Zomwe Ndikudziyikira Kudziko Lachilendo Ndikukhala Mnyumba Ya Van Adandiphunzitsa Zokha

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Sizachilendo anthu kufunsa chifukwa chomwe sindimayendera ndi wina aliyense kapena chifukwa chomwe sindinayembekezere mnzanga kuti ndiyende naye. Ndikuganiza kuti anthu ena amangodabwitsidwa ndi mayi yemwe akuyenda mdziko lalikulu, lowopsa, lotetezeka lokha lokha chifukwa anthu amati tiyenera kuchita nawo atsikana osavutika. Ndikuganiza kuti anthu ambiri amatengera nthano za poizoni zomwe, popanda chikondi chogwirizana, simungathe kupanga moyo (kapena mpanda woyerawo). Ndipo pali ena ambiri omwe amangokayikira zomwe angathe. Pomaliza, pali ena amene amanena kuti adzakhala osungulumwa. Mosasamala kanthu, onse amakonda kukankha nkhawa zawo komanso kuda nkhawa kwawo.

Tidumpha magulu awiri oyamba (omwe akuyembekezera wokondedwa kuti akhale moyo wawo wonse komanso omwe sakuganiza kuti atha kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi) - chifukwa ndi iwo vuto, osati aine vuto. Tiyeni tiganizire za anthu osungulumwa aja. Ndibwino kuganiza kuti zina (osati zonse) zimagawidwa bwino ndi anthu omwe mumawakonda. Koma, nthawi zina, anthu omwe mumawakonda sagawana nawo ludzu lanu losatha la zokumana nazozi. Ndi kuyembekezera PTO ya abwenzi kapena chikondi china chovuta kundipeza pokhapokha kuyamba moyo wanga ndikumva ngati kudikirira mathithi othamanga kuti aume. Ngati ndili wowona mtima, kuwona mathithi a Victoria Falls ochokera ku Zimbabwe ndi anzawo omwe adangopeza kumene kunali kosangalatsa kuposa kukhala mozungulira kudikirira wina kuti achite nane. Zinali zosangalatsa.

Ndayenda mayiko 70 pazaka zingapo zapitazi ndi ine, inemwini, ndi ine. Tikumanga msasa m'mapaki aku Africa ndikukwera ngamila kudutsa zipululu za Arabia. Kuyenda pamwamba pa mapiri a Himalaya ndikudumphira pansi pa nyanja za Caribbean. Kuyenda moyenda kuzilumba zakumwera chakum'mawa kwa Asia ndikusinkhasinkha m'mapiri a Latin America.

Ndikadadikira kuti munthu wina abwere kudzakwera, chosinthira giyacho chikanakhalabe pa park.

Zedi, wina woti agawane naye nkhanizi angakhale wodabwitsa. Koma, helo, ndimasangalala ndikudziyimira pawokha. Zandiphunzitsa kuti kukhala "ndekha" ndikukhala "wosungulumwa" sizofanana. Zonse zomwe zanenedwa, koyamba paulendo wanga, ndizovuta kuvomereza: Ndine chimphona wosungulumwa.

Koma ndikudzudzula (ndipo, mwanjira ina, ndikuthokozanso) COVID-19.

Ndimadziona kuti ndine m'modzi mwa omwe ali ndi mwayi chifukwa, kwa ine, anzanga, abale anga ndi ine tonse tili athanzi, mwinanso tikugwirabe ntchito (ena aife kuposa ena) ndipo takhala ndi malingaliro abwino (komanso ena a ife kuposa ena) munthawi yonseyi yamavuto osaneneka. Chachiwiri, ndadzipeza ndekha "nditakanikira" kutsidya kwa nyanja ku Australia, komwe, kuti ndisatenge zenizeni zenizeni za COVID-19 pano, sizinakhudzidwe kwambiri ndi mliri monga padziko lonse lapansi. Kupatula kukhazikika kwa mwezi umodzi kubisala anthu kutchire la Aussie - m'malo mwake, ndikulimbana ndi nsato masana ambiri - ndakhala ndikukumana ndivuto lalikulu kwambiri padziko lonse lapansi opanda nsapato ndi zovala zovala. Ngakhale kuti dziko lonse lapansi latsekedwa m'nyumba zawo, nyumba yanga ili ndi mawilo: galimoto yosandulika ya 1991 yomwe ndimakhala pamisasa yodutsa pagombe lakutali kwambiri padziko lapansi. Moyo woterewu umapangitsa kudzipatula kukhala koyipa kwambiri (monga ma Aussies anganene) "wapaulendo," poyerekeza.

Koma ngakhale ndili ndi mwayi wotani, ndikanama ndikanena kuti kukhala kwaokha sikunakhale kosangalatsa.

Chodabwitsa ndichakuti, ndidapita ku Australia tsiku loyamba la chaka chatsopano kukadzikakamiza kuthana ndi kusungulumwa komwe ndimawopa kuti kudzawonekera ndikangotsika pang'ono. Sindinagwiritsepo ntchito yopitilira mwezi umodzi m'malo amodzi mzaka zingapo zapitazi (ngati "digito nomad," kulemba pawokha kumatanthauza kuti ndikhoza kukhala ndi ntchito ndipo ndinkangokhalira kudumphadumpha), ndipo ndinkada nkhawa kuti ndimakonda kuyenda - kapena, zosokoneza tsiku ndi tsiku zomwe zimandilepheretsa kuthana ndi zovuta zanga komanso nkhawa zomwe sizinachitike. Kukumana nthawi zonse ndi anthu atsopano, kulimbana ndi chisangalalo cha kugwedezeka kwa chikhalidwe, ndikuganizira zomwe zikubwera ndi komwe mungapite kumatanthauza kuti simuyenera kukhala ndi yemwe muli, komwe muli, zomwe muli nazo kapena mulibe (monga, mukudziwa , mnzake).

Osandilakwitsa: Ngakhale kuti anthu ambiri angaganize kuti ndikuthawa chinachake (chowonadi) chomwe chimabwera nthawi zonse, ndikudziwa mumtima mwanga kuti ndikuthamangira chinachake (mwachitsanzo, zenizeni zomwe sizili zolondola kapena zenizeni. cholakwika koma, m'malo mwake, ndichita bwino). Chifukwa chake, ayi, sindikupitabe mwadala kuzemba malingaliro anga, koma sindikadakhala ndikunena zowona zonse ngati sindinavomereze kuti nthawi zina ine mosazindikira kuthawa kutengeka kwanga ndikupatutsa chidwi changa ku zatsopano zomwe zandizungulira. Ndine munthu.

Chifukwa chake ndidadziwuza ndekha kuti, mu 2020, ndikhala ndi nthawi yodzipatulira kukhala malo ena auzimu kwa ine kuti ndidzidziwe mozama, mulingo wolumikizana kwambiri - ndipo pamapeto pake ndidzipatsenso mwayi wokhala ndi kulumikizana kokhazikika ndi ena, nawonso. . Izi zati, ndimadziwa kuti kukhala pamalo amodzi kungatanthauze mphindi wamba, ndipo ndimadziwa kuti zikutanthauza kuti ndiyamba kusungulumwa-makamaka chifukwa ndidasankha kukhala m'galimoto, kumadera akutali a dziko lomwe sindinakhaleko, kutali ndi kwathu momwe ndingathere komanso nthawi yosagwirizana ndi aliyense amene ndimamukonda. (Ndizoseketsa kuti anthu ambiri amadandaula bwanji kuti amasungulumwa akamayenda payekha, pomwe ndimaopa kusungulumwa kumamenyedwa ndikamachedwetsa kapena kusiya kuyenda ndekha.)

Ndipo ine ndiri pano. Ndidakhazikitsa zolinga zanga; chilengedwe chinawawonetsera iwo. Ndizoti, kumayambiriro kwa chaka, chisankho chosiya kuyenda padziko lapansi kuti ndimasulire dziko langa lamkati chinali chokhacho: chisankho. Mwadzidzidzi, ndi kupatula kwa COVID-19, si lingaliro. Ndi njira yanga yokhayo.

Moyo ngati mkazi wosakwatiwa m'malo okhala yekhayekha molamulidwa ndi boma ndi wosungulumwa kwambiri kuposa moyo ngati mkazi wosakwatiwa pofunafuna moyo wodzikonda.

Osati kuti ndiyimbe nyanga yanga yanga (koma kuti ndiyambe nyanga yanga), ndinali ndikuphwanya pamaso pa coronavirus. Ndinali ndi chipembedzo cha ma # vanlifers ena omwe ndimasewera nawo m'mawa uliwonse ndikumanga msasa kulowa kulikonse. Chifukwa chakuti onse ankakhala m’magudumu awoawo anayi, anali ndi zovala zokhwinyata ndiponso miyezo yaukhondo waumwini yotsika ngati yanga. (Ndipo, pazifukwa zina mosadziwa kwa ine, vani yakaleyi inali maginito abwinobwino. Sindikutsimikiza kuti ndimamvetsetsa kupempha kwa mayi yemwe akumva fungo la kuphatikiza kwa mafuta, musk, ndi fungo la thupi kutadzuka Thukuta lake lomwe limatuluka m'mawa uliwonse. Koma ndikudabwa kuti "'sup, ndimagona m'galimoto yanga," izi zimandigwirira ntchito.)

Pamene mliri wa COVID-19 udawomba mafunde ku Australia, wolemba mwa ine adati: Ngati siyabwino, ndi nkhani yabwino. Ndinaganiza kuti, tsiku lina, ndidzalemba buku lonena zamanyazi zatsiku limodzi zakupulumuka mliri wapadziko lonse lapansi mu ndowa yazimbudzi yazaka 30 kutsidya lina la dziko lapansi ndekha. Koma kenako anzanga adathawa kuti athawireko, ndinayenera kunena kuti R.I.P. ku kagulu kanga ka makanda opsompsona dzuwa, ndipo ndidataya mapangano anga akulu. Mwadzidzidzi, ndinalibe aliyense ndipo ndinalibe chilichonse — ndinalibe anzanga, ndinalibe mnzanga, ndinalibe zolinga, ndipo sindinapite kulikonse. Malo okwerera misasa adatsekedwa, ndipo boma lidalamula olowa m'sitimayo kuti achoke, koma ndege sizinathetse njira.

Chifukwa chake, monga momwe amachitira, ndidapita kumpoto kukakhazikika m'tchire (nkhalango zakumbuyo, ngati mungatero) mtsogolo mosayembekezereka. Pamapeto pake ndinali ndi zochitika zosaiwalika m'moyo wanga wonse - koma ndinali ndi nthawi yochuluka kwambiri kuti ndizingokhala m'maganizo mwanga.

Ndipamene kusungulumwa komwe ndimakhala ndikunditchingira kunandigunda ngati nsomba ya botolo labuluu pakasamba. Kunali kubwera kwanthawi yayitali. Zofunikira. Ngakhale mwina wathanzi kwa ine. Zili ngati kuyembekezera kusungulumwa kunali gawo loipa kwambiri. Tsopano, zili pano. Ndikumva. Zimayamwa. Koma kudziwitsidwa kowawa kumatha kuwunikiranso kwambiri. Ndapanga mavumbulutso obiriwira ambiri ndipo ndavomereza kwa ine zowonadi zambiri zovuta miyezi ingapo yapitayi.

Chowonadi ndichakuti ndimasowa abale anga ndalama zosapiririka, koma maulendo apaulendo ndiotchova njuga ndipo momwe nyumba ziliri (New York City, ndi US ambiri) zimawopseza gehena. Ndasowa ufulu wanga wopita kulikonse komwe ndikufuna, nthawi iliyonse yomwe ndikufuna. Ndipo nthawi zina ndimasowa mnzanga yemwe sindimamudziwa. Anzanga ali ndi nkhawa yoti achedwetsa maukwati awo, ndipo ndikudandaula kuti chikondi chimakhala chovuta kwambiri chifukwa sindidzakumananso ndi mwamuna wanga wamasiku amodzi kuchokera kumadera ena kwaokha. Anzanga ena amangokhalira kudandaula za anzawo omwe amawapusitsa okha, ndipo ndili ndi nsanje kwambiri kuti ali ndi anzawo omwe amawapusitsa. Pakadali pano, zovuta zonse za "chithunzi choyambirira" chawailesi yakanema komanso zolimbitsa thupi zantchito ndi bwenzi lochita masewera olimbitsa thupi ndilibe ndizokumbutsa kosalekeza kuti ndili choncho, wosakwatiwa. Monga, osati mumayendedwe a Amy-Schumer-the-Grand-Canyon-m'mawa (inde, ndayang'ana Mmene Mungakhalire Osakwatira nthawi imodzi kapena ziwiri zokhazikika). Zambiri zamomwe ndikukhalira-kukhala-nokha-kwamuyaya-pamlingo wamtunduwu wa njira. Ndipo ndilibe ngakhale mphaka woopsa.

Ndikudziwa kuti kusinthana mosaganizira mapulogalamu azibwenzi kapena kutumizirana mameseji ndi anzanga akale si njira zothanirana ndi kusungulumwa pakadali pano. Komanso kudya mopanda kudya zosafunika zomwe sindikufunikira kuziyika mufiriji m'galimoto yanga. Koma, tsoka, ine ndili pano.

Masiku ena amakhala osungulumwa kuposa ena, koma ndawerenga zolemba zokwanira zogwiritsa ntchito kukhala wosakwatiwa panthawi yopatukana (helo, ndidalemba ngakhale imodzi!): Khalani odzisamalira! Kuchita maliseche kwambiri! Dzidyetseni chakudya chamadzulo ndi usiku wa kanema! Phunzirani luso latsopano! Lowani muzokonda zomwe mumakonda! Khalani opusa nokha ndikukhala ndi phwando lopenga ndikugwedeza zofunkha zanu ngati palibe amene akuyang'ana chifukwa palibe amene ali chifukwa LOL muli nokha!

Tamverani, ndakwaniritsa zambiri panthawi yotsekeredwa m'ndende. Ndakhala ndikulemba digito (ndikugwira ntchito ndikulemba kutali), kusewera mafunde, zodzikongoletsera ndi waya, kulemba buku, kutola ukulele, ndikukhala pafupifupi gawo lina lililonse la #vanlife. Ndinavekanso tsitsi langa la pinki chifukwa ndimakhala moyo wabwino kwambiri m'njira zambiri. Kuti musaganize kuti malingaliro anga opunduka nthawi zina andisiya sindikuwona zabwino zakukhala ndekha, musalakwitse: Ndikudziwa kuti kugwiritsa ntchito bwenzi la COVID-19 kupatula njira zomwe sindiyenera kuchitira umboni TikTok woyenerera munthu wina amatenga kapena kupita pang'onopang'ono pakutenga kwanga kwa Thai. Chifukwa manyazi omwe adalipo kale ndikugawana nawo curry (ndipo - mulungu aletse - kumenya nkhondo ndi munthu yekhayo amene mumakhala naye m'nyumba) akuyamwa kuposa kugona nokha.

Koma ndikudziwanso mosavuta kuti, masiku ena, zimangomveka bwino kuti ndikhale wosungulumwa ndikukumana ndi kusungulumwa komwe ndimadziwa kuti kukubwera koma komwe kumangophatikizidwa ndi zoletsa za COVID-19. Ngati pali chinthu chimodzi chomwe ndikuphunzira munjira iyi yokumana maso ndi maso ndi ine ndekha, ndikuti ndikofunikira kuvomereza ndikuvomereza chilichonse chomwe ndikumva ngati chosaphika komanso chenicheni popanda chiweruzo. Chifukwa kunyengerera kuti zonse ndi peachy ndizolakalaka bola ndikamenya chigoba kumaso ndikuwonekera pa com-com ndikumangomva ngati kuti ndikungokonzekera chiwembu changa chotsatira.

Tsopano, ndikuphunzira kuti ndisagwirizane ndi kusungulumwa ndi nyonga zomwe sizimandithandiza. Kuchokera pagalimoto yakale ya dzimbiri pagombe lopanda kanthu. (Chabwino, gawo limenelo ndi labwino kwambiri.)

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