Zomwe Muyenera Kuchita Mukakodwa Ndi Chibwenzi Choipa

Zamkati

• Anabedwa ndi chikondi
• Kutuluka
• Momwe mungachiritsire mutasiyana kwambiri
• 1. Letsani nambala yawo
• 2. Pitani kwa masiku ochepa
• 3. Lolani kulira ndikumva chisoni
• 4. Lembani mndandanda
• 5. Khalani osokonezeka.

Ndikufuna kuti ambiri a ife takhala pachibwenzi chimodzi choyipa nthawi ya moyo wathu. Kapenanso munakumana ndi zoyipa.

Kwa ine, ndidakhala zaka zitatu ndi mnyamata yemwe ndimadziwa kuti pansi pake anali wolakwika kwa ine. Imeneyi inali nkhani yoyamba yachikondi. Anali wokongola, masaya, komanso wokonda kwambiri. Adandilembera nyimbo, chifukwa cha Mulungu! (Ndili wamkulu, lingaliro lomwelo limandipangitsa kufuna kusanza, koma panthawiyo chinali chinthu chachikondi kwambiri chomwe sindinakhalepo nacho.)

Monga mtsikana wamanyazi komanso wopanda mantha, ndinakopeka naye.

Anali mgulu loimba, ankakonda ndakatulo, ndipo ankandidabwitsa ndikapita kokayenda ndi mphatso. Ali ndi zaka 19, ndimaganiza kuti adzakhala katswiri wodziwika bwino wa rock ndipo timathera nthawi yathu tikukwera basi yokaona malo, limodzi ndi ine nditavala chovala chaubweya chokhala ngati 70s ndi maluwa m'mutu mwanga. (Inde, ndinali wokondabe wamkulu wa "Almost Famous.")

Sindinakhalepo pachibwenzi kale, ndipo zomwe zidasokoneza zidakhala zosokoneza kuposa mankhwala aliwonse. Tinali otanganidwa wina ndi mnzake. Ndimaganiza kuti tidzakhala limodzi kwamuyaya. Ichi ndiye chithunzi chomwe ndimamatira pomwe ndimayang'ana kwambiri zinthu zikafika poipa.

Ndidampatsa zifukwa zopanda malire. Pamene samalumikizana ndi ine kwa masiku angapo, zinali chifukwa chakuti "amayamikira ufulu wake." Atandiyimitsa patsiku lathu lachiwiri kuti ndipite kutchuthi mopupuluma ku Egypt, ndidadziuza kuti sitikusowa zikondwerero kuti titsimikizire chikondi chathu.

Atandipusitsa nthawi yoyamba, ndikufuna kunena kuti ndinamudula m'moyo wanga, ndinametanso tsitsi, ndikupitiliza ndi moyo wanga (ndi "Respect" wolemba Aretha Franklin ngati nyimbo).

Tsoka, chowonadi ndichakuti ndidasweka mtima, ndawonongedwadi. Koma ndidamutenganso patatha milungu iwiri ndikumuyesa. Kukondana koyipa, koyera komanso kosavuta.

Anabedwa ndi chikondi

Kodi n'chifukwa chiyani ndinachita izi? Zosavuta. Ndidali mutu pachikondi. Anandilanda ubongo wanga.

Monga wamkulu (akuti), ndimawona kubedwa kumeneku kumachitika nthawi zonse ndi atsikana ndi anyamata. Nthawi zambiri amakhala ndi wina chifukwa cha chizolowezi kapena mantha ndikuvomera kuchitiridwa zoipa chifukwa amakhulupirira kuti ndi mtengo wachikondi. Ndicho chimene chikhalidwe chofala chimatipangitsa kukhulupirira. Ndipo ndizolakwika.

Ndikulemba pano pakompyuta yanga, sindingakulangizeni ngati ubale womwe muli nawo ndi wabwino, wosakanikirana, kapena woopsa. Komabe, nditha kunena zinthu zofunika kuziyang'anira:

1. Kodi anzanu ndi abale anu sawakonda? Anthu omwe muli nawo pafupi nthawi zambiri amalankhula kuchokera pamalo achidwi kapena umboni wakuchiritsidwa. Nthawi zina sangakhale olondola pazinthu, koma ndibwino kuganizira nkhawa zawo.
2. Kodi mumathera nthawi yopitilira 50% mukudandaula za chibwenzi chanu? Kuda nkhawa, kuganizira mopitirira muyeso, kulephera kugona, kapena kulira nthawi zambiri sizizindikiro za ubale wabwino.
3. Simumukhulupirira mnzanu akamachoka kumbali yanu. Ubale umamangidwa pakukhulupirirana.
4. Mnzanuyo amakuzunza kapena kumuzunza. Ngati simukutsimikiza kuti muli pachibwenzi, pali zizindikiro zofunika kuziyang'ana komanso njira zopezera thandizo.

Kutuluka

Mapeto a nkhani yanga ndiabwino kwambiri. Palibe chodabwitsa chomwe chidachitika. Ndinangokhala ndi mphindi ya babu yoyatsa.

Ndidawona momwe chibwenzi cha mnzanga chidaliri ndipo mwadzidzidzi ndidazindikira kuti zidasiyana ndi zanga. Amamulemekeza komanso kumusamalira bwino. Ichi chinali chinthu chomwe ndimayenera, inenso, koma sichimatheka kuchokera kwa bwenzi langa lapamtima.

Sindinganene kuti kutha kwa banja kunali kosavuta, momwemonso kudula chiwalo si kophweka. (Kanema "Maola 127" adawonetsera izi). Panali misozi, nthawi zokayikira, komanso mantha akulu osakumananso ndi wina aliyense.

Koma ndidachita. Ndipo poyang'ana m'mbuyo, chinali chimodzi mwazisankho zabwino kwambiri zomwe ndidapangapo.

Momwe mungachiritsire mutasiyana kwambiri

1. Letsani nambala yawo

Kapena chitani zomwe Dua Lipa amachita ndipo osangotenga foni. Ngati mukuda nkhawa kuti mudzalephera kudziletsa, ndiye kuti perekani foni yanu kwa bwenzi lokhulupirika kapena abale anu. Izi zidandigwirira ntchito - zidachotsa chiyesocho.

2. Pitani kwa masiku ochepa

Ngati ndi kotheka, zimathandiza kuthawa, ngakhale kungochezera abwenzi kapena abale. Ganizirani sabata lathunthu ngati mungathe. Mufunika kuthandizidwa panthawi yoyamba iyi.

3. Lolani kulira ndikumva chisoni

Simuli ofooka, ndinu anthu. Sunganizani zinthu zotonthoza monga minofu, chakudya chotonthoza, ndikulembetsa ku Netflix. Cliché ndimadziwa, koma zimathandiza.

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4. Lembani mndandanda

Lembani zifukwa zonse zomveka zomwe simukuyenera kukhalira ndikuziyika pamalo omwe mumaziwona pafupipafupi.

5. Khalani osokonezeka.

Ndinakongoletsanso chipinda changa chogona nditadutsa. Kusokoneza ubongo wanga ndi manja anga otanganidwa (kuphatikiza kusintha momwe chilengedwe changa chikuwonekera) kunali kopindulitsa kwambiri.

Moyo ndi waufupi kwambiri kukhala ndi munthu amene samakuchitira ndi chikondi komanso ulemu. Khalani anzeru, khalani olimba mtima, ndipo dzichitireni zabwino.

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