Momwe Mungapezere Katswiri Wothana Ndi Nkhani Zanu

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Mukabwera ndi zilonda zapakhosi, kupweteka kwa mano, kapena vuto la m'mimba, mumadziwa mtundu wanji wa zamankhwala zomwe muyenera kuwona. Koma bwanji ngati mukukumana ndi nkhawa kapena kupsinjika? Kodi ndikwanira kuti mufotokozere mnzanu kapena mukuyenera kulankhula ndi katswiri? Ndipo mumatha bwanji kupeza dokotala?

Tivomerezane: Wadzazidwa kale ndi malo otayira. Lingaliro lopeza mtundu wa akatswiri azamisala omwe ali oyenera kwa inu angamve ngati ochulukirapo kuposa momwe mungathere (kapena mukufuna) kuthana nawo. Timachipeza-ndichifukwa chake tidakuchitirani ntchitoyi. Pemphani malangizo anu pang'onopang'ono kuti mupeze thandizo lomwe mukufuna. (PS Ngakhale Foni Yanu Imatha Kukhumudwa.)

Gawo 1: Uzani wina-aliyense.

Kudziwa nthawi yoti mupeze thandizo ndilofunikanso. Pali zizindikilo ziwiri zofunika kuti nthawi yakwana yoti mulandire chithandizo kuchokera kwa akatswiri azaumoyo, atero a Dan Reidenberg, Psy.D, director director of Suicide Awareness Voices of Education (SAVE). "Choyamba ndi pamene simungathe kuchita momwe munkakhalira kale ndipo palibe chomwe mukuyesera kuti chithandize," akutero. Lachiwiri ndi pamene anthu ena azindikira kuti china chake sichili bwino. "Ngati wina akutenga gawo kuti anene china chake kwa inu ndiye kuti zapita ndikukhalitsa - ndipo mwina ndizofunika kwambiri - kuposa momwe mungaganizire," akutero.

Kaya ndi wofunikira, bwenzi, wachibale, kapena wantchito mnzako, kufunafuna chithandizo ndicho chinthu chofunikira kwambiri. Nthawi zambiri, matenda amisala-ngakhale kukhumudwa pang'ono kapena nkhawa-amatha kukupangitsani kukhala kovuta kuti mudziwe momwe zakhalira, akutero Reidenberg. "Kudziwitsa wina kuti ukuvutikira kumatha kupanga kusiyana kwakukulu."

Gawo 2: Pitani kuchipatala.

Simufunikanso kuyambitsa kusaka kocheperako. Ulendo wanu woyamba ukhoza kukhala dokotala wanu woyang'anira nthawi zonse kapena ob-gyn. "Pakhoza kukhala zinthu zachilengedwe, zamankhwala, kapena mahomoni zomwe zitha kuzindikirika pakuyezetsa labu," akutero. Mwachitsanzo, mavuto a chithokomiro amalumikizidwa ndi zizindikilo za kukhumudwa ndi nkhawa komanso kuthana ndi vutoli kungakuthandizeni kuti mukhale bwino. "Dokotala wanu anganene kuti mulankhule ndi munthu pakanthawi kochepa mankhwala akayamba kugwira ntchito kapena ngati sagwira ntchito," akuwonjezera Reidenberg. Ngati dokotala wanu akutsutsa vuto lachipatala, iye akhoza kukutumizirani kwa katswiri wa zamaganizo. (Dziwani: Kodi Kuda Nkhaŵa M'majini Anu?)

Khwerero 3: Onani katswiri wa zamaganizo.

"Katswiri wa zamaganizo ndi munthu wabwino kwambiri woti mupiteko ngati mukulimbana ndi kusintha kwa maganizo kapena maganizo anu, mulibe chidwi ndi zinthu zomwe munalipo kale, palibe chomwe chikuwoneka kuti chikukupangitsani kukhala wosangalala, kapena maganizo anu akukwera. pansi kapena mosasunthika pansi, "akutero. "Katswiri wazamisala atha kukuthandizani kuti muphunzire momwe mungagwirire ntchito ndi malingaliro anu ndi machitidwe anu kuti muziwasinthire kumalo abwinoko."

Akatswiri azamaganizidwe samapereka mankhwala (asing'anga, omwe ndi madokotala, amatero). "Katswiri wamaganizidwe amaphunzitsidwa m'njira zosiyanasiyana," akutero a Reidenberg. "Anthu akamangokhala ndikulankhula m'malo otetezeka, osaweruza ena zitha kukhala zothandiza kwambiri kuthetsa malingaliro ndi malingaliro awo. Zimachepetsa nkhawa zawo."

Khwerero 4: Katswiri wanu wa zamaganizo akhoza kukutumizirani kwa psychologist.

Pafupifupi nthawi zonse, simudzawonana ndi katswiri wa zamaganizo pokhapokha ngati katswiri wanu wamaganizo akuganiza kuti n'kofunikira, ngati simukupeza bwino kapena muli ndi ululu wochuluka kuti musamagwire nokha. Phindu lalikulu lingakhale logwira ntchito ndi onse awiri, Reidenberg akuwonjezera. "Dokotala aliyense adzafuna kudziwa ngati mukukumana ndi zovuta zilizonse, koma pazifukwa zosiyanasiyana." Katswiri wazamisala adzafuna kutsegulidwa kuti adziwe ngati kuchuluka kwa mankhwala kapena mankhwala kulakwitsa, pomwe katswiri wazamisala angakuthandizeni kuthana ndi zotsatirapozo posintha moyo wanu ndi malingaliro anu, Reidenberg akuti. "Pogwira ntchito limodzi, adzagawana zambiri zakukula kwanu kuti mubwerere kumbuyo mwachangu." (Koma achenjezedwe-Kusazindikira Matenda Ovutika Maganizo Kungathe Kutulutsa Kwambiri Ndi Ubongo Wanu.)

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