Khalani ndi Chigawo Chabwino: Chotsani Zosokoneza

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Momwemonso kulimbikira poyesa kutsika kungapangitse kukhala kovuta kwambiri kufikira chisangalalo cha orgasmic, zododometsa-kaya zamaganizo kapena zathupi-zingapangitse kukhala pafupi kosatheka kufikira pamzere.

"Kawirikawiri, azimayi amafika pamlingo winawake ndikukhala ndi malingaliro ambiri-Ndingatani ngati nditero? Bwanji ngati sinditero? Kodi ndidziwa kuti ndikumva? Malingaliro onsewa ndi otsutsana ndi kudzutsidwa," akutero Emily Nagoski, Ph.D., wolemba Bwerani Monga Inu: Sayansi Yatsopano Yodabwitsa Yomwe Isintha Moyo Wanu Wogonana. Ndiye msungwana yemwe ali ndi malingaliro oyendayenda atani? Vomerezani kuti alipo, ndiye aloleni apite ndikubwerera ku zomwe mukumva, akutero Nagoski.

Ndipo, inde, tikudziwa kuti izi nzosavuta kunena kuposa kuchita. "Kuzindikira kukhudzidwa mthupi lanu kumatha kuyambitsa malingaliro ovuta okhudza thupi lanu-momwe mafuta pamimba mwanu akuyendera, momwe ntchafu zanu zimawonekera, kapena chilichonse chomwe chingakhale," a Nagoski akuti.Ngakhale mawu awa ndi abwinobwino komanso achilengedwe, akutero, chinsinsi chokhala ndi chiwerewere ndicho kuyang'ana chisangalalo, osati liwu lokhalitsa mumutu mwanu.

Popeza ubongo ndiye chiwalo chachikulu kwambiri chogonana, ndikofunikiranso kudziyang'anira pamwambo waukulu, akutero Emily Morse, katswiri wazogonana, komanso wotsogolera Sex With Emily podcast. Kumbukirani zochitika zakale zakugonana zomwe zidakankhira mabatani anu kapena ganizirani zomwe mukudziwa kuti zingakutseguleni. Mwanjira iyi, zochita zikayamba, ubongo wanu (ndi thupi) zidzakhala kale bwino, akulangiza.

Kuphatikiza pa malingaliro oyendayenda, palinso zosokoneza zakuthupi-foni yanu imangokulira mosalekeza, ana anu kapena anthu okhala nawo m'chipinda china, mphaka wanu akukanda pakhomo, ndi zina zotero. Chofunika ndikukonza malo anu enieni kuti muwonetsetse kuti muli ali omasuka momwe angathere, atero a Nagoski.

Mlanduwu? Amayi anali othekera kwambiri kufikira pamalungo akavala masokosi, ofufuza zakugonana achi Dutch omwe adapezeka mu kafukufuku wina. Ayi, masokosiwo si achinsinsi - mapazi awo ozizira amangowasokoneza. (Pazinthu zina zothandizidwa ndi maphunziro, werengani izi 8 Zodabwitsa Zomwe Zimakhudza Moyo Wanu Wogonana.) Kotero, kaya ndikusintha thermostat kapena kuonetsetsa kuti foni yanu ili kutali, konzekerani pasadakhale kuti muthe kupanga zosangalatsa, zodandaula- ndi zododometsa- malo omasuka omwe angakuthandizeni kuyang'ana pa ntchito yomwe muli nayo. "Mawu omwe amathandizira kukhala ndi orgasm ndi osiyana kwa aliyense, koma muyenera kukumbatira ndikuzikonda ndikupangitsa kuti zichitike," akutero Nagoski.

Chifukwa pankhani yogonana, muyenera kuchoka m'mutu mwanu ndikuyang'ana ntchito yomwe muli nayo-kapena gawo lililonse la thupi limakupangitsani kumva bwino.

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