Sia Cooper Adawululira Zovuta Zake Zaumoyo M'kalata Yopita Kwa Iye Wachichepere

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Ngati mungabwerere m'mbuyo ndikuuza mwana wanu wazaka 5 zomwe zidzachitike m'tsogolo, kodi mungatero? Kodi munganene chiyani? Funso lovuta kuyankha, koma wolimbikitsa zolimbitsa thupi Sia Cooper adawulula muzolemba zake zapamwamba kuti amuuza wachichepere kuti ndiwokongola, mosasamala kanthu za ndemanga zowopsa zomwe angauzidwe, ngakhale ndi omwe ali pafupi naye. (ICYMI, nayi nkhani ya Cooper yokhudza chifukwa chake adachotsa zodzala m'mawere.)

Cooper, yemwe amayendetsa Diary of Fit Mommy, adalemba chithunzi chaubwana ndikujambula ndemanga zingapo kumbuyo kwa chithunzicho. Mawu achipongwe monga akuti “ntchafu zanu zikuoneka zazikulu,” “Lekani kudya kwambiri,” ndi “Valani zodzoladzola zambiri” amagwirizanitsa kwambiri kumwetulira kwake. Pamwamba pa chithunzicho, mawu okhala ndi zisoti zonse amati: "Mawu anu ndi ofunika," kuwulula cholinga cha uthengawo. (Yogwirizana: Amayi Oyenererayo Ali Paulendo Wotsimikizira Kuti ALIYENSE Amangokhalira Kuvala Bikini)

M'mawu ake, Cooper amalankhula mwachindunji ndi mwana wake wazaka 5: "Wokondedwa Sia wazaka 5," adalemba. "Ndikufuna kukuwuza kuti ndiwe wokongola monga momwe ulili. Komabe, udzakula ndikumva zinthu zomwe palibe mwana kapena wachinyamata aliyense amene ayenera kumva."

Anapitiliza kufotokoza momwe amayi ake "adang'ambitsira" kudzidalira kwawo kupatula ndemanga zoyipa za mawonekedwe ake. "Sazindikira kuti," Cooper adalemba, "mawu awa azikhala olemera ndikukutsogolerani munjira yamdima."

Njira imeneyi inali ndi vuto la kudya ali ndi zaka 14, maganizo ofuna kudzipha ali ndi zaka 18, komanso kuzunzidwa m'zaka za m'ma 20, makamaka paukwati wake woyamba, Cooper amagawana. Atasudzula mwamuna wake woyamba, adati adavutika kuti akhale ndi moyo wabwino. "Mudzapita kusukulu ya unamwino ndikuphunzira kudya momwe mukumvera zomwe zimakufikitsani ku nthawi yanu yoyamba yokhala onenepa kwambiri," akutero Cooper. "Komabe, mutha kutaya kulemera mwachangu pasanathe chaka kutsikira ku 100lbs chabe ndikufuna zina." (Zokhudzana: Mkazi Uyu Akufuna Kuti Mudziwe Kuti Kutaya Kunenepa Sikungakupangitseni Kukhala Osangalala)

Pambuyo pazaka zambiri akumavutika m'maganizo komanso mwakuthupi, Cooper adapeza malire komanso chiyembekezo chomwe amayenera kukhala nacho. Anakumana ndi bambo yemwe "amafuna kukhala naye," akulemba, ndipo onse pamodzi akulera ana awiri okongola.

Cooper adawulula zambiri za iyemwini mu izi, koma sanachite izi kuti apeze chifundo kapena chidwi. Amafuna kuti anthu adziwe kuti, ngakhale zitadutsa nthawi yayitali bwanji, "mawu ang'onoang'ono amenewo amamatira." Mawu ngati "wonenepa kwambiri," kapena "ntchafu zabingu," kapena "nkhumba yonenepa" sali basi mawu. "Ana ngati inu mumamwa mawu awa ngati siponji," Cooper adalembera mwana wake wachichepere, "ndipo atha kukhala ndi moyo wokhutira kapena moyo wachisoni komanso tsoka." (Zogwirizana: Zomwe Timatanthauza Tikaitana Anthu Kunenepa)

Mosasamala kanthu za momwe moyo umakhalira, mfundo ya Cooper ndi imeneyo inu ndi amene amayang'anira ulendo wanu. Kuti zidzakhala ndi zokwera ndi zotsika, ndipo anthu angayese kukupwetekani, koma ndi udindo wanu "kulola moyo wanu ukhale nkhani kwa ena," adatero. Zovuta zanu zitha kukuphunzitsani maphunziro ofunikira, ndipo zili ndi inu kuti mupatse anzanu nzeru komanso kuti "mupitirize kumenya nkhondo," analemba Cooper. "Ndi chikondi, Sia wazaka 29."

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