Tiye Tikambirane Za Kutsamwirana Pogonana

Zamkati

• Kodi Erotic Asphyxiation N'chiyani?
• N'chifukwa Chiyani Anthu Amakonda Kutsamwirana Panthawi Yogonana?
• The Physiological Aspect
• Psychological Aspect
• Kodi Kukhumudwa Nthawi Yogonana Kumakhala Kotetezeka?
• Momwe Mungaphatikizire Kutsamira Mu Moyo Wanu Wogonana
• Gawo 1: Dziwani momwe thupi lanu limakhalira.
• Gawo 2: Kuvomereza kale, nthawi, komanso pambuyo.
• Gawo 3: Kulankhulana malire.
• Gawo 4: Khalani ndi malingaliro abwino.
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Ngati lingaliro la dzanja la wina pakhosi panu - kapena mosemphanitsa - likakusandutsani, ndiye landirani. Kutsamwa panthawi yogonana si kink yatsopano. Si chinthu chachilendo chomwe palibe amene adaganizapo. Koma yatchuka kwambiri (kapena kulowa nawo pagulu) mwanjira ina chifukwa cha zomwe zidachitika mu Disembala 2019 ndi New Jersey wazaka khumi ndi zisanu ndi zinayi yemwe adamwalira mwangozi akuchita ndi wosewera naye.

Mosiyana ndi ma kinks ena monga kumangidwa kwa zingwe ndi kuseweretsa phazi, kutsamwitsa kumabwera ndi zoopsa zazikulu. Kuchita zimenezi kumachotsera munthu mpweya wake, ndipo zimenezi zimabweretsa udindo waukulu. Njira yabwino yophunzirira kutsamwitsa panthawi yogonana, ngati mutasankha kuchitapo kanthu, ndikumvetsetsa kuopsa kwake ndikuchita zonse zomwe mungathe kuti mudziphunzitse momwe mungaphatikizire mosamala.

Apa, othandizira zachiwerewere amagawana zonse zomwe mungafune kuti muzitsamwitsa panthawi yogonana mosatekeseka - chifukwa kugonana motetezeka ndiko kugonana kodziwitsa. Tiyeni tiwone momwe chidwi chimakhalira ndikutsamwa panthawi yogonana komanso mfundo zina zofunika kuzikumbukira musanapereke mwayi.

Kodi Erotic Asphyxiation N'chiyani?

Choking ndi mtundu wa kupsinjika kwaukazitape (EA) kapena kupumira komwe kumatha kuchitika mukamayimba kapena mukamagonana (mukamaliza solo, amatchedwa autoerotic asphyxiation). "Kusewera kwa mpweya kumaphatikizapo kudula mpweya kwa inu, wokondedwa wanu, kapena nonse panthawi yogonana," akutero katswiri wa zachiwerewere ndi psychotherapist, Kristie Overstreet, Ph.D. Ndiko kuletsa mwadala mpweya wopita ku ubongo kuti usangalale ndi kugonana.

Kutsamwa panthawi yogonana ndi imodzi mwanjira zambiri zopumira. Mitundu ina ndi yotsina mphuno, kutseka pakamwa, ndi kugwira mpweya. Masewera apumulo (amitundu yonse) amagwera pansi pa ambulera yamasewera - chilichonse chogonana chomwe chingathe kuvulaza kwambiri.

N'chifukwa Chiyani Anthu Amakonda Kutsamwirana Panthawi Yogonana?

"Kusewera kwa mpweya kungayambitse kudzutsidwa kwakukulu," akutero katswiri wodziwa kugonana komanso katswiri wa ubale, Ashley Grinonneau-Denton, Ph.D. Zomwe zimapangitsa munthu kukhala wodzuka zimasiyanasiyana chifukwa pali milingo yocheperako yomwe muyenera kuganizira.

The Physiological Aspect

Kimberly Resnick Anderson, katswiri wodziwitsa anthu za kugonana komanso wothandizira pulofesa wa zamisala ku UCLA David Geffen School of Medicine. "Izi zitha kupangitsa kuti pakhale dziko lodziwika bwino koma la theka la hallucinogenic." Kuperewera kwa mpweya wofikira kuubongo kumapangitsa zomwe odwala ake amamufanizira ndikumazimiririka ndikukhala osangalala ndikusangalala, akutero.

Kenako, "mpweya ukangobwerera, thupi limatuluka, kwenikweni," akutero a Grinonneau-Denton. "Kutulutsa kumeneku kumalumikizidwa ndi kutulutsa kwa dopamine ndi serotonin [ma neurotransmitters awiri] omwe nthawi zambiri amatha kubweretsa chisangalalo chosangalatsa pamene thupi limagwira ntchito kuti lipezenso mpweya wake wakale." (Zindikirani: Onse amakhalanso kumbuyo kwanu kochita masewera olimbitsa thupi kwambiri.) Ubongo umatenga ululu wokhudzana ndi kugonana ndikumasulira kubwereranso ku thupi ngati chisangalalo. Chifukwa, kwenikweni, zowawa ndi zosangalatsa zimayendetsa mbali zofananira zaubongo zomwe zimagwirizanitsidwa ndi kuyambitsa dopamine.

Psychological Aspect

Palinso gawo lamasewera amphamvu. "Mchitidwe wogonana woterewu umafuna kukhulupirirana kwambiri kuchokera kwa mnzake wogonjerayo," akutero a Grinonneau-Denton. Kutha kuwongolera kapena kuwongolera okondedwa anu kumatha kumasula. Ikhozanso kuwonetsa chiopsezo chachikulu. (Chotsatira: Kuwongolera kwa BDSM kwa Oyamba)

Chifukwa chomwe wina atha kutsamwitsidwa kungakhale chimodzi mwazinthu izi kapena kuphatikiza kwa izo. "Ndikofunikira kukumbukira kuti aliyense amatenga nawo mbali pazifukwa zosiyanasiyana komanso zodandaula," akutero Overstreet. Kuyambira kukhudzika kwa thupi mpaka kukopana ndi imfa, chifukwa chomwe wina amasangalalira kutsamwitsidwa panthawi yogonana ndi chamunthu, monganso chilakolako chilichonse chogonana.

Kodi Kukhumudwa Nthawi Yogonana Kumakhala Kotetezeka?

"Kusewera kosangalatsa kwa mpweya kumatha kukhala koopsa kwambiri, nthawi," akutero Grinonneau-Denton. "Chitetezo ndi kuvomereza ndizofunikira nthawi zonse. Ndipo pankhani yoletsa mpweya, chinthu chomwe tonsefe timafunikira kuti tipulumuke ndikupitirizabe kukhala ndi moyo, zitsulo sizikhala zochepa."

Palibe njira yodziwira zoopsa zomwe zimachitika pokakamira. Chifukwa chake ndikofunikira kuti mudziwe zomwe mukudzilowetsa musanayambe kuyesa.

Zindikirani: Kuzindikira ndikumvetsetsa kuopsa kochita zogonana sikufanana ndi kuchita manyazi wina ndi mnzake pofotokoza zomwe akufuna. Ngati kukakamira panthawi yogonana ndichinthu chomwe mukufuna kudziwa, mwa njira zonse, chitani - koma chitani mosamala.

Momwe Mungaphatikizire Kutsamira Mu Moyo Wanu Wogonana

Polankhula zakufufuza njira yakutsamwa bwinobwino, Nazi njira zina zomwe mungachitire izi.

Gawo 1: Dziwani momwe thupi lanu limakhalira.

"Ngakhale khosi silinapangidwe kuti likhale lopepuka, kupanikizika kwambiri kumatha kuwononga kwambiri ngati simunaphunzitsidwe pazomwe mukuchita mthupi," akutero a Grinonneau-Denton. Kudziphunzitsa nokha za kapangidwe ka khosi kungakuthandizeni kudziwa kuti ndi ziti zomwe zili zotetezeka komanso momwe mungagwiritsire ntchito kukakamiza.

Pali ziwalo zina zofunika kwambiri m'thupi zomwe zimadutsa m'khosi kapena molunjika m'khosi, kuphatikizapo msana, zingwe zamawu, gawo la kholingo, mitsempha yotupa yomwe imatulutsa magazi kumaso, khosi, ndi ubongo, ndi mitsempha ya carotid yomwe imapereka magazi kumutu ndi m'khosi.

Ziribe kanthu ngati mukugwiritsa ntchito manja, maubwenzi, kapena zoletsa zina, ndibwino kuti muzichita masewera olimbitsa thupi ngati munthu wodziwa zambiri. Poterepa, adadziwitsidwa za kutuluka kwa khosi. "Pewani kupanikizika kwachindunji ku trachea [mphepo yamkuntho] ndikugwiritsanso ntchito kukakamiza m'mbali mwa khosi," akutero Anderson. (Zogwirizana: Zoseweretsa Zabwino Kwambiri Zogonana Ngati Mukufuna Kuyesa BDSM)

Anderson akuwonetsa kulumikizana ndi katswiri mdera la BDSM pa nsanja monga Fetlife. Wina amene akudziwa bwino za mchitidwewu ndipo ali wokhoza (ndi wokonzeka) kukuwonetsani momwe mungagwiritsire ntchito kukakamiza popanda chiopsezo chochepa.

Gawo 2: Kuvomereza kale, nthawi, komanso pambuyo.

"Musaganize za kusewera kwa mpweya popanda chilolezo kuchokera kumagulu onse," akutero Overstreet. Chivomerezo chiyenera kukhala m'malingaliro mwako nthawi yonseyo; kamodzi sikokwanira. Izi zikuphatikiza kufunsa musanapange mpweya wopumira ngati kutsamwa, komanso kuwona komwe mukuwonaku kuti muwone momwe nonse mumamvera.

Aliyense amene akutenga nawo mbali amatha kunena zomwe zikuchitika. Musaganize kuti chifukwa panali chilolezo pachiyambi kapena nthawi yoyamba kuti padzakhala chilolezo pazochitika zonse kapena nthawi iliyonse. (Nazi zomwe chilolezo chimaphatikizira ndi momwe mungafunsere bwino - musanachitike komanso mukamachita zachiwerewere.)

Gawo 3: Kulankhulana malire.

"Onetsetsani kuti mumatha kulankhula, kulankhula momveka bwino, ndi kumvetsera mwachidwi," akutero Overstreet. Muyenera kukhala omasuka mokwanira ndi mnzanuyo kuti mupange ndikufotokozera malire anu, kuphatikiza zonena komanso zopanda mawu. Ndipo akuyenera kukhala omasuka kupanga ndikulankhula chimodzimodzi nanu. Aliyense ayenera kukhala pamlingo womwewo asanachite masewera amtundu wa mpweya ngati kutsamwitsa.

"Osangokhala mawu otetezeka, komanso 'kuyenda kotetezeka' monga kupanga chizindikiro chamtendere ndi dzanja kapena kupondaponda / kumenya phazi kanayi," akutero Anderson. Mukamaletsa kupuma kwa wina, zomwe mungachite (zotetezeka) zitha kukhala zothandiza.

Kulankhula ndi kumvetsera kwa wokondedwa wanu kumapangitsa kuti mukhalepo. Mutha kumvetsetsa bwino zomwe mumakonda ndi zomwe mumakonda, zomwe amakonda ndi zomwe sakonda, ndikupanga mawonekedwe otetezeka mozungulira.

Gawo 4: Khalani ndi malingaliro abwino.

Mukufuna kupezeka (komanso osakwiya) momwe mungathere kuti zidziwitso zanu zikhale zotetezeka komanso zosangalatsa momwe zingathere. Komanso, kuvomereza mokakamizidwa sikuloleza kwenikweni. Anderson anati: Ngati mukufuna kuchita chizolowezi chogonana, siyani mowa ndi mankhwala osokoneza bongo, kuti mukhale otetezeka komanso anzanu.

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