Kuyamba Kupenga: Ndidapatsa Mzimu Wothandizira Wanga - Koma Tsopano Ndiyenera Kubwerera

Zamkati

• Zachidziwikire, kupatsirana mzimu sikuli pandandanda wanga wamalingaliro amomwe mungathetsere ubale wamankhwala.
• Ngati wothandizira wanu ndi wofunika mchere wawo, adzakhala okondwa kukhala ndi mwayi wogwiranso ntchito nanu.
• Koma tikadzitsegula tokha ku mtundu waubwenzi womwe umatiwopseza kwambiri? Kukula modabwitsa kumatha kuchitika.

“Ndikufunikirabe chithandizo. Nditani?"

Awa ndi Openga: Nkhani yolangiza zokambirana moona mtima, mopanda tanthauzo pazokhudza zamisala ndi loya Sam Dylan Finch. Ngakhale sanali wothandizira wotsimikizika, amakhala ndi moyo wathanzi wokhala ndi matenda osokoneza bongo (OCD). Mafunso? Fikirani kudzera pa Instagram ndipo mutha kuwonetsedwa.

Pafupifupi miyezi 6 yapitayo, ndidauza wothandizirayo. Ndimamva ngati kuti sindifunikanso chithandizo chamankhwala, chifukwa chake ndimangokhala ... ndikulipidwa. Zinkawoneka zosavuta panthawiyo kutha kusiyana ndi kukambirana momasuka naye. Mofulumira mpaka pano, komabe, ndipo ndikuganiza kuti ndalakwitsa. Ndikufunikirabe chithandizo, makamaka tsopano ndi mliri womwe ukuchitika. Nditani?

Choyamba, chodzikanira, ndisanayambe kupereka uphungu mosakondera: Chifukwa sindikudziwa zokwanira zaubwenzi womwe mudali nawo ndi othandizira, zomwe ndikugawana pano ndikukuthandizani kuthana ndi momwe mukumvera ndikutsatira njira yowonjezera.

Komabe, ngati wothandizira wanu wachita chilichonse chomwe chingaoneke ngati chosayenera, chosavomerezeka, kapena chovomerezeka, chonde funani chithandizo kunja kwa chibwenzicho.

Kungoganiza, komabe, kuti mudasiya chibwenzi ichi chifukwa mumamva kuti Fixed ™, ndiloleni ndiyambe kunena kuti zomwe mukufotokoza ndi kwambiri zofanananso ndi ine.

Pakhala nthawi zambiri pomwe ndimamva kuti sindifunikiranso wothandizila ( cue up Stronger ndi Britney Spears *), kuti ndidziwe kanthawi kochepa kuti ndikadakhala wofulumira kuchoka.

Achiwerewere.

Zachidziwikire, kupatsirana mzimu sikuli pandandanda wanga wamalingaliro amomwe mungathetsere ubale wamankhwala.

Ndikuganiza kuti othandizira ambiri angakonde kukambirana, pokhapokha mutakhala ndi mtendere wamalingaliro kuti mukadali ndi moyo komanso muli bwino.

Madokotala chitani kusamala za makasitomala awo - {textend} ngakhale omwe ali ndi nkhope zamiyala kwambiri!

Koma ndichifukwa chake ndikuganiza kuti othandizira anu angakhale okondwa kumva kuchokera kwa inu.

Osangotsimikizira kuti mukuyenda bwino (chabwino, kungoyankhula), koma kuti mukhale ndi mwayi wofufuza chifukwa chake chibwenzicho chidatha mwadzidzidzi, komanso momwe angakuthandizireni bwino.

Ndipo inde, pakhoza kukhala zokambirana zochepa zovuta kuzungulira izi. Koma kusowa kwa chithandizo sichinthu choyipa nthawi zonse! Nthawi zina zimatanthauza kuti tikukambirana mozama momwe timayenera kukhalira.

Mwayi wake, siinu nokha kasitomala yemwe watuluka, kungoyambiranso modzumira ndi imelo ya SOS.

Ngati wothandizira wanu ndi wofunika mchere wawo, adzakhala okondwa kukhala ndi mwayi wogwiranso ntchito nanu.

Zingapangitse ubale wanu kukhala wabwinoko nthawi yachiwiri mozungulira, inunso. Chifukwa kuponyera mizimu, ngakhale kungakhale chete, kungakhale ndi zambiri kwa inu ndi othandizira.

Kodi khalidweli ndilofala paubale wapamtima wanu? Kodi panali choyambitsa chomwe chidakupangitsani kuti muthe chibwenzicho, kapena mutu womwe mudayamba kukambirana nawo womwe simunakonzekere kulowa nawo? Ndi zovuta ziti zomwe mumayang'ana kuti mupewe polumpha zokambiranazo?

Osati kuti akusokonezeni maganizo kapena chilichonse (osati ntchito yanga!), Koma izi ndi zinthu zowutsa mudyo zomwe zingakhale zosangalatsa kuzifufuza.

Ena aife (motsimikiza osati ine, ayi!) mosazindikira tingawononge ubale wathu - {textend} inde, ngakhale ndi omwe atithandizira - {textend} nthawi yomwe zinthu zimayamba kukhala zazing'ono.

M'malo modziwonetsera tokha pachiwopsezo chotere, timalumpha sitima. Mofulumira.

Koma tikadzitsegula tokha ku mtundu waubwenzi womwe umatiwopseza kwambiri? Kukula modabwitsa kumatha kuchitika.

Kaya zinali zakudzidalira mopitirira muyeso kapena kuwopa kukondana (kapena zochepa zonse!), Ndizolimbikitsa kwa ine kuti mukulolera kubwerera. Kukhala ndi chiopsezo chotere ndi othandizira kungayambitse kugwirira ntchito limodzi.

Chifukwa chake ndikunena Chitani zomwezo.

Muwombereni imelo kapena imbani foni kuti mupange msonkhano. Muthanso kufotokoza mwachidule, - {textend} ingopemphani kuti muzikambirana naye ndipo musadandaule ndikufotokozera zomwe zidachitika. Mukhala ndi mwayi wosankha "zomwe mwasowa" panthawi yomwe mwasankhidwa.

Kumbukiraninso, kuti mwina sangakhale ndi mwayi wofanana (kapena wina!) Monga kale. Izi sizitanthauza kuti wakukwiyirani kapena muyenera kungomukalipira.

Khalani osinthasintha, ndipo kumbukirani kuti pali nsomba zambiri m'nyanja ngati, pazifukwa zina, sangakwanitse kukhala nanu nthawi ino.

Zabwino zonse!

Sam Dylan Finch ndi mkonzi, wolemba, komanso waluso pazama TV ku San Francisco Bay Area. Iye ndiye mkonzi wamkulu wa thanzi lamisala ndi matenda ku Healthline. Mutha kupereka moni Instagram, Twitter, Facebook, kapena phunzirani zambiri ku SamDylanFinch.com.