Momwe Mungathandizire Mnzanu Pamavuto, Kim ndi Kanye Style

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• Khalani omvera oyenera.
• Musaganize kuti akusowa malo.
• Dzisamalireni inunso.
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Pokhapokha mutakhala mukupezeka pazofalitsa zonse masiku angapo apitawa (mwayi!), Mwina mwamvapo kuti Kanye West adagonekedwa mchipatala chifukwa chotopa sabata yatha atachotsa zotsalazo Woyera Pablo ulendo. Ngakhale sitikudziwa tsatanetsatane wa zomwe zidachitika-ngakhale ma celebs amayenera kukhala achinsinsi pankhani yathanzi lawo-Ife Sabata Lililonse akuti West akadali mchipatala ndipo sanatsimikizidwe tsiku lomasulidwa.

Mkazi wa Kanye Kim Kardashian wakhala ali naye nthawi yonseyi, malinga ndi gwero lomwe limalankhula ndi magaziniyi. Kaya ndinu okonda banja la Kardashian kapena ayi, n'zosakayikitsa kuti Kim wachita zonse zomwe angathe kuti athandize Kanye kuti apumule ndi chisamaliro chomwe akufunikira. "Kim sakanachoka kumbali yake kupatula kuti akawone ana," watero gwero poyankhulana. "Iye wakhala ali kuchipatala nthawi zonse. Kim wakhala akumuyang'anitsitsa kwambiri komanso kuti asalole kuti anthu amusokoneze. Anthu amitundu yonse adayimba ndi kutumiza maluwa, koma akusamala kwambiri kuti asalole kuti awonongeke komanso kuti awonongeke. kuwonetsetsa kuti akupuma ndi kuchira. " Zikumveka ngati ali m'manja abwino. (Apa, Kim akutsegulira zomwe akumana nazo posachedwa ndi nkhawa.)

Ndiye ngati mnzanuyo akumana ndi zinthu ngati izi, kaya ali wosweka mtima, watopa, kapena akungokumana ndi zovuta zambiri, mungamuthandize bwanji? Tidali ndi akatswiri atatu omwe amalingalira momwe mungapezekere ku S.O. m'njira yomwe ili yachifundo komanso yothandiza.

Khalani omvera oyenera.

Kumva zomwe mnzanu wanena ndikofunikira, koma onetsetsani kuti mukumvetsera chinyezimiro ndikofunikira, atero Erika Martinez, Psy.D, katswiri wazamisala ku Miami. Kodi kumvetsera mosinkhasinkha, mumapempha chiyani? Kwenikweni, mukamamvera zomwe mnzanu akunena, muyenera kuyankha mwa kubwereza zomwe adakuwuzani momwe mukumvera, kuti muwonetse kuti mumamvera chisoni zomwe akumva komanso zomwe akukumana nazo. "Tsoka ilo, anthu ambiri amadzitchinjiriza akamamvetsera ndikuwona zinthu zomwe zimanenedwa ngati ziwawa," akutero Martinez. "Kuti izi zigwire ntchito, womvera akuyenera kuwunika momwe alili pakhomo." Zodziwika bwino.

Zimathandizanso kufunsa mnzanuyo zomwe akufuna kuchokera kwa inu munthawiyo. "Funsani momwe mungathandizire kuchepetsa kupsinjika maganizo. akuwonetsa Martinez. Ndibwinonso kufunsa chilolezo musanapereke ndemanga kapena malingaliro pazomwe mungachite, akutero. "Atamvetsera, anthu ena amalowa m'malo ndi mayankho. M'malo mwake yesani china chonga ichi," Kodi ndingayankhulepo? "Kapena" Kodi mungakonde lingaliro langa kapena mwafunika kufotokoza? "" Komanso, ndibwino kupewa mawu ndi mawu ngati "'ayenera," "chokha," ndi "uyenera kutero," chifukwa ali ndi mawu otsika pachiweruzo-ngakhale sicholinga chanu.

Musaganize kuti akusowa malo.

Ndi chibadwa cha anthu ambiri kuti abwerere pomwe akudziwa kuti wina akumva kuwawa kuti awapatse "malo." Koma malinga ndi Anita Chlipala, wololeza wovomerezeka komanso wothandizira mabanja komanso mwini wa Relationship Reality 312, siizochita zabwino nthawi zonse."Ngati muwapatsa malo popanda kufunsa, mutha kuwaika pachiwopsezo kuti akuwoneni ngati mukuwasiya munthawi yakusowa." Kupatula apo, simudzadziwa zomwe S.O yanu. amafunadi kapena amafunikira mpaka mutayankhula. "Banja lililonse ndi losiyana ndipo chofunikira ndi chomwe chimagwirira ntchito kwa onse awiri," akuwonjezera. "Vuto likamachitika, nthawi zina kumakhala kuyesa-kulakwitsa kuyesa kudziwa zomwe zimagwirira banjali. Chofunika ndikulankhula momasuka kuti nonse mukhale osinthasintha." (FYI, awa ndi ma 8 maubwenzi amafufuza maanja onse omwe akuyenera kukhala nawo kuti akhale ndi moyo wachikondi.)

Dzisamalireni inunso.

Ndikosavuta kuiwala zosowa zanu mukakhala ndi nkhawa za munthu amene mumamukonda, koma simuyenera kunyalanyaza kudzisamalira kwanu munthawi izi. "Muyenera kutenga zowonjezera mudzisamalire mukamathandiza wina pamavuto, "akutero a Audrey Hope, katswiri wazamaubwenzi komanso mlangizi wa zizolowezi zosokoneza bongo. Kuchita zinthu zingapo zosavuta kuti muzitha kudziletsa pamavuto: Khalani ndi nthawi yosamba ndikusintha zovala zanu, muzipeza mpweya wabwino komanso kuwala kwadzuwa nthawi ndi nthawi, ndipo muzipuma pang'ono kumbali ya mnzanuyo kuti mudye ndikuyendayenda. Zinthu zazing'ono zimatha kusintha kwambiri.

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