Nazi Njira zitatu Zogonana Pazovuta Zokhudza Kudya Zimayenderana

Zamkati

• 1. Makhalidwe abwino angapangitse kuti thupi likhale lotengeka
• 2. Kuzunzidwa kumatha kuyambitsa kudziyang'anira
• 3. Ziwawa zogonana zitha kubweretsa zovuta pakudya ngati njira zothanirana ndi mavuto
• Kudziyimira pawokha ndi kuvomereza ndizofunikira kwambiri

Kuchokera pachimake cha kukongola mpaka kuzolowera zachiwawa zogonana, chiwopsezo chakukula kwakusokonekera kulikonse.

Nkhaniyi imagwiritsa ntchito mawu olimba komanso imafotokoza zakugwiriridwa.

Ndimakumbukira bwino nthawi yoyamba yomwe ndinaitanidwa.

Ndinali ndi zaka 11 tsiku lophuka, ndikudikirira pansi pa nyumba yathu pomwe abambo anga anali kufunafuna mkati mwake kuti amupatse.

Ndinali ndi nzimbe, zotsalira komanso zotetezedwa bwino kuchokera ku Khrisimasi, zikulendewera pakamwa panga.

Nthawi yomweyo munthu wina anadutsa. Ndipo paphewa pake, adaponyera, "Ndikulakalaka mutandiyamwa ine choncho."

M'buku langa la pubescent naïveté, sindinamvetsetse zomwe amatanthauza, koma ndidamvetsetsa malingaliro ake komabe. Ndinkadziwa kuti ndikunyozedwa ndimomwe ndimamvera mwadzidzidzi komanso manyazi.

China chake chokhudza wanga Khalidwe, ndimaganiza, lidapangitsa izi. Mwadzidzidzi, ndinali nditazindikira za thupi langa komanso momwe zimakhudzira amuna akulu. Ndipo ndinali wamantha.

Zoposa zaka 20 pambuyo pake, ndikuvutitsidwabe pamsewu - kuchokera pazowoneka ngati zopanda vuto nambala yanga yafoni mpaka ndemanga pamabere ndi matako. Ndili ndi mbiri yakuzunzidwa kwam'maganizo komanso kugonana, kuchitiridwa zachipongwe, komanso kuchitiridwa nkhanza zapabanja, zomwe zandichititsa kuti ndizimva ngati munthu chinthu.

Popita nthawi, izi zidakhudza kwambiri kuthekera kwanga kukhala womasuka mthupi langa. Chifukwa chake kuti pamapeto pake ndinayamba kukhala ndi vuto la kudya mwina sichingadabwe.

Ndiloleni ndifotokoze.

Kuchokera pachimake cha kukongola mpaka kuzolowera zachiwawa zogonana, chiwopsezo chakukula kwakusokonekera kulikonse. Ndipo izi zitha kufotokozedwa ndi zomwe zimadziwika kuti chiphunzitso chotsutsa.

Awa ndi mawonekedwe omwe amafufuza momwe umayi umakhalira ndi chikhalidwe cha chikhalidwe chomwe chimalimbikitsa kugonana. Zimatithandizanso kudziwa momwe thanzi lamaganizidwe, kuphatikiza zovuta zakudya, zingakhudzidwire nthawi zonse pogonana.

Pansipa mupeza njira zitatu zotsutsana ndi zovuta zokhudzana ndi kugonana, komanso njira imodzi yofunika kwambiri.

1. Makhalidwe abwino angapangitse kuti thupi likhale lotengeka

Posachedwa, nditaphunzira zomwe ndimapeza kuti ndizipeza ndalama, bambo wina yemwe amandiyendetsa pa ntchito yokwerera adandiuza kuti sakhulupirira miyezo yokongola.

Muyeso wa kukongola ku United States, ndipo mwachangu, ndi wopapatiza kwambiri. Mwazina, azimayi amayenera kukhala owonda, oyera, achichepere, achikhalidwe chachikazi, okhoza, apakati mpaka kumtunda, komanso owongoka.

"Chifukwa sindimakopeka ndi izi," adatero.

"Mtundu wachitsanzo."

Koma miyezo yokongola siyokhudzana ndi zomwe anthu, kapena magulu, amadzipeza okha. M'malo mwake, miyezo ndi zomwe tili anaphunzitsa ndiyabwino - "mtundu wachitsanzo" - kaya tikugwirizana ndizokopa kapena ayi.

Miyezo yokongola ku United States, ndipo mwachangu - chifukwa chakufalikira kwa njira zofalitsira Western media - ndiyochepa kwambiri. Mwazina, azimayi amayenera kukhala owonda, oyera, achichepere, achikhalidwe chachikazi, okhoza, apakati mpaka kumtunda, komanso owongoka.

Thupi lathu limaweruzidwa, ndikulangidwa, ndi miyezo okhwima kwambiri iyi.

Ndipo kulowetsedwa mkati mwa mauthengawa - kuti sitife okongola ndipo chifukwa chake sitili oyenera ulemu - kumatha kubweretsa manyazi m'thupi motero, kudya zizindikilo zosokonezeka.

M'malo mwake, kafukufuku wina mu 2011 adapeza kuti kutengera chidwi cha kukongola kwa munthu kumadziwika ndi kukongola kwake "kumachita gawo lofunikira pakukula kwa matenda amisala mwa atsikana." Izi zimaphatikizapo kudya kosokonezeka.

Monga tanena kale m'ndandandandawu, lingaliro lodziwika kuti kukonda kwambiri kukongola kwachikazi komanso kuyanjana kocheperako kumayambitsa zovuta za kudya sizabodza. M'malo mwake, chowonadi ndichakuti ndikumangika kwamalingaliro mozungulira miyezo yokongola yomwe imayambitsa matenda amisala.

2. Kuzunzidwa kumatha kuyambitsa kudziyang'anira

Pokumbukira momwe ndimamvera nditayitanidwa ndili kamtsikana: Nthawi yomweyo ndidachita manyazi, ngati kuti ndidachita kanthu kuti ndikulimbikitseni ndemanga.

Chifukwa chopangidwa mobwerezabwereza kuti ndizimva motere, ndinayamba kuchita zodziyang'anira pawokha, zomwe zimachitika pakati pa akazi.

Maganizo akuti: "Ngati ndingathe kuwongolera thupi langa, mwina simungathe kuyankhapo."

Lingaliro lodziyang'anira lokha ndi pamene munthu amakhala wokhudzidwa kwambiri ndi thupi lake, nthawi zambiri kuti asokoneze kutsutsa kwakunja. Zingakhale zophweka ngati kuyang'ana pansi pamene mukuyenda ndi magulu a amuna, kuti asayese kukuyang'anirani, kapena osadya nthochi pagulu (inde, ndicho chinthu).

Itha kuwonetsanso ngati vuto lamavuto akudya poyesa kuteteza kuti musavutitsidwe.

Makhalidwe azakudya monga kudya pang'ono kuti "muchepetse" kapena kumwerekera kunenepa kuti "mubise" ndizofala. Izi nthawi zambiri zimakhala njira zosamvetsetsa za azimayi omwe akuyembekeza kuthawa mayankho.

Njira yoganiza imapita: Ngati ndingathe kulamulira thupi langa, mwina simudzatha kuyankhapo.

Kuphatikiza apo, kuzunzidwa pakokha kumatha kuneneratu zodwala.

Izi ndi zoona ngakhale kwa achinyamata.

Monga kafukufuku wina adawonera, kuzunzidwa mthupi (komwe kumatanthauzidwa ngati ndemanga zotsutsana ndi thupi la atsikana) kudakhala ndi zotsatira zoyipa pakadyedwe ka atsikana azaka 12 mpaka 14. Kuphatikiza apo, zitha kuthandizanso pakukula kwa vuto lakudya.

Chiyanjano? Kudziyang'anira wekha.

Atsikana omwe amachitiridwa zachipongwe amatha kuchita izi, zomwe zimapangitsa kuti azidya modzaza.

3. Ziwawa zogonana zitha kubweretsa zovuta pakudya ngati njira zothanirana ndi mavuto

Matanthauzo a nkhanza zakugonana, kugwiriridwa, ndi kuzunzidwa nthawi zina zimakhala zosamveka kwa anthu - kuphatikiza omwe apulumukawo.

Komabe ngakhale matanthauzidwewa amasiyanasiyana malinga ndi boma komanso dziko komanso dziko ndi dziko, zomwe zonsezi zimagwirizana ndikuti zimatha kuchititsa kuti munthu akhale ndi vuto losadya, monga njira yodziwira kapena yosazindikira.

Amayi ambiri omwe ali ndi vuto la kudya adakumana ndi nkhanza zakugonana m'mbuyomu. M'malo mwake, omwe agwiriridwa akhoza kukhala othekera kwambiri kuposa ena kukumana ndi njira zakuzindikira matenda.

Kafukufuku wina wam'mbuyomu adapeza kuti 53 peresenti ya omwe adagwiriridwa amakhala ndi vuto lakudya, poyerekeza ndi 6% yokha ya azimayi omwe alibe mbiri yachiwerewere.

Kuphatikiza apo, mwa achikulire ena, azimayi omwe anali ndi mbiri yokhudza nkhanza zakugonana anali "othekera kwambiri" kukwaniritsa zofunikira pakudya. Ndipo izi zinali zowona makamaka mukaphatikiza ndi kukumana ndi ziwawa zogonana mukadzakula.

Komabe ngakhale kugwiriridwa pakokha sikungakhudze zomwe mayi amadya, vuto la post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) lomwe ena amakumana nalo lingakhale cholumikizira - kapena chomwe chimabweretsa vuto lakudya.

Mwachidule, chifukwa chomwe nkhanza zakugonana zimatha kubweretsa zovuta pakudya mwina ndizomwe zimayambitsa.

Kafukufuku wina anapeza kuti “Zizindikiro za PTSD mkhalapakati zotsatira zakugwiriridwa msanga ndi achikulire pa kudya kosayenera ”

Izi sizikutanthauza, komabe, kuti onse opulumuka pa nkhanza zakugonana azikhala ndi vuto lakudya kapena kuti anthu onse omwe ali ndi vuto lakudya adakumana ndi nkhanza zogonana. Koma zikutanthauza kuti anthu omwe akumanapo ndi zonsezi sakhala okha.

Kudziyimira pawokha ndi kuvomereza ndizofunikira kwambiri

Nditafunsa azimayi kafukufuku wanga wamavuto akudya ndi zovuta zogonana, adafotokoza zambiri zokumana nazo zotsutsa: "Zili ngati [kugonana] sikuli kwanu," mayi wina anandiuza.

"Ndimamva ngati ndikungoyesa kuyesa kutsatira zomwe anthu ena andiponyera."

Ndizomveka kuti zovuta zakudya zimatha kulumikizidwa ndi chiwawa chogonana. Nthawi zambiri amadziwika kuti ndikubwezeretsanso kwakukulu kwa thupi lawo, makamaka ngati njira yothanirana yolimbana ndi zoopsa.

Ndizomvekanso kuti njira yothetsera maubwenzi ogonana pakudya poyambiranso komanso kuthetsa nkhanza za kugonana ndi yomweyo: kumanganso ufulu wodziyimira pawokha ndikulamula kuti chilolezocho chilemekezedwe.

Pambuyo pogonana kwanthawi yayitali, zimakhala zovuta kuti thupi lanu likhale lanu, makamaka ngati vuto la kudya lawononga ubale wanu ndi thupi lanu. Koma kulumikizanso malingaliro anu ndi thupi lanu, ndikupeza malo oti mufotokozere zosowa zanu (zomwe mungapeze apa, apa, ndi apa) zingakhale zamphamvu kukuthandizani panjira yakuchira.

Pamapeto pake, omwe adatenga nawo gawo adandifotokozera kuti zomwe zimawathandiza kuchita mosangalala pa chiwerewere chawo - ngakhale kudzera pamavuto owonjezera pamavuto awo akudya - kukhala ndi ubale wodalirika ndi anthu omwe amalemekeza malire awo.

Kukhudza kunakhala kosavuta akapatsidwa malo oti atchule zosowa zawo. Ndipo tonse tiyenera kukhala ndi mwayi uwu.

Ndipo izi zimabweretsa mndandanda wazovuta zakudya ndi kugonana mpaka kumapeto. Ndikukhulupirira kuti ngati mungachotse chilichonse pazokambirana zisanu zapitazi, mukumvetsetsa kufunikira kwa:

• kukhulupirira zomwe anthu amakuwuzani za iwo eni
• kulemekeza kudziyimira pawokha kwakuthupi
• kusunga manja anu - ndi ndemanga zanu - kwa inu nokha
• kukhala wodzichepetsa pamaso pa chidziwitso chomwe mulibe
• kukayikira lingaliro lanu "labwino"
• kupanga mpata woti anthu athe kuwona zogonana mosatekeseka, moona mtima, komanso mosangalala

Melissa A. Fabello, PhD, ndi mphunzitsi wachikazi yemwe ntchito yake imaganizira kwambiri zandale zamthupi, chikhalidwe cha kukongola, komanso zovuta pakudya. Tsatirani iye pa Twitter ndi Instagram.