Ndidasiya Kuyankhula Zokhudza Thupi Langa Kwa Masiku 30 — ndipo Thupi Langa Kinda Freaked Out

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• Anthu amitundu yonse samakhala osangalala ndi matupi awo.
• Ndizovuta kupewa zokambirana pagulu.
• Kuyang'ana *malingaliro* anu ndi nkhani ina kwathunthu.
• Sizimangonena zomwe mukunena-komanso momwe mukumvera.
• Kulankhula zaumoyo wanu ndichinthu china.
• Ndinaganiza zosinthanso zokambiranazo.
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Sindinawone thupi langa modziona ngati wofunika mpaka ndili mgiredi lachisanu ndi chimodzi ndipo ndavalabe zovala zogulidwa ku Kids R Us. Posakhalitsa m'misika inawonetsa kuti anzanga samavala atsikana a saizi 12 m'malo mwake amagula m'masitolo a achinyamata.

Ndinaganiza kuti ndiyenera kuchitapo kanthu pazakusiyanaku. Chotero Lamlungu lotsatira ku tchalitchi, ndinalinganiza pa mawondo anga ogogoda ndi kuyang’ana pamtanda wopachikidwa pakhoma, ndikupempha Mulungu kuti andipatse thupi limene lingakhoze kukwanira mu zovala zazing’ono: utali, ziuno—ndingatenge chirichonse. Ndinkafuna kulowa m'zovala, koma makamaka, ndimafuna kufanana ndi matupi ena ovala.

Kenako, ndinagunda kutha msinkhu ndipo ziboda zanga "zinalowa." Panthawiyi, ndinali kuchita ma sit-ups m'chipinda changa kuti ndikhale ngati Britney's. Ku koleji, ndinapeza moŵa wa queso ndi wotchipa—pamodzi ndi kuthamanga mtunda wautali ndi chizolowezi cha apo ndi apo chakumwa ndi kuchapa. Ndinaphunziranso kuti amuna amathanso kukhala ndi malingaliro athupi langa. Mnyamata wina yemwe ndinali naye pachibwenzi adandisisita m'mimba ndikunena, "uyenera kuchitapo kanthu," ndinaseka koma kenako ndinayesa kufafaniza mawu ake ndi thukuta lililonse. (Zokhudzana: Anthu Akulemba Makalata Nthawi Yoyamba Anachita Manyazi Mwathupi)

Chifukwa chake, ayi, ubale wanga ndi thupi langa sunakhalepo wathanzi. Koma ndapezanso kuti maubale osakhala bwino ndimitu yotchuka kwa ine ndi anzanga achikazi, kaya tikukamba za abwana, zibwenzi zakale, kapena khungu lomwe tili. Kunena zinthu ngati "Ndangokhala ndi mapaundi anayi a pizza. Ndine chilombo chonyansa," kapena "ugh, ndiyenera kudzikweza pamalo ochitira masewerawa kumapeto kwa sabata lino laukwati," zinali zachizolowezi.

Ndidayamba kuganiziranso izi pomwe wolemba mabuku a Jessica Knoll adasindikiza a New York Times lingaliro lotchedwa "Smash the Wellness Industry." Adagwiritsa ntchito mayeso a Bechdel ngati chofotokozera ndipo adayesa mtundu wina wamayeso mu 2019: "Akazi, kodi awiri kapena kupitilira apo titha kukhala limodzi osatchula matupi athu ndi zakudya? Kungakhale kachitidwe kakang'ono kokana ndi kudzisungira tokha ." Ndinakhala masiku ambiri ndikulimbana ndi zovuta zina - zovuta za masiku 30 za yoga, ndikusiya maswiti a Lent, chakudya chosadyeratu zanyama zilizonse — bwanji osatinso ichi?

Malamulo: Sindinganene za thupi langa kwa masiku 30, ndipo ndimayesetsa kutseka zolankhula za ena. Zingakhale zovuta bwanji? Ndimangolankhula mawu, kuthamangira kuchimbudzi, kusintha nkhani ... Komanso, ndinali kutali ndi anthu omwe ndimagwira nawo ntchito (ntchito ya amuna anga posachedwa idatipititsa ku London), chifukwa chake ndidaganiza kuti ndikadakhala ndi mwayi wochepa kwa onse zamkhutu izi kuyamba nazo.

Zachidziwikire, macheza amtundu uwu ali paliponse, kaya ndi maphwando amadzulo okhala ndi nkhope zatsopano kapena macheza a What's App ndi anzanu akale. Kuipa kwa thupi ndi mliri wapadziko lonse lapansi.

M’kupita kwa mwezi, nazi zimene ndinaphunzira:

Anthu amitundu yonse samakhala osangalala ndi matupi awo.

Nditangoyamba kutchera khutu kuzokambirana izi, ndinazindikira kuti aliyense anali nawo-mosatengera mtundu wamthupi ndi kukula kwake. Ndinalankhula ndi anthu omwe amagwera pa 2 peresenti ya azimayi aku America omwe ali ndi matupi a mayendedwe, nawonso ali ndi madandaulo awo. Amayi amamva ngati pali ola ili lofotokozera nthawi yomwe ayenera kubwereranso kulemera asanabadwe. Akwatibwi amaganiza kuti ayenera kutaya mapaundi khumi chifukwa aliyense (ine ndekha) akuti "kupsinjika kumapangitsa kuti kulemera kugwere pomwepo." Mwachiwonekere, vuto ili ndi lalikulu kuposa kukula kapena chiwerengero pa sikelo.

Ndizovuta kupewa zokambirana pagulu.

Sindinakhalepo wina woyika zithunzi za thupi langa, makamaka chifukwa sindinayambe ndanyadirapo kuti ndiwonetsere. Koma ndizovuta kupewa zokambirana zonse zomwe timakhala nazo zokhudzana ndi matupi athu pa intaneti. Ena mwa ma conco ndi okhutira ndi thupi (#LoveMyShape), koma ngati mukuyesera kuti mupewe macheza onse, Instagram ndi malo okwirira mgodi.

Ndi wonyenga. Zisanachitike izi, mlongo wanga adandiwonetsa mapulogalamu omwe amakulolani kuti mulowetse m'mimba mwanu ndikutulutsa chiuno ndikutenga mawonekedwe a Kardashian m'mapampu ochepa chabe. Tikuyendera mnzanga wapamtima Sarah ku U.S. Tinamaliza kutumiza zithunzi zomwe sizinasinthidwe, koma ndikuuzeni, zinali zokopa kutumiza zokopa kwambiri. Ndiye, tikudziwa bwanji kuti ndi zithunzi ziti zomwe zili pazakudya zathu zomwe zili zenizeni, komanso zomwe zili ndi photoshop?

Kuyang'ana *malingaliro* anu ndi nkhani ina kwathunthu.

Ngakhale sindimayankhula za thupi langa, ndinali kuganiza za izo mosalekeza. Ndinkasunga zipika zatsiku ndi tsiku pazakudya zomwe ndimadya komanso zokambirana zomwe ndidamva. Ndinalotanso maloto owopsa omwe anandiyeza poyera pa sikelo yaikulu, kusonyeza mu manambala ofiira owala kuti ndinali wolemera mapaundi 15 kuposa kale lonse. Ngakhale kuti ndinali ndi vuto la maonekedwe a thupi langa, sindinalotepo za kulemera kwanga. Zili ngati ndimangokhalira kuganizira ayi kutengeka.

Sizimangonena zomwe mukunena-komanso momwe mukumvera.

Sindinali kumva bwino. Nkhani yotsalayi inali ngati njovu yovuta kulemera mchipindamo. Poyesera kuti ndikhale wolingalira, ndinali kulephera kulamulira. Ndinkachita masewera olimbitsa thupi m'mawa uliwonse. Ndinali kuyesera kuti ndisamangoganizira za zakudya zanga koma mosazindikira. Ndidadya chakudya cham'mawa; nkhomaliro, ndimadya saladi ndi kapu ya batala wa chiponde cha kirimba wothamangitsidwa ndi espresso iwiri; pambuyo pa ntchito ndimasangalatsa alendo pa 10 p.m. pub grub, ndipo koloko ikafika 5 koloko m'mawa ndimadumpha pabedi kuti ndidzilange ndi masewera ena olimbitsa thupi. Zoonadi, kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi nthawi zonse ndi chinthu chabwino kwa anthu ambiri, koma ndimangokhalira kukankhira thupi langa kuti ndichite masewera apamwamba kwambiri komanso othamanga kwambiri MPH pa Barry's Bootcamp. Ndipo sindinali kusangalala nazo. Mwanjira inayake, kuyesera kumeneku kunayamba kusokoneza mutu wanga-komanso thanzi langa. (Zokhudzana: Zomwe Zimamveka Kukhala Ndi Bulimia Yolimbitsa Thupi)

Kulankhula zaumoyo wanu ndichinthu china.

Ndidawona zomwe ndimaganiza kuti ndizowopsa pambuyo pa yoga tsiku lina. Ndinazinyalanyaza kwa masiku angapo mpaka kupweteka pansi pa chigaza changa ndi zaps zogwedezeka ndi magetsi pansi pa zidzolo zinandibweretsa kwa GP. Ndinamva kupusa nditauza adotolo kuti zonse zimawoneka ngati zokhudzana. Koma ndinali kunena zoona. Anandipeza ndili ndi shingles ndili ndi zaka 33.

Chitetezo changa cha mthupi chinali chitachita ngozi. Dokotala wanga anandiuza kuti sindingathe kulimbitsa thupi, ndipo ndinayamba kulira. Uwu unali njira yanga yokhayo yochepetsera nkhawa, ndipo ndinali kuyesa kupeza anzanga atsopano mwa kukonza masiku olimbitsa thupi. Kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi ndi vinyo ndi zinthu zokha zomwe ndimadziwa momwe ndingagwirizanirane ndi akazi. Ndipo tsopano sindinakhale nawo. Dokotala wanga anati ndidye zakudya zopatsa thanzi, kugona pang'ono, ndi kusiya ntchito sabata yonseyo.

Nditaumitsa misozi yanga, ndinamva mpumulo kugwa pa ine. Kwa nthawi yoyamba m'moyo wanga, ndimalankhula za thupi langa m'njira yopindulitsa — osati monga kuwonjezera thupi langa lodzidalira, koma ngati makina ofunikira omwe amandipangitsa kuti ndiyende moongoka, ndikupuma, ndilankhule, ndi kuphethira. Ndipo thupi langa limayankhulayankha, kundiuza kuti ndichepe.

Ndinaganiza zosinthanso zokambiranazo.

Pakati pazovuta izi - komanso kuzindikira kwanga - ndinabwerera ku U.S. ku maukwati awiri. Ndipo pomwe cholinga changa sichinali kukamba za thupi langa, ndidapeza kuti chete mwina sikanali mankhwala abwino. Zomwe zidayamba ngati chinsinsi chotseka zokambirana zidakhala njira yoyambira zokambirana zabwino ndikupangitsa anthu kuti azikumbukira zizolowezi zoyipa zomwe zimafalitsa mbiri yathu ndipo zidaperekedwa kudzera pazanema, zitsanzo zathu, kapena amayi kudzera mwa amayi awo ' amayi.

Ndinkakhala ndi nkhawa ndikaphonya masewera olimbitsa thupi kapena ndikudya ma carbs ambiri, koma ndikupita ku New York, ndidayamba kuyendayenda m'misewu momwe ndimakhala zaka zopitilira khumi. Ndinkadzuka molawirira ndikuyenda mabuloko makumi awiri kupita kumalo ogulitsira khofi omwe ndasankha pamapu a Google. Izi zidandipatsa nthawi ndi malingaliro anga, kumvera ma podcasts, kuyang'ana chipwirikiti ndi matupi otha kugwira ntchito mondizungulira.

Sindinasiye kuyankhula za thupi langa komanso thanzi langa. Koma kukambirana kukakhala kadyedwe kapena kusakhutira, ndimabweretsa nkhani ya a Jessica Knoll. Mwa kulowerera-ndikutulutsa-namsongole yemwe wafalikira m'mbiri yaubwino, ndidapeza kuti titha kupanga mpata kuti zokambirana zatsopano zikule.

Chifukwa chake mu mzimu wa zokambirana zatsopanozi, ndikumutsutsa ndi vuto langa. M'malo moyankhapo zakuthupi za mnzako, tiyeni tiwonjezere: Tithokoze mnzako chifukwa chakulola kuti uwonongeke kwa sabata limodzi pomwe umaganiza kuti uli ndi nsikidzi (ine ndekha?) , kapena dziwitsani abwana anu kuti luso lake pa bizinesi lakulimbikitsani kuti mupeze MFA yanu.

Ndikufuna kukhala patebulopo ndikudumphira mopanda mantha pamutu uliwonse womwe tikukambirana - ndi nkhokwe yamafuta yomwe tikumitsiramo zoyikapo mkate.

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