Kwa Makolo Ena A Ana omwe ali ndi SMA, Nayi Malangizo Anga Kwa Inu

Okondedwa Amzanga Akudziwika kumene,

Ine ndi mkazi wanga tinakhala pansi modabwitsidwa m'galimoto yathu m'galimoto yoimika magalimoto pachipatala. Phokoso la mzindawu lidamveka kunja, komabe dziko lathu limangokhala ndi mawu omwe samayankhulidwa. Mwana wathu wamkazi wazaka 14 zakubadwa adakhala pampando wake wagalimoto, kutengera chete zomwe zidadzaza galimotoyo. Amadziwa kuti china chake sichili bwino.

Tinali titangomaliza kumene kuyesa angapo kuti tiwone ngati anali ndi msana waminyewa (SMA). Dokotala adatiuza kuti sangapeze matendawa popanda kuyezetsa majini, koma mawonekedwe ake komanso chilankhulo cha m'maso zidatiuza zowona.

Patatha milungu ingapo, kuyesa kwathu kunabweranso kwa ife kutsimikizira mantha athu oyipa kwambiri: Mwana wathu wamkazi anali ndi mtundu wa 2 SMA wokhala ndi zolemba zitatu zosowa Zamgululi jini.

Tsopano chiani?

Mwinanso mungadzifunse funso lomwelo. Mutha kukhala kuti mwasowa chonena ngati tidachita tsikuli. Mutha kukhala osokonezeka, kuda nkhawa, kapena kuchita mantha. Chilichonse chomwe mukumva, kuganiza, kapena kuchita - {textend} khalani ndi nthawi yopuma ndikuwerengabe.

Kuzindikira kwa SMA kumabweretsa kusintha kosintha kwa moyo. Choyamba ndi kudzisamalira.

Chisoni: Pali kutaya kwina komwe kumachitika ndi matendawa. Mwana wanu sadzakhala moyo wamba kapena moyo womwe mumawalingalira. Lirani izi ndi mnzanu, banja lanu, ndi abwenzi. Lirani. Fotokozani. Ganizirani.

Sinthani: Dziwani kuti zonse sizitayika. Malingaliro amwana omwe ali ndi SMA samakhudzidwa mwanjira iliyonse. M'malo mwake, anthu omwe ali ndi SMA nthawi zambiri amakhala anzeru kwambiri komanso amakhala ochezeka. Kuphatikiza apo, pali chithandizo chomwe chingachedwetse kupitilira kwa matendawa, ndipo mayeso azachipatala akuchitidwa kuti apeze mankhwala.

Sakani: Pangani dongosolo lokuthandizani. Yambani ndi abale ndi abwenzi. Aphunzitseni kusamalira mwana wanu. Aphunzitseni kugwiritsa ntchito makina, pogwiritsa ntchito chimbudzi, kusamba, kuvala, kunyamula, kusamutsa, ndi kudyetsa. Izi zithandizira posamalira mwana wanu. Mukakhazikitsa gulu lamkati la abale ndi abwenzi, pitirizani. Funafunani mabungwe aboma omwe amathandiza anthu olumala.

Kusamalira: Mwambiwo umati, “Uyenera kuvala chophimba kumaso cha oxygen usanawathandize mwana wawo nawo.” Lingaliro lomweli likugwiranso ntchito pano. Pezani nthawi yolumikizana ndi omwe muli nawo pafupi kwambiri. Dzilimbikitseni nokha kuti mupeze nthawi yachisangalalo, kukhala nokha, ndi kusinkhasinkha. Dziwani kuti simuli nokha. Lankhulani ndi gulu la a SMA pazanema. Yang'anani pa zomwe mwana wanu angathe kuchita osati zomwe sangathe.

Dongosolo: Yembekezerani zam'tsogolo zomwe zingachitike kapena zomwe sizingachitike, ndipo konzekerani mogwirizana nazo. Chitani khama. Khazikitsani malo okhala ndi mwana wanu kuti athe kuyendetsa bwino. Pamene mwana yemwe ali ndi SMA angadzichitire yekha, zimakhala bwino. Kumbukirani, kuzindikira kwawo sikukhudzidwa, ndipo amadziwa bwino matenda awo komanso momwe amalepheretsa. Dziwani kuti kukhumudwa kumachitika mwana wanu akayamba kudziyerekeza ndi anzawo. Pezani zomwe zimawathandiza ndipo sangalalani nazo. Mukayamba maulendo apabanja (tchuthi, malo odyera, ndi zina zambiri), onetsetsani kuti malowo azikhala ndi mwana wanu.

Woyimira mulandu: Imani mwana wanu pabwalo lamaphunziro. Ali ndi ufulu wamaphunziro ndi chilengedwe chomwe chimawayenerera. Khalani otanganidwa, khalani okoma mtima (koma olimba), ndikupanga ubale waulemu komanso watanthauzo ndi omwe adzagwira ntchito ndi mwana wanu tsiku lonse kusukulu.

Sangalalani: Sitife matupi athu - {textend} ndife oposa pamenepo. Yang'anani mozama mu umunthu wa mwana wanu ndikuwonetsa zabwino mwa iwo. Adzakondwera nako kusangalala kwanu. Khalani owona mtima kwa iwo za moyo wawo, zopinga zawo, ndi kupambana kwawo.

Kusamalira mwana yemwe ali ndi SMA kumakulimbikitsani m'njira zambiri. Ikutsutsa inu ndi ubale uliwonse womwe muli nawo pakadali pano. Idzabweretsa mbali yakulenga ya inu. Idzatulutsa wankhondo mwa iwe. Kukonda mwana yemwe ali ndi SMA mosakayikira kukuyambitsani ulendo womwe simunadziwepo. Ndipo udzakhala munthu wabwino chifukwa cha izi.

Mutha kuchita izi.

Modzipereka,

Michael C. Casten

Michael C. Casten amakhala ndi mkazi wake ndi ana atatu okongola. Ali ndi digiri ya bachelor mu Psychology komanso digiri ya master ku Elementary Education. Wakhala akuphunzitsa kwazaka zopitilira 15 ndipo amasangalala ndikulemba. Ndiye wolemba mnzake Pakona ya Ella, yomwe imafotokoza za moyo wa mwana wake womaliza ndi msana.