Njira zisanu zokuthandizani kuthana ndi chisoni

Zamkati

• Magawo akulu olira
• 1. Kukana ndi kudzipatula
• 2. Mkwiyo
• 3. Mgwirizano
• 4. Matenda okhumudwa
• 5. Kulandila
• Momwe mungathetsere kulira
• Momwe mungathanirane ndi chisoni cha ana
• Nthawi yoti mupite kwa wama psychologist kapena psychiatrist

Chisoni ndimayendedwe amomwe munthu amazunzikira, omwe amachitika pambuyo poti kulumikizana kwamphamvu kwatha, kaya ndi munthu, nyama, chinthu kapena zabwino zina, monga ntchito.

Kuyankha kwakutayika kumasiyana mosiyanasiyana malinga ndi munthu, kotero palibe nthawi yeniyeni yodziwira kutalika kwa kulira kwa munthu aliyense. Komabe, American Psychiatric Association yatanthauzira magawo ena kuti athandizire kuzunzika kwa matenda, komwe kulibe thanzi ndipo kuyenera kuthandizidwa.

Momwe munthu aliyense amamvera chisoni zimadalira pazinthu zingapo, monga ubale womwe anali nawo ndi womwalirayo, mtundu wabanja kapena kuthandizira pagulu komanso umunthu wa munthu aliyense.

Magawo akulu olira

Njira yachisoni ndiyosiyana kwambiri ndi munthu wina kupita kwina, chifukwa chake pali njira zingapo zofotokozera zakumva zomwe zimadza chifukwa cha imfa komanso imfa. Komabe, ndizofala kuti njira yachisoni igawidwe magawo 5:

1. Kukana ndi kudzipatula

Mukalandira nkhani yoti wina kapena wina amene mudalumikizana naye kwambiri watayika, ndizotheka kuti, poyamba, munthuyo samakhulupirira nkhaniyo, kukhala wokhoza kuwona momwe akukaniridwira.

Izi zitha kuperekedwanso ndikuchoka kwa anthu ena, zomwe nthawi zambiri zimathandiza kuchepetsa kupweteka komanso zovuta zina zomwe zimadza chifukwa cha mtundu uwu.

2. Mkwiyo

Gawo lachiwiri, munthuyo atakana kuti mwambowu uchitike, kukwiya kumabuka, komwe kumatha kutsatiridwa ndi zizindikilo zina monga kulira kosalekeza komanso kukwiya kosavuta, ngakhale ndi abwenzi komanso abale. Pangakhalebe kusakhazikika komanso kuda nkhawa.

3. Mgwirizano

Pambuyo pakumva kupsa mtima ndi kukwiya, sizachilendo kuti munthuyo apitilize kukhala ndi zovuta zina kuti avomereze zenizeni, chifukwa chake, atha kuyesa kufikira mgwirizano kuti atuluke momwe akukumana nazo. Pakadali pano, munthuyo atha kuyesayesa kupanga mgwirizano ndi Mulungu, kuti zonse zibwerere momwe zidalili kale.

Makambitsidwe amtunduwu amasiyana munthu ndi munthu ndipo nthawi zambiri amachitika mosazindikira, pokhapokha ngati mukutsatiridwa ndi wama psychologist kapena psychiatrist.

4. Matenda okhumudwa

Mchigawo chino munthuyu akuyamba kuzolowera vutoli, chifukwa chake, atha kukhala ndi malingaliro a kuchepa, kusowa chitetezo, kupweteka ndi kusilira.

Pakadali pano pomwe munthu amayamba kuzindikira zenizeni zenizeni ndipo zomwe zachitika sizingathetsedwe. Ndipamene pano kuti kutsatiridwa ndi katswiri wazamisala akulimbikitsidwa kuti athandizire kuzolowera zenizeni zatsopano, kuti alowe mgulu lomaliza la maliro.

5. Kulandila

Ili ndiye gawo lomaliza lakumva chisoni, momwe munthu amayamba kuyambiranso zizolowezi zomwe anali nazo zisanachitike zomwe zidapangitsa kuti atayike, ndikuyambiranso zomwe amachita tsiku ndi tsiku. Kuyambira pano ndiye kuti munthuyo amapezanso mwayi wocheza ndi abwenzi komanso abale.

Momwe mungathetsere kulira

Kumwalira kwa wokondedwa ndichinthu chomwe chimachitika m'miyoyo ya pafupifupi aliyense ndipo chimatsagana ndi malingaliro ndi malingaliro ambiri. Njira zina zomwe zingathandize panthawiyi ndi izi:

1. Tengani nthawi yoyenera: anthu onse ndi osiyana ndipo amakumana ndi chochitika chimodzimodzi munjira inayake. Mwanjira imeneyi, palibe nthawi yomwe imasankha nthawi yomwe wina ayenera kumva bwino. Chofunikira ndikuti munthu aliyense azichita izi mosiyanasiyana, osakakamizidwa;
2. Phunzirani kuvomereza kupweteka ndi kutayika: munthu ayenera kupewa kufunafuna njira zina zokhalira ndi nthawi komanso malingaliro, popeza kupewa kuganizira za momwe zinthu ziliri, kugwiritsa ntchito kapena kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi, mwachitsanzo, kumatha kumaliza kuletsa kulira ndikuchulukitsa kuvutikako;
3. Fotokozani zomwe mukumva: sizikulimbikitsidwa kuti muchepetse zomwe mukumva panthawi yachisoni, chifukwa chake, tikulimbikitsidwa kufotokoza zomwe mukumva. Sitiyenera kuchita manyazi kapena mantha kulira, kukuwa kapena kuyankhula ndi anthu ena omwe ndimayandikana nawo kapena katswiri wazamisala kapena wazamisala, mwachitsanzo;
4. Lowani nawo gulu lothandizira: iyi ndi njira yabwino kwa iwo omwe safuna kuchita magawo aliwonse ndi akatswiri. M'maguluwa, anthu angapo omwe akukumana ndi zofananazi amalankhula zakumva kwawo komanso zomwe akumana nazo zitha kuthandiza ena;
5. Zungulirani ndi okondedwa anu: kucheza ndi anthu omwe mumawakonda komanso omwe ali ndi nkhani zofananira zogawana, kumathandizira njira yolira, makamaka ngati ili yokhudzana ndi munthuyo, nyama kapena chinthu chomwe chatayika.

Kuphatikiza pa njirazi, nthawi zonse imakhala njira yabwino kukaonana ndi katswiri, monga wama psychologist kapena psychiatrist, yemwe azitha kuwunika mlanduwu ndikupatsanso njira zina zokuthandizani kuthana ndi chisoni.

Momwe mungathanirane ndi chisoni cha ana

Kuyenera kufotokozera mwana kuti winawake wapadera wadutsa sichinthu chophweka, komabe, pali njira zina zomwe zingathandize kuti njirayi ikhale yosavuta komanso yopweteka, monga:

• Nenani zoona: kubisa zina kumatha kupangitsa kumva chisoni ndikumva kuwawa komanso kusokoneza, chifukwa mwanayo sangapeze tanthauzo pazomwe zikuchitika;
• Fotokozani zoyenda ndi malingaliro: iyi ndi njira yosonyezera kuti mwanayo amathanso kumva momwe akumvera ndikuti ichi ndichinthu chachilendo;
• Musafunse wina kuti: makolo nthawi zambiri amakhala ofunika kwambiri pakumverera kwa mwanayo, chifukwa chake, amayenera kupezeka panthawi ya nkhani kuti apereke chitetezo. Ngati izi sizingatheke, nkhaniyo iyenera kuperekedwa ndi munthu wina wokondana kwambiri, monga agogo, agogo kapena amalume, mwachitsanzo;
• Kusankha malo abata: izi zimapewa kusokonezedwa kosafunikira ndipo zimalola kuyandikira pafupi ndi mwanayo, kuwonjezera pakupanga malo omwe kumakhala kosavuta kufotokoza malingaliro;
• Musagwiritse ntchito zambiri: chabwino, uthengawu uyenera kuperekedwa m'njira yosavuta, yomveka komanso yowona mtima, osaphatikizaponso zinthu zina zovuta kapena zochititsa mantha, koyambirira.

Chisoni cha ana chimasiyanasiyana kwambiri ndi ukalamba, chifukwa chake njira izi zimafunika kusinthidwa. Chifukwa chake, kufunsira kwa zamaganizidwe a ana kungakhale njira yabwino kwambiri yothandizira kuwongolera zomwe mwana akuchita pomvetsa chisoni.

Ndikofunikanso kudziwa kuti palibe nthawi yabwino yofotokozera nkhaniyi kwa mwanayo, chifukwa chake, munthu sayenera kudikirira "mphindi yoyenera", chifukwa izi zitha kubweretsa nkhawa yayikulu ndikuchedwetsa njira yolira.

Nthawi yoti mupite kwa wama psychologist kapena psychiatrist

Kufunafuna chithandizo kwa akatswiri a zamaganizidwe kapena amisala imatha kukhala njira yabwino yotsimikizira kuti njira yachisoni yathanzi ingapezeke. Komabe, anthu ambiri amathanso kuthana ndi chisoni chawo, chifukwa chake ngati simuli omasuka, sikofunikira nthawi zonse kufunafuna akatswiri.

Komabe, pali zochitika zina zomwe kulira maliro kumatha kuonedwa ngati "kopanda thanzi" kapena kwamatenda, makamaka ngati malingaliro ali owopsa kwambiri kapena amatha miyezi yopitilira 12, kwa achikulire, kapena kwa miyezi yopitilira 6, kwa ana. Muzochitika izi, kuwunika akatswiri ndikofunikira.

Zizindikiro zina zomwe zitha kuwonetsa kulira "kopanda thanzi", zikapitilira miyezi ingapo, ndi izi:

• Kulimbikira kukhala ndi munthu amene wasochera;
• Kukhala ndizovuta kukhulupirira imfa ya wokondedwa;
• Kudzimva kuti ndiwe wolakwa;
• Kulakalaka kufa kuti ndikakhale ndi munthuyo;
• Kutaya chidaliro mwa ena;
• Osakhalanso ndi chifuniro chokhala ndi moyo;
• Kukhala ndi zovuta kukhalabe ndi anzawo kapena zochita za tsiku ndi tsiku;
• Kulephera kukonzekera zamtsogolo;
• Kumva kuvutika kosaneneka ndi zomwe zimawoneka ngati "zachilendo".

Chisoni choterechi chitha kuchitika pa munthu aliyense kapena zaka zilizonse, komabe, chimafala kwambiri mwa akazi.