Chinthu Chabwino Kwambiri Chimene Bambo Anga Anandiphunzitsa Chinali Kukhala Momwemo Popanda Iye
Zamkati
Abambo anga anali ndi umunthu waukulu. Anali wokonda komanso wowoneka bwino, amalankhula ndi manja ake, komanso amaseka ndi thupi lake lonse. Sanathe kukhala pansi. Anali munthu amene analowa mchipinda ndipo aliyense amadziwa kuti anali komweko. Anali wokoma mtima komanso wosamala, koma nthawi zambiri samayang'aniridwa. Amalankhula ndi aliyense ndi aliyense, ndikuwasiya akumwetulira… kapena kudabwitsidwa.
Ali mwana, ankadzaza nyumba yathu munthawi zabwino komanso zovuta. Amayankhula m'mawu oseketsa patebulo la chakudya chamadzulo komanso pagalimoto. Adasiyanso mauthenga odabwitsa komanso oseketsa pa voicemail yanga yakuntchito nditapeza ntchito yanga yoyamba yosintha. Ndikulakalaka ndikadamvetsera kwa iwo tsopano.
Anali mwamuna wokhulupirika komanso wodzipereka kwa amayi anga. Anali bambo wachikondi modabwitsa kwa mchimwene wanga, mlongo wanga, ndi ine. Chikondi chake pamasewera chidatikhudza tonsefe, ndipo chidatithandizira kutilumikizitsa mwakuya. Titha kuyankhula zamasewera kwa maola angapo kumapeto, malingaliro, makochi, ma Ref, ndi zonse zomwe zili pakati. Izi mosakayikira zidabweretsa zokambirana za sukulu, nyimbo, ndale, chipembedzo, ndalama, ndi zibwenzi. Tidatsutsana ndi malingaliro athu osiyanasiyana. Nthawi zambiri zokambirana izi zimatha munthu wina akakuwa. Ankadziwa kukankha mabatani anga, ndipo mwamsanga ndinaphunzira kukankha ake.
Zoposa zoperekera
Bambo anga analibe digiri ya kukoleji. Iye anali wogulitsa (kugulitsa ma accounting peg board system, omwe tsopano satha ntchito) yemwe amapereka moyo wapakatikati kubanja langa kwathunthu pantchito. Izi zimandidabwitsabe mpaka pano.
Ntchito yake idamupatsa mwayi wokhala ndi nthawi yosinthasintha, zomwe zimatanthauza kuti atha kupezeka akamaliza sukulu ndikupanga zochitika zathu zonse. Galimoto yathu ikukwera masewera a softball ndi basketball tsopano ndizokumbukira zofunika: bambo anga ndi ine basi, tikucheza kwambiri kapena kuimba limodzi ndi nyimbo zake. Ndikutsimikiza kuti ine ndi mlongo wanga tinali atsikana okhaokha azaka za m'ma 90 omwe timadziwa nyimbo iliyonse ya Rolling Stones pa tepi yawo yayikulu. "Simungapeze Zomwe Mukufuna Nthawi Zonse" zimandifikirabe nthawi iliyonse ndikazimva.
Chinthu chabwino kwambiri chomwe iwo ndi amayi anga adandiphunzitsa ndikuyamikira moyo ndikuyamikira anthu omwe ali mmenemo. Kuthokoza kwawo - kukhala ndi moyo, komanso chikondi - kudalembedwa mwa ife koyambirira. Abambo anga nthawi zina amalankhula zakulembetsedwa kunkhondo ya Vietnam ali ndi zaka zoyambirira za 20, ndipo amayenera kusiya bwenzi lake (amayi anga) kumbuyo. Sanaganize kuti angabweretse nyumba yamoyo. Anamva kuti anali ndi mwayi wokhala ku Japan akugwira ntchito ngati dokotala, ngakhale kuti ntchito yake inali yolemba mbiri ya zamankhwala kwa asirikali ovulala ndikuzindikira omwe adaphedwa kunkhondo.
Sindinamvetsetse momwe izi zidamukhudzira mpaka masabata angapo omaliza a moyo wake.
Makolo anga adakwatirana bambo anga atangomaliza kumene ntchito yawo yankhondo. Pafupifupi zaka 10 ali m'banja, adakumbukiridwanso za nthawi yawo pamodzi pomwe mayi anga adapezeka ndi khansa ya m'mawere ya siteji 3 ali ndi zaka 35. Ndili ndi ana atatu ochepera zaka zisanu ndi zinayi, izi zidawakhumudwitsa. Pambuyo pochita ziwalo ziwiri ndikulandira chithandizo, amayi anga adakhala zaka 26.
Mtundu wa shuga wa 2 umawononga
Zaka zingapo pambuyo pake, amayi anga ali ndi zaka 61, khansara yake idasinthidwa, ndipo adamwalira. Izi zidaswa mtima wa abambo anga. Ankaganiza kuti amwalira asanamwalire ndi matenda a shuga amtundu wa 2, omwe adayamba nawo mzaka zapakati pa makumi anayi.
Pazaka 23 atapezeka kuti ali ndi matenda a shuga, abambo anga adakwanitsa izi ndi mankhwala komanso insulin, koma adapewa kusintha kadyedwe kake. Anakhalanso ndi matenda a kuthamanga kwa magazi, omwe nthawi zambiri amayamba chifukwa cha matenda ashuga osalamulirika. Matenda ashuga amawononga thupi lake pang'onopang'ono, zomwe zimamupangitsa kuti asadwale matenda ashuga (omwe amawononga mitsempha) komanso matenda a shuga (omwe amachititsa kuti asamawoneke). Zaka 10 atadwala, impso zake zidayamba kulephera.
Chaka chimodzi atamwalira mayi anga, adadutsa kanayi, ndipo adapulumuka zaka zitatu. Munthawi imeneyi, amakhala maola anayi patsiku akulandira dialysis, mankhwala omwe ndi ofunikira kuti mupulumuke impso zanu zikapanda kugwira ntchito.
Zaka zingapo zapitazi za moyo wa abambo anga zinali zovuta kuchitira umboni. Chomvetsa chisoni kwambiri chinali kuwonera ena a pizzazz ndi mphamvu zake zikutha. Ndinayamba kuyesetsa kuti ndiziyenda naye mofulumira kuyenda m'malo oimika magalimoto kuti ndimukankhe pa njinga ya olumala popita kulikonse komwe kungafune masitepe ochepa.
Kwa nthawi yayitali, ndimadzifunsa ngati zonse zomwe tikudziwa lero zakukhudzidwa kwa matenda ashuga zimadziwika atamupeza mzaka za m'ma 80, akadadzisamalira yekha? Kodi akanakhala ndi moyo zaka zambiri? Mwina ayi. Ine ndi abale anga tinkayesetsa kwambiri kuti bambo anga asinthe kadyedwe ndi kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi, koma sizinathandize. Poyang'ana m'mbuyo, zinali zosatheka. Adakhala moyo wake wonse - komanso zaka zambiri ali ndi matenda ashuga - osasintha, ndiye bwanji akadayamba mwadzidzidzi?
Masabata omaliza
Masabata angapo omaliza a moyo wake adandidziwitsira izi za iye. Matenda a shuga m'mapazi ake adawononga kwambiri kotero kuti phazi lake lamanzere lidafuna kuti adulidwe. Ndikukumbukira kuti adandiyang'ana nati, "Ayi, Cath. Musalole kuti achite. Mwayi wa 12% wachachira ndi gulu la B.S. ”
Koma ngati tikakana opareshoniyo, akanakhala akumva kupweteka kwambiri m'masiku otsala a moyo wake. Sitingalole izi. Komabe ndimavutikabe mtima ndikuti adataya phazi kuti apulumuke milungu ingapo.
Asanachite opareshoni, adatembenukira kwa ine nati, "Ndikapanda kutuluka pano, usatulutse thukuta mwana. Mukudziwa, ndi gawo la moyo. Moyo umapitilira."
Ndinkafuna kukuwa, "Limenelo ndi gulu la B.S."
Atadulidwa, bambo anga adakhala sabata kuchipatala akuchira, koma sanasinthe mokwanira kuti abwerere kwawo. Anasamutsidwa kupita kumalo osamalira odwala. Masiku ake anali ovuta. Anamaliza kukhala ndi bala loipa kumbuyo kwake lomwe linadwala MRSA. Ndipo ngakhale anali kukulirakulira, anapitiliza kulandira dialysis kwa masiku angapo.
Munthawi imeneyi, nthawi zambiri amabweretsa "anyamata osauka omwe adataya ziwalo ndikukhala mu 'nam." Amanenanso za mwayi womwe anali nawo kukumana ndi amayi anga komanso momwe "sakanatha kudikira kuti adzawaonenso." Nthawi zina, wopambana wa iye amakhoza kunyezimira, ndipo amandipangitsa ine kuseka pansi monga onse anali bwino.
"Ndi bambo anga"
Patangotsala masiku ochepa kuti bambo anga amwalire, madokotala awo anawalangiza kuti ndi njira yabwino kwambiri yothetsera matenda a dialysis. Ngakhale kutero kutha kutha kwa moyo wake, tinavomera. Momwemonso bambo anga. Podziwa kuti watsala pang'ono kumwalira, ine ndi abale anga tidayesetsa zolankhula zabwino ndikuwonetsetsa kuti azachipatala achita zonse zotheka kuti akhale omasuka.
“Titha kumusunthanso pabedi? Mungamupezere madzi ena? Kodi tingamuwonjezereko mankhwala a ululu? ” tifunsa. Ndikukumbukira wothandizira namwino atandiimitsa panjira yapanja pa chipinda cha abambo anga kuti, "Ndikukuwuza kuti umamukonda kwambiri."
“Inde. Ndi bambo anga. "
Koma yankho lake lakhala ndi ine kuyambira pano. “Ndikudziwa kuti ndi bambo ako. Koma ndikudziwa kuti ndi munthu wapadera kwambiri kwa inu. " Ndinayamba kubwebweta.
Sindikudziwa kwenikweni kuti ndipita bwanji popanda bambo anga. Mwanjira zina, kufa kwake kunabweretsanso zowawa za kutaya amayi anga, ndikundikakamiza kuti ndizindikire kuti onse apita, kuti palibe m'modzi mwa iwo amene adakwanitsa kupitilira zaka 60. Onsewa sakanatha kunditsogolera kudzera muubereki. Onsewa sanadziwepo ana anga.
Koma bambo anga, molingana ndi umunthu wawo, adapereka malingaliro ena.
Masiku angapo asanamwalire, ndinkangomufunsa ngati akusowa kalikonse komanso ngati ali bwino. Anandidula mawu, nati, “Tamvera. Inu, mlongo wanu, ndi mchimwene wanu simuli bwino, sichoncho? ”
Anabwereza funsoli kangapo ndikuwoneka ngati wasimidwa. Mphindi yomweyo, ndinazindikira kuti kusakhala womasuka ndikuyang'anizana ndi imfa sizinali nkhawa zake. Chomwe chidamuopsa kwambiri ndikusiya ana ake - ngakhale tidali achikulire - opanda makolo owayang'anira.
Mwadzidzidzi, ndinamvetsetsa kuti zomwe amafunikira kwambiri sizinali zoti nditsimikizire kuti ali omasuka, koma kuti ndimutsimikizire kuti tidzakhala ndi moyo nthawi zonse atamwalira. Kuti sitingalole kuti imfa yake itilepheretse kukhala moyo wathu wonse. Kuti, ngakhale panali zovuta pamoyo, kaya nkhondo kapena matenda kapena kutayika, timatsatira chitsogozo chake ndi amayi athu ndikupitiliza kusamalira ana athu momwe timadziwira. Kuti tikhala othokoza chifukwa cha moyo komanso chikondi. Kuti titha kupeza zoseketsa munthawi zonse, ngakhale mdima wandiweyani. Kuti tikhoza kumenyana ndi B.S. pamodzi.
Ndipamene ndidaganiza zosiya "Mukuyenda bwino?" kuyankhula, ndipo analimba mtima kuti, "Inde, Bambo. Tikhala bwino. "
Ataoneka mwamtendere, ndinapitiliza kuti, “Munatiphunzitsa momwe tingakhalire. Palibe vuto kusiya tsopano. "
Cathy Cassata ndi wolemba pawokha yemwe amalemba za thanzi, thanzi lam'mutu, komanso machitidwe amunthu pazinthu zosiyanasiyana zofalitsa ndi mawebusayiti. Amathandizira pafupipafupi ku Healthline, Dailyday Health, ndi The Fix. Onani mbiri yake ndikumutsata pa Twitter pa @Cassatastyle.
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