Chifukwa Chake Ndimakana Kudzimva Wolakwa Pochita Zochita Pamene Mwana Wanga Akugona

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Mugone pamene mwana akugona: Ndi malangizo amayi atsopano mobwerezabwereza (ndi mobwerezabwereza) kachiwiri.

Nditakhala ndi mwana wanga woyamba mwezi watha wa Juni, ndidamumva kangapo konse. Ndi mawu abwino. Kugona tulo kumatha kukhala kovutirapo, osanenapo zowopsa pazaumoyo wanu ndipo kwa ine kugona nthawi zonse kwakhala kofunika kwambiri pathanzi langa komanso thanzi langa. (Asanabadwe ndimakonda kulowa maola 9 mpaka 10 usiku.)

Koma pali chinachake *china* chomwe ndakhala ndikutembenukira kuti ndimve bwino kwambiri: thukuta. Kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi kumandithandiza kuthana ndi nkhawa komanso kulimbitsa thupi langa, komanso ndimasangalala ndi maphunziro a mpikisano wothamanga komanso kuyesa makalasi atsopano.

Ndinapitilizabe kuchita zomwe ndimachita panthawi yapakati. Ndinachita zolimbitsa thupi kwa Stairmaster mphindi 20 tsiku limodzi ndisanabereke mwana wanga wamkazi. Ndinkapuma movutikira, ndinkatuluka thukuta, ndipo koposa zonse, ndinakhala phee pang'ono. (Zoonadi, muyenera kulankhula ndi dokotala wanu musanachite zomwezo panthawi yomwe muli ndi pakati.)

Chifukwa chake, ngakhale ndimawopa kusowa tulo komwe kumabwera limodzi ndi mwana wakhanda, limodzi mwamafunso oyamba omwe ndinamufunsa dokotala wanga linali,ndipangenso liti?

Popeza ndinali wochita masewera olimbitsa thupi nthawi zonse asanabadwe komanso nthawi yonse ya mimba yanga, dokotala wanga anandiuza kuti ndiyambe kuyenda mosavuta ndikangokonzeka. Usiku womwe ndinafika kunyumba kuchokera kuchipatala, ndinayenda mpaka kumapeto kwa malo anga — mwina osakwana gawo limodzi la magawo khumi. Zinali zonse zomwe ndimamva kuti ndingathe kuchita koma, mwanjira ina, zidandithandiza kudzimva ndekha.

Kuchira pobereka si nthabwala — ndipo ndikofunika kumvera thupi lanu. Koma pakapita masiku, ndimapitiliza kuyenda kwanga (nthawi zina ndimayenda ndi mwana wanga wamkazi paulendo, masiku ena ndekha chifukwa cha mwamuna kapena agogo omwe amatha kumuwona). Masiku ena ndimangoyenda mozungulira nyumba, masiku ena mtunda wa theka la mailo, potsirizira pake mailo. Posakhalitsa, ndinatha kuwonjezera maphunziro a mphamvu zopepuka, nanenso. (Zokhudzana: Azimayi Ambiri Akukonzekera Kukonzekera Mimba)

Kulimbitsa thupi kumeneku kunandithandiza kuchotsa malingaliro anga ndikundisiya ndikumva kukhala ndi mphamvu mthupi langa pomwe kumachira m'masabata oyambilira aja. Ngakhale mphindi 15 kapena 30 zinandithandiza kudzimva ngati munthu wakale ndipo zinandithandizanso kukhala mayi wabwinoko: Pamene ndinabwerera, ndinali ndi mphamvu zambiri, maganizo atsopano, ngakhale kudzidalira pang'ono (osatchulapo kuti chinali chowiringula kuti ndikhale ndi moyo wabwino. tulukani mnyumba - choyenera cha mamas atsopano!).

Masana omwe ndidabwerako kumapeto kwa milungu isanu ndi umodzi nditabereka, ndidayamba kuthamanga miyezi inayi mayi anga atayang'ana mwana wanga wamkazi. Ndidathamanga mailo imodzi pang'onopang'ono kwambiri kuposa chilichonse chomwe ndidalowapo. Pamapeto pake, ndinamva ngati sindingathe kupita patali, koma ndinachita zimenezo ndipo ndinamva bwino. Nditabwerera thukuta, ndidatenga mwana wanga ndipo nayenso adandimwetulira.

Chowonadi ndichakuti, ngakhale ili yopindulitsa, nthawi yoberekera ikhoza kukhala yovuta kwambiri. Zingakhale zotopetsa, zamaganizo, zosokoneza, zowopsya-mndandandawo umapitirira. Ndipo kwa ine, kulimbitsa thupi nthawi zonse kwakhala gawo la momwe ndagonjetsera zovuta zamaganizidwe zotere. Kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi monga gawo lazomwe ndimachita (werengani: nthawi yomwe ndingathe komanso ndikamvekere) zimandithandiza kuti ndizimva bwino, monga momwe zimakhalira nthawi yapakati. (Zokhudzana: Zizindikiro Zobisika za Kupsinjika kwa Postpartum Zomwe Simuyenera Kuzinyalanyaza)

Kugwira ntchito kumakhazikitsanso maziko oti mwana wanga wamkazi azindiwona kuti ndine ndani: munthu amene amasamala zaumoyo wake komanso akufuna kuti aziyika patsogolo. Kupatula apo, pomwe ndimakugwirira ntchito (olakwa!), Ndikumachitiranso iye. Kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi ndichinthu chomwe ndikuyembekeza kudzasangalala naye tsiku lina, ndipo ndikufuna kuti andiwone ndikutsata zolinga zanga zathanzi komanso zolimbitsa thupi.

Ndikufunanso kuti ndizitha kukhala munthu wabwino koposa, wodekha, wosangalala kwambiri pamene ndili naye. Ndipo ichi ndi chinthu: Ichoamachita onetsetsani kuti ndikugona. Kugona pamene mwanayo akugonandi malangizo abwino - ndipo atha kukupatsani mphamvuthukutapamene mwanayo akugonaEna nthawi yoti agoneko. Kupatula apo, kugwira ntchito yolimbitsa thupi utagona tulo tofa nato? Pafupi ndi zosatheka (kuphatikiza, osatetezeka kwambiri). Masiku amenewo pamene ndimathamanga kwa maola awiri kapena atatu akugona —ndipo panali ochuluka a iwo —muli okhoza kundipeza ndili pabedi kuposa malo ochitira masewera olimbitsa thupi pamene mwana wanga wamkazi anali ali bwete. Koma pamene mwana wanga wamkazi anayamba kugona usiku wonse (kugogoda nkhuni!) Ndi masiku omwe ndimatha kugona ndikumagona masana, ndimapulumutsidwa kwathunthu ndimakanema apakompyuta, zolemera zaulere, ndi matani Achibale omwe amakhala pafupi omwe amatha kusamalira ana.

Amayi kulakwa ndichinthu chomwe timamva * zambiri *. Ndikosavuta kumva kuti mulibe mlandu mukamabwerera kuntchito, mukamathamanga, kukwiya, mukamatuluka panja panyumba kutali ndi mwana wanu. Ndi lingaliro lokokomeza koma ndi lenileni. Ndikumva, inenso. Koma pamene ndikuchita zinthu zimene ndikudziwa zimandithandiza kuchita zonse zimene ndingathe—ndi kukhala mayi wabwino kwambiri amene ndingakhale—sindimadziimbanso mlandu.

Okutobala, ndine kazembe wampikisano wa Reebok Boston 10K ya Akazi. Ndi mpikisano wanjira womwe wakhala ukuchitika kuyambira zaka za m'ma 70, kulimbikitsa azimayi kuti akhazikitse malo omwera ndikuthamangitsa zolinga zawo zathanzi komanso zolimbitsa thupi. Amayi ambiri amathamanga nawo mpikisano limodzi ndi ana awo aakazi kapena amayi. Mpikisanowu uyenera kuti udzakhala mtunda wakutali kwambiri womwe ndingakhale ndathamangapo chibadwireni mu June. Ngati ali wokonzeka, mwana wanga wamkazi nawonso ayamba kuyenda nane. Ngati sichoncho? Adzakhala ali pamzere womaliza. (Zokhudzana: Momwe Ndikugwiritsira Ntchito Chikondi Changa Chaumoyo Kuti Ndiphunzitse Mwana Wanga Kusangalala ndi Kuchita Masewera Olimbitsa Thupi)

Ndikufuna kuti iye akule ndikuphunzira kuchita zinthu zomwe amakonda-zinthu zomwe zimamupangitsa kukhala wosangalala komanso wathanzi; zinthu zomwe zimamupangitsa kukhala ndi moyo. Ndikufuna kuti azitsatira zinthuzi, azimenyera nkhondo, azisangalala nazo, ndipo asapepese kapena kudzimva kuti ndine wolakwa chifukwa chozichita- komanso njira yabwino kwambiri yomwe ndingamuwonetsere izi mwa kuzichita ndekha.

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