Tiyeni Tikhale Ogwirizana: Malangizo 8 a Pamene Matenda Aakulu Akuyamba Kugonana

Zamkati

• 1. Kulankhula mokoma mtima kumathandiza kwambiri
• 2. Pangani 'kuseka
• 3. Kambiranani
• 4. Muzimwetulirana
• 5. Kukondana kwambiri
• 6. Netflix ndi snuggles
• 7. Pitani kokayenda
• 8. Fufuzanani

Wina akati mawu akuti chibwenzi, nthawi zambiri amakhala mawu achinsinsi ogonana. Koma kuganiza ngati izi kumasiya njira zomwe mungakhalire ndi mnzanu popanda "kupita kutali". Zachisoni, kuchepa kwaubwenzi makamaka kwa anthu omwe ali ndi matenda osachiritsika. Ndipo ndikhulupirireni, monga munthu wodziwika kuti "thupi" yemwe amakhala ndi matenda angapo osachiritsika, ndikudziwa momwe zimakhalira zokhumudwitsa.

Mu ntchito yanga yowunika zogonana komanso maubale kwa anthu omwe ali ndi matenda osatha, ndapeza kuti pali kuthekera kwakukhumudwitsidwa kwamkati mkati mwa maubwenzi okondana komanso kugonana. Koma kwenikweni, ndimatha kungoyang'ana ubale wanga ngati umboni.

Nditakumana ndi mkazi kapena mwamuna wanga, mwachitsanzo, tinali achiwerewere AKA nthawi zambiri. Tidakondana kwathunthu m'njira yoti ophunzira aku koleji okha ndi omwe angakhale.Pamene timakula, matenda anga osadwaladwala adakulirakulira. Ndinakulira matenda a mphumu komanso matenda a ana, koma pamapeto pake ndinapezeka kuti ndili ndi fibromyalgia, kukhumudwa, nkhawa, komanso kupsinjika pambuyo povulala. Mulingo wa zolimbitsa thupi zomwe kale tinali nazo sizinali zomwe tingakwanitse kuchita nthawi zonse, ngakhale titafuna. Panali nthawi zina zomwe sindimatha kugwira dzanja la mamuna wanga chifukwa cha kuwawa, chifukwa china chake chomwe sichimayenera kupweteka, ndichachisoni.

Tinayenera kuphunzira kulumikizana mobwerezabwereza chifukwa cha izi. Ndichinthu chomwe tikugwirirabe ntchito limodzi, tsiku ndi tsiku. Sizophweka, koma ndizofunika. Izi ndi zina mwazomwe timakonda kwambiri kuti tisunge zinthu zakugonana pomwe kulibe:

1. Kulankhula mokoma mtima kumathandiza kwambiri

Monga munthu wokhala ndi matenda osachiritsika, ndimagwira ntchito kunyumba komanso kwa ine ndekha. Komanso sindimatuluka nthawi zonse kukachita zinthu zomwe ndikanakonda. Nthawi zina sindimatha kuchoka panyumba pathu. Chimodzi mwazinthu zabwino kwambiri zomwe amuna anga amachita nthawi ndi nthawi ndikungoima ndikunyamula maswiti omwe ndimakonda kwambiri akamapita kwawo. Ndizokumbutsa kuti akundiganizira ndipo akudziwa kuti china chake chaching'ono chingandipangitse kuti ndikhale bwino.

2. Pangani 'kuseka

Kupeza njira zosekera ndikupeza nthabwala m'moyo ndikofunikira kuthana ndi matenda ndi zowawa, ndipo kumakuthandizani kuyandikira pafupi ndi mnzanu.

Imodzi mwa nthawi zomwe ndimakonda ndi pamene tili pabedi ndipo sitigona tulo koma tonse ndife oledzera chifukwa timaseka kwambiri. Chibwenzi chotere chimathandiza kwambiri munthu amene akudwala matenda osachiritsika. Mwamuna wanga ndi mfumu ya puns, chifukwa chake zimathandizanso.

3. Kambiranani

Kulankhulana sikophweka nthawi zonse, ndipo izi zimachitika makamaka ngati mukudwala, kupweteka, kapena kulumala. Komabe, kulankhulana moona mtima ndikofunikira kwambiri kuti mukhalebe pachibwenzi ndikuonetsetsa kuti mutha kupeza njira yomvetserana zowawa, mphamvu, zokhumba, ndi zina zambiri.

Mwamuna wanga ndi ine tidayeneradi kuyesetsa kulumikizana kwathu kuti tizikhala limodzi nthawi yayitali. Ndikofunikira kwa aliyense, koma makamaka kwa ife omwe tikulimbana ndi matenda kapena zowawa.

4. Muzimwetulirana

Ayi, mozama. Kumwetulira mnzanu. Kafukufuku wasonyeza kuti mukamwetulira, kugunda kwa mtima wanu kumatsika, kupuma kwanu kumatsika, ndipo thupi lanu limakhazikika. Zinthu izi limodzi zitha kukuthandizani kuchepetsa nkhawa. Ngati mnzanu akudwala matenda osachiritsika, tangoganizirani momwe kumwetulira mwachangu kumawachitira.

5. Kukondana kwambiri

Kukondana kwamalingaliro ndiko, m'malingaliro mwanga, kutalika kwaubwenzi. Titha kukhala okondana ndi anthu, koma osakhudzidwa. Ngati kulumikizana kwamalingaliro kumakhudzidwa, komabe, zimatengera maubwenzi pamwambamwamba. Zitha kupanga kulumikizana kwambiri ndikuthandizira kukonza maluso olumikizirana. Masewera ngati Mafunso 21, Kodi Mungakonde ?, ndi Never Have I Ever ndi njira zabwino zophunzirira za wina ndi mnzake ndikulumikizana mozama, mwamalingaliro.

6. Netflix ndi snuggles

"Netflix ndi kuzizira" sizomwe timafunikira nthawi zonse. Komabe, kukumbatirana ndi mabulangete, mapilo, ndi zakudya zanu zomwe mumakonda ndikuwonera kanema limodzi zitha kukhala zolimbikitsa kwambiri, ngakhale mnzanu akumenyera nkhondo.

7. Pitani kokayenda

Ma Adventures ndi maulendo ali ndi njira yabwino kwambiri yolimbikitsira kukondana, ziribe kanthu yemwe muli naye. Ndimakonda kuyenda komanso nthawi zambiri ndimatero ndikamagwira ntchito. Komabe, chimodzi mwazinthu zomwe ndimakonda kwambiri ndikupita ndi amuna anga. Zimatipangitsa ife tonse kufufuza malo atsopano, kudzifufuza tokha, ndi kuthandizana wina ndi mnzake mu kufufuza kumeneko.

8. Fufuzanani

Kugonana kwenikweni sikuti kumangokhudza zogonana zokha. Nthawi zina zina zanthawi zoyandikana kwambiri zimaphatikizapo zinthu monga kuzembera, kutikita minofu, kusewera ndi tsitsi, kupsompsona, ndi zina zambiri.

Gulu lathu limakhulupirira kuti kugonana kwamtundu uliwonse ayenera kutha mwachisangalalo. Komabe, izi sizowona. Kugonana kumatha kukhala ndipo ndizochulukirapo. Kufufuza madera ochititsa chidwi kapena malo omwe angakusangalatseni limodzi kungakhale kosangalatsa komanso kosangalatsa!

A Kirsten Schultz ndi wolemba wochokera ku Wisconsin omwe amatsutsa zikhalidwe zogonana komanso jenda. Kudzera pantchito yake ngati matenda osachiritsika komanso womenyera anthu olumala, ali ndi mbiri yothetsa zopinga kwinaku akuyambitsa mavuto. Kirsten posachedwa adakhazikitsa Kugonana Kwachisawawa, komwe kumafotokoza poyera momwe matenda ndi chilema zimakhudzira ubale wathu ndi ife eni komanso ena, kuphatikiza - mudaganizira - zogonana! Mutha kudziwa zambiri za Kirsten ndi Kugonana Kwachilendo ku chronicsex.org.