Mnzanga Wamoyo Wonse, Kuda nkhawa, ndi Momwe Zimandipangitsira Kukhala Wamphamvu

Zamkati

• Ndikuwona zambiri
• Ndili ndi malingaliro owoneka bwino
• Ndikutha kuwona mbali zonse ziwiri za nkhani iliyonse
• Ndine wokonzekera bwino
• Ndimavala mtima wanga pamanja
• Ndili ndi kukayikira kwabwino
• Ndimalemekeza mphamvu zamaganizidwe
• Kuda nkhawa ndi gawo la omwe ndili

Ndakhala ndikukhala ndi nkhawa malinga ndikukumbukira - ndisanakhale ndi dzina. Ndili mwana, ndinkachita mantha ndi mdima. Koma mosiyana ndi anzanga, sindinakule.

Ndinakumana ndi nkhawa yanga yoyamba nthawi yomwe ndimagona kunyumba kwa mnzake. Sindinadziwe zomwe zinali kuchitika. Ndinangodziwa kuti sindingathe kusiya kulira, ndipo ndimafuna koposa chilichonse kuti ndipite kunyumba. Ndidayamba mankhwalawa ndidakali ku pulayimale, ndipo ndidayamba kuphunzira nkhawa, komanso momwe zimandikhudzira.

Pali zambiri zomwe sindimakonda zokhudzana ndi nkhawa yanga, ndipo kwazaka zambiri ndimangoyang'ana mbali zoyipa zake. Ndinkangokhalira kupewa mantha, ndikudziyikira ndekha ndikuthandizira thanzi langa.

Koma muulendo wanga wodzivomereza ndekha ngati munthu wokhala ndi nkhawa, ndawona zina mwanjira zabwino zomwe kulimbana kwanga kwandipanga kukhala mkazi yemwe ndili lero.

Ndikuwona zambiri

Kuda nkhawa kwanga kumatha kundipangitsa kudziwa bwino zomwe zandizungulira, makamaka ngati pali tanthauzo lenileni (kapena lodziwika) pakusintha kwachilengedwe changa. Akasiyidwa, izi zimatha kudzetsa ziwonetsero.

Koma ngati ndingathe kugwiritsira ntchito mzere pamaganizidwe osalamulirika, ndatsala ndikudziwitsidwa bwino kwambiri pazomwe zikuchitika pondizungulira. Ndikudziwa oyandikana nawo akabwera ndikupita, ndiziwona phokoso laphokoso lomwe limatanthauza kuti babu yatsala pang'ono kuwotchedwa, ndipo ndidzakhala woyamba kutchula izi pamene mlembi ku ofesi yanga ya zachipatala ali ndi chatsopano kumeta tsitsi.

Ndili ndi malingaliro owoneka bwino

Kwa nthawi yayitali yomwe ndikukumbukira, malingaliro anga akhala akundithawa. Ndili mwana, izi zinali ndi zovuta zina. Kutchulidwa koyipa kwambiri kwa chilombo, mzukwa, kapena goblin kunali kokwanira kutumiza malingaliro anga kuthamanga munjira yamdima, yamdima yodzaza ndi zoopsa zokwanira kuti ndikhale wamantha ndikudzuka kwa maola ndisanapite kukagona.

Kumbali inayi, ndimakhala masiku ambiri chilimwe ndikusunthira tayala langa, ndikupanga nkhani zonena kuti ndinali wachinyamata mfumukazi yomwe idasinthidwa ndimtsikana wamba ndipo tsopano ndimayenera kudziwa zonse za moyo wake watsopano, kuyang'ana padziko lomuzungulira.

Ndili wamkulu, ndathetsa mantha anga a "zinthu zomwe zimachitika usiku," ndipo ndimasangalalabe ndi mphotho zakuwoneka zopanda malire. Izi zikutanthauza, mwazinthu zina, kuti sindimakhala wotopetsa - ngati ndingakhalepo. Ndipo sindidzataya nkhani zogona ndisanamuuze mwana wanga wamkazi. Ndipo nditha kudzitayitsa ndekha m'mabuku, makanema apa TV, ndi makanema - zomwe zitha kukhala kumasulidwa kwakukulu.

Ndikutha kuwona mbali zonse ziwiri za nkhani iliyonse

Kuda nkhawa kwanga kudabwera mmanja ndikudzikayikira kwanthawi yayitali ya moyo wanga. Udindo uliwonse womwe ndingatenge, kapena zochita zomwe ndingaganizire, ndifunsa. Pakutha kwake, kukayika kwakukulu kumeneku kumatha kupweteketsa mtima.

Ndine wotsimikiza kwambiri pazisankho ndi malingaliro anga, podziwa kuti ndawayankha kale kuti ndiwayeseze ndikutsutsa. Ndipo ndimatha kuwonetsa chisoni kwa iwo omwe malingaliro awo amatsutsana ndi anga pocheza ndi kulingalira malingaliro awo.

Ndine wokonzekera bwino

Kukonzekera kwakhala kukutetezani ku nkhawa kwa moyo wanga wonse. Kukhala wokhoza kulingalira momwe ndi pomwe china chidzachitike kumandithandiza kuti ndizidziletsa ndekha ndi nkhawa zazatsopano kapena zovuta.

Inde, sizinthu zonse pamoyo zomwe zingakonzekeredwe mpaka kulembedwako, ndipo ndaphunzira kukhala wodekha pakafunika kuchita zinthu modzipereka. Makamaka. Koma ngati kukonzekera ndikofunikira, ndine msungwana wako.

Ngati tikupita kumzinda watsopano, mosangalala ndikuyika mapu, ndikasungitsa hoteloyo, ndikawone malo odyera apafupi, ndikuwona malo okwerera sitima zapansi panthaka omwe ali pafupi. Ndiwerengera nthawi yomwe itenge kuchokera ku eyapoti, kupita ku hotelo, kupita kumalo odyera, osatuluka thukuta.

Ndimavala mtima wanga pamanja

Kuda nkhawa kumakonda kugwirizanitsidwa ndi nkhawa, koma kwa ine, kuda nkhawa kumatanthauza kuti malingaliro ena ambiri - mkwiyo, mantha, chisangalalo ndi chisoni - nawonso amapezeka kwambiri. Koposa kamodzi, ndakhala ndikuyenera kuwerenga buku la ana kwa mwana wanga wamkazi chifukwa nkhaniyi idandichititsa chidwi. Ndikuyang'ana pa inu, "Ndidzakukondani Kwamuyaya."

Nyimbo yoyimba ingatumize mtima wanga kugunda ndi misozi yachisangalalo ikutsika m'maso mwanga. Ndipo chilichonse chomwe ndikumverera chidalembedwa pankhope panga. Ndimadzipeza ndekha ndikuwonetsera nkhope za otchulidwa pa TV, chifukwa ndimamva momwe akumvera - kaya ndikufuna kapena ayi.

Ndili ndi kukayikira kwabwino

Kuda nkhawa ndi wabodza wodziwika. Nkhani zomwe ubongo wanga wopanikizika umapanga zachoka mdziko lino - ndipo ndaphunzira kukhala okayikira kwambiri za iwo.

Zomwe zimanditengera chidwi champhamvu momwe ndingathere, ndikudziwabe kuti ngakhale nkhani yabwino kwambiri iyenera kuwunikidwa, ndipo ngati nkhani ikuwoneka ngati yabwino kwambiri - kapena yoyipa kwambiri! - kunena zoona, mwina sizowona. Luso limeneli landithandizira kukhala mtolankhani, komanso wogula nkhani.

Ndimalemekeza mphamvu zamaganizidwe

Palibe chomwe chimakhala ngati kukumana ndi nkhawa kukusiyani mukuchita chidwi ndi mphamvu zodabwitsa zamaganizidwe. Zowona kuti malingaliro ndi malingaliro chabe atha kundisiya ndikudzimva kukhala wopanda thandizo andithandizanso kuti ndiwone mbali inayo ya ndalama - kuti mwa kuwongolera malingaliro anga, nditha kupezanso mphamvu zanga.

Njira zosavuta monga kusakatula thupi, kutsimikizira, komanso kuwonetsa m'maganizo kwandipatsa mphamvu kwambiri pothana ndi nkhawa. Ndipo ngakhale sindingathe "kugonjetsa" kapena "kugonjetsa" nkhawa yanga, ndapanga zida zambiri zondithandizira kuthana ndi zovuta zake pamoyo wanga.

Kuda nkhawa ndi gawo la omwe ndili

Kuda nkhawa kumatha kukhala vuto kwa moyo wonse, komanso ndi gawo la omwe ndili. Chifukwa chake m'malo mongoyang'ana nkhawa ngati kufooka, ndimasankha kuyang'ana mphamvu zomwe ndapezapo.

Ngati mukukhala ndi nkhawa, ndiuzeni momwe zakupezerani mphamvu!

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