngati ali ndi vuto losokoneza bongo kapena kumwa mowa mopitirira muyeso.

Chitsanzo cha khalidweli

Mwana wanu wamkulu amavutika kuti azigwiritsa ntchito ndalama zake ndipo alibe zokwanira kulipirira lendi. Kuwathandiza mwezi uliwonse sikuwaphunzitsa momwe angayendetsere ndalama zawo. M'malo mwake, amatha kudalira kwambiri inu.

3. Kuwaphimba iwo kapena kupereka zifukwa

Mukakhala ndi nkhawa ndi zomwe zimachitika chifukwa cha zochita za wokondedwa, ndizachilengedwe kufuna kuwathandiza powateteza ku zotsatirazi.

Ndikoyeserera kupereka zifukwa za wokondedwa wanu kwa abale ena kapena abwenzi mukakhala ndi nkhawa kuti anthu ena adzawaweruza mwankhanza kapena molakwika. Koma izi sizingathandize wokondedwa wanu kusintha.

Zitsanzo za khalidweli

Mutha kuyitanitsa ntchito ya mnzanu kuti anene kuti akudwala atatopa kapena ataledzera. Kapena mungatchule sukulu ya mwana wanu ndi chowiringula pamene sanamalize ntchito ya teremu kapena sanaphunzire mayeso ofunikira.

Zochita zanu zitha kuwoneka ngati zothandiza pakadali pano: Zimapangitsa kuti mnzanu asadzudzulidwe kapena kutaya ntchito (komanso gwero la ndalama). Amalepheretsa mwana wanu kukumana ndi zovuta zamaphunziro zomwe zingakhudze tsogolo lawo.

Koma zochita zanu zitha kupatsa wokondedwa wanu kuti palibe cholakwika ndi machitidwe awo - kuti mupitilize kuwafotokozera.

4. Kutenga gawo lopitilira gawo lanu

Mutha kukhala kuti mukuthandiza wokondedwa ngati mumapezeka kuti mumangotenga zinthu zawo: kugwira ntchito zapakhomo, kusamalira ana awo, kapena kusamalira zochitika zofunika tsiku ndi tsiku zomwe samasiya.

Pali kusiyana pakati pakuthandizira wina ndikumuloleza. Wina yemwe ali ndi vuto la kukhumudwa atha kukhala ndi nthawi yovuta kutuluka pabedi tsiku lililonse. Thandizo lamasiku ochepa lingawathandize kupyola nthawi yovuta ndikuwapatsa mphamvu kuti athe kufunafuna thandizo. Simungathe kuloleza kukhumudwa popeza si machitidwe.

Koma ngati chithandizo chanu chilola wokondedwa wanu kukhala ndi nthawi yosavuta yopitilira machitidwe ovuta, mutha kuwathandiza.

Chitsanzo cha khalidweli

Mutha kuloleza mwana wanu kuti azipewa ntchito zapakhomo kuti akhale ndi "nthawi yokhala mwana". Koma wachichepere wamkulu yemwe samadziwa kuchapa kapena kutsuka mbale adzakhala ndi zovuta paokha. Ndikofunika kukhazikitsa malire.

5. Kupewa nkhani

Kaya wokondedwa wanu akupitirizabe kumwa mpaka kutha kapena nthawi zonse amatulutsa ndalama mchikwama chanu, chibadwa chanu choyamba chingakhale kukumana nawo. Mukufuna kuti khalidweli lisiye.

Koma mutaganizira za izi, mutha kuyamba kuda nkhawa ndi zomwe angachite. Mutha kuwona kuti ndibwino kungonyalanyaza izi kapena kubisa ndalama zanu.

Nthawi zambiri zimakhala zochititsa mantha kuganizira zodzetsa mavuto akulu monga kuledzera mukazindikira kuti pali vuto. Izi zimakhala zovuta makamaka ngati mumakonda kupeza zovuta kapena mikangano.

Koma kupewa kukambirana kumakulepheretsani kuti muwone za vutoli ndikuthandizira wokondedwa wanu kuthana nalo moyenera, moyenera.

Chitsanzo cha khalidweli

Wokondedwa wanu amamwa mowa kwambiri mukamapita kulesitilanti. M'malo molankhula za vutoli, mumayamba kuwonetsa malo omwe samapereka mowa.

6. Kutsuka zinthu

Anthu omwe ali ndi vuto losokoneza bongo kapena machitidwe ena ovuta nthawi zambiri amalankhula kapena kuchita zinthu zopweteka kapena zopweteka. Amatha kukunyozani, kukunyozani, kukuphwanyani kapena kuba katundu wanu, kapena kukuvulazani.

Mutha kudziwuza nokha kuti khalidweli siloyipa kwambiri kapena mudzitsimikizire kuti sangachite izi ngati sichingakhale chizolowezi.

Koma chifukwa cha khalidweli zilibe kanthu. Ngati khalidweli limavulaza, limayambitsa mavuto. Kuchepetsa vutoli kumatanthauza kwa wokondedwa wanu kuti atha kupitiliza kukuchitirani chimodzimodzi popanda zotsatirapo.

Podzinamizira zomwe amachita sizikukhudzani, mumapereka uthenga kuti palibe vuto lililonse lomwe akuchita.

Chitsanzo cha khalidweli

Mnzanu nthawi zambiri amakuseka pagulu. Chifukwa nawonso amalimbana ndi chizolowezi chomwa mowa, umadziwuza wekha kuti ndikulankhula moledzeretsa ndipo samatanthauza kwenikweni.

Ngakhale kuti yayamba kukhudza thanzi lanu lamaganizidwe, mumadziwuza nokha kuti si nkhanza chifukwa siomwe amakhala akumwa.

7. Kukana vutoli

Kungakhale kovuta kuvomereza wokondedwa wanu akusowa thandizo. Amatha kunena kuti ayesa mankhwala kamodzi kapena kawiri koma osazigwiritsa ntchito pafupipafupi. Akhozanso kufunsa ngati inu ndikuganiza kuti ali ndi vuto. Mumawatsimikizira kuti simukukhudzidwa, kuti samamwa mochuluka, kapena amakana kuti pali vuto.

Mutha kusankha kuwakhulupirira kapena kuvomereza popanda kuwakhulupirira. Mutha kukakamira kwa abale ena kapena abwenzi kuti zonse zili bwino pomwe mukuvutikira kuti mudzilandire nokha izi.

Koma posavomereza vutoli, mutha kulimbikitsa, ngakhale mukufunadi kuti asiye. Kukana nkhaniyi kungapangitse mavuto kwa inu ndi wokondedwa wanu.

Zimakupatula nonse, chimodzi. Zimapangitsanso kuti zikhale zovuta kuti wokondedwa wanu apemphe thandizo, ngakhale akudziwa kuti akusowa thandizo kuti asinthe.

Chitsanzo cha khalidweli

Wokondedwa wanu wayamba kumwa mowa mopitirira muyeso pamene zovuta ndi maudindo kuntchito zawo zawonjezeka. Mukukumbukira pomwe amamwa pang'ono, ndiye mumadziuza kuti alibe vuto. Amatha kusiya nthawi iliyonse.

8. Kudzipereka kapena kuvutikira kuzindikira zosowa zanu

Kuphonya zinthu zomwe mukufuna kapena mukuzifuna nokha chifukwa chakuti mukugwira nawo ntchito yosamalira wokondedwa kungakhalenso chizindikiro chakuti mukumuthandiza munthu ameneyo.

Kodi mumavutika pachuma mutapatsa wokondedwa wanu ndalama? Kodi mumasowa nthawi yantchito yanu, kudzisamalira nokha, kapena maubale ena popeza mukuchita zambiri kunyumba?

Nthawi zina timafuna kudzipereka chifukwa cha anthu omwe timawakonda. Izi sizitanthauza nthawi zonse kuti mukuthandiza winawake. Chifukwa chomwe mumalola zosowa zanu kuti zisayende bwino.

Ndikofunika kudzisamalira nokha poyamba, makamaka posamalira wokondedwa wanu wodwala, koma mwina simukumbukira kuphonya zina mwazomwe mumachita masiku angapo kapena milungu ingapo.

Koma ngati mukuvutika nthawi zonse kuti muzichita zinthu kapena mukulefuka ndi zoyesayesa zanu zosamalira wokondedwa, zingathandize kulingalira zifukwa zanu zothandizira komanso momwe akumvera pa wokondedwa wanu. Kodi nsembe yanu imalola kuti machitidwe awo apitilize?

Chitsanzo cha khalidweli

Wachinyamata wanu amakhala maola ambiri usiku uliwonse akusewera masewera apakanema m'malo mochita ntchito zawo. Mumadzaza madzulo anu ndi kuchapa kwawo, kuyeretsa, ndi ntchito zina kuti muwonetsetse kuti adzakhala ndi china chovala ndi shawa loyera loti adzagwiritse ntchito m'mawa.

Koma mumagwiranso ntchito nthawi zonse ndipo mumafunikira madzulo kuti mudzisamalire. Mwalola izi kutumphuka panjira. Mukuwona kuti ndizowona chabe m'moyo.

9. Osatsatira zotsatira zake

Ngati munganene zotsatira zake, ndikofunikira kutsatira. Kusatsatira kumalola wokondedwa wanu kudziwa kuti palibe chomwe chidzachitike akapitilizabe kuchita zomwezo. Izi zitha kupangitsa kuti apitilizabe kuchita zomwezo ndikupitiliza kugwiritsa ntchito thandizo lanu.

Chitsanzo cha khalidweli

Pakhoza kubwera nthawi muubwenzi wanu mutakhala ndi zokwanira. Mutha kunena kuti, "Ngati muwononga ndalamazi pa china chilichonse kupatula renti, sindikupatsaninso ndalama zina."

Kapena, "Sindingakhale pachibwenzi ichi ngati simupeza chithandizo cha akatswiri."

Muthanso kunena kuti, "Ndikulipira gawo langa la renti mwezi uno, ndiye ngati simungathe kulipira yanu, muyenera kupeza kwina koti mukakhale."

Koma simutsatira, chifukwa chake wokondedwa wanu akupitilizabe kuchita zomwe akuchita ndikuphunzira kuti izi ndizowopseza zopanda pake.

10. Kusasunga malire anu

Malire athanzi ndi ofunikira muubwenzi uliwonse. Malire ena omwe mungafotokozere wokondedwa wanu omwe ali ndi vuto losokoneza bongo, kuzunzidwa, kapena vuto lina atha kukhala:

• "Sindikufuna kukhala pafupi nanu mukamakuwa, chifukwa chake ndimangomvetsera mukamalankhula modekha."
• "Sindikumva kuti ndikumagonana ngati mumamwa."
• "Sindikufuna kucheza pomwe mwakhala mukugwiritsa ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo, choncho chonde musadzabwere mukadzakhuta."

Ngati inu kapena wokondedwa wanu mudutsa malire omwe mwafotokozera ndipo palibe zotsatirapo zake, atha kupitilirabe malirewo.

Chitsanzo cha khalidweli

Ngati wokondedwa wanu ayamba kukuwa pokambirana ndipo inu mupitiliza kukambirana mmalo mochokapo, atha kumva kuti zovuta zomwe mumakumana nazo sizofunika kwenikweni kwa inu. Angaganizenso kuti mudzaperekanso malire ena.

11. Kumva kukwiya

Mchitidwe wokonzekeretsa kukhala pachibwenzi, ndizofala kuti mkwiyo, kapena kukwiya komanso kukhumudwa, kukule.

Mungasungire mkwiyo wanu wokondedwa wanu, mkhalidwewo, kapena inu nomwe. Mutha kumva kupweteka komanso kukwiya chifukwa chogwiritsa ntchito nthawi yochuluka kuyesera kuthandiza wina yemwe akuwoneka kuti sakukuyamikirani. Mungamve kuti mukuyenera kupitiliza kuthandiza ngakhale simukufuna.

Kusunga chakukhosi kumatha kuwononga thanzi lanu, koma kumathandizanso kuzindikira kuti zinthu sizingakhale bwino.

Chitsanzo cha khalidweli

Nenani kuti mlongo wanu akupitiliza kusiya ana ake mukamapita. Akuti ali ndi ntchito, koma mukudziwa kuti akunama. Mumavomereza kulera ana chifukwa mukufuna kuti ana akhale otetezeka, koma kulera kwanu kumamuthandiza kuti apite kunja.

Popita nthawi mumayamba kumukwiyira komanso kukhumudwa naye komanso ndi inu nokha chifukwa choti simutha kukana. Mkwiyo uwu umalowa pang'onopang'ono mukamacheza ndi ana ake.

Momwe mungaletse kuthandiza wokondedwa

Kodi zizindikiro zilizonse zomwe zatchulidwazi zikuwoneka ngati zofanana ndi zomwe zachitika mu ubale wanu ndi wokondedwa? Malingaliro awa angakuthandizeni kuphunzira momwe mungapezere mphamvu wokondedwa wanu m'malo mwake.

Bweretsani chidwi pa nkhaniyi

Onetsetsani kuti mukudziwa kugwiritsa ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo kapena machitidwe ena m'malo mongonyalanyaza kapena kusuntha izi. Perekani chifundo, koma onetsani kuti machitidwewo siabwino.

Kulimbana ndi wokondedwa wanu kungawathandize kuzindikira kuti simukugwirizana ndi khalidweli komanso kuwadziwitsa kuti ndinu okonzeka kuwathandiza kusintha.

Alimbikitseni kuti athandizidwe

Mwina sangavomereze kulandira chithandizo nthawi yomweyo, chifukwa chake mungafunike kutchulapo kangapo. Kugwira ntchito ndi wothandizira wanu kumatha kukuthandizani kuti mufufuze njira zabwino zopezera mankhwala omwe ali oyenera kwanuko.

Khazikitsani malire anu ndikuwachirikiza

Uzani wokondedwa wanu kuti mukufuna kupitiriza kuwathandiza, koma osati m'njira zomwe zimawathandiza kukhala ndi khalidwe. Mwachitsanzo, mutha kukwera anthu oti mukakwere nawo nthawi koma osakana kupereka ndalama zamafuta kapena china chilichonse.

Kumbukirani kuti zili bwino kunena kuti ayi

Izi zikhoza kukhala zovuta poyamba, makamaka ngati wokondedwa wanu akukwiyirani. Koma kunena kuti `` Ayi '' nthawi zambiri kumakhala kofunikira kuti achire. Khalani odekha, koma olimba mtima. Fotokozerani zotsatira za kuwoloka malire.

Yesani mankhwala nokha

Othandizira nthawi zambiri amagwira ntchito ndi anthu omwe amapezeka kuti akuthandiza okondedwa awo kuwathandiza kuthana ndi izi ndikuwathandiza m'njira zothandiza komanso zabwino.

Pewani kugwiritsa ntchito zinthu zowazungulira

Ngati wokondedwa wanu akumwa mowa mopitirira muyeso, kuchotsa mowa m'nyumba mwanu kungathandize kuti anthu asamaupeze. Mwina simukuvutikira kuchepetsa zakumwa, koma lingalirani kukhala nazo ndi bwenzi m'malo mwake.

Tengera kwina

Kuthandiza wina sizitanthauza kuti mukugwirizana ndi machitidwe ake. Mutha kungoyesa kuthandiza wokondedwa wanu chifukwa chakuti mumawadera nkhawa kapena kuwopa kuti zochita zawo zingawapweteke, inu, kapena abale ena.

Koma ndikofunikira kuzindikira kachitidwe kameneka ndikuyamba kuthana nako. Kuthandiza kumatha kukhala ndi zotsatira zoyipa paubwenzi wanu komanso mwayi wokondedwa wanu kuti achire.

Ndizovuta kuthana ndi vuto losokoneza bongo kapena kumwa mowa mopitirira muyeso. Ndipo ngati vuto silinakambidwepo, sangakhale ndi mwayi wopeza thandizo.

Ngati mukuganiza kuti zochita zanu zitha kuthandiza wokondedwa wanu, lingalirani zolankhula ndi othandizira. Pochiza, mutha kuyamba kuzindikira machitidwe olimbikitsa ndikupeza chithandizo mukamaphunzira kuthandiza wokondedwa wanu m'njira zathanzi.