Kuthetsa Nthano kuti Vaginas aku Asia Ndiwothina

Zamkati

• Kotero tiyeni tigone nthanoyo
• Amayi ambiri aku Asia amakumana koyamba ndi izi atayamba kugonana ndi amuna
• Amayi ena aku Asia, komabe, zimawona kuti zomwe amafanazo zimakhala zovuta komanso zosasangalatsa.
• Koma nthano yakufa sikutanthauza kuti zotsatirapo zake zimazimiririka

Palibe nthano yovulaza kuposa kuyembekezera kukhala ndi nyini yolimba.

Kuyambira pachifuwa chosatha mpaka miyendo yosalala, yopanda tsitsi, ukazi wakhala ukugwiriridwa nthawi zonse ndikukhala ndi miyezo yosatheka.

Sayansi yawonetsa kuti zolinga zosatheka izi zili ndi zotsatira zowononga kudzimva kwa akazi. Komabe, palibe chomwe chakhala chowopsa, kapena chosafufuzidwa, monga chiyembekezo chokhala ndi nyini yolimba.

Amayi olimba amayamikiridwa pafupifupi munthawi zonse komanso chikhalidwe chilichonse chomwe chachokera ku ukapolo. Amawerengedwa ngati zisonyezo za unamwali ndi kudzisunga, zochokera pachikhulupiriro chakuti akazi ndi katundu, kuti akhalebe osakhudzidwa pokhapokha ndi amuna awo.

Koma pamunsi, nyini yolimba imawonekeranso ngati chinthu chosangalatsa kwambiri kuti azimayi azikhala nacho chifukwa choti ndizosangalatsa kuti amuna a cis alowemo. Kuchita opaleshoni yobwezeretsa ukazi, kupangitsa kuti "amuna asokere," ngakhale machitidwe owoneka ngati oopsa a Kegel: Zonsezi zimachokera pakukhulupirira kuti ma nyini olimba ndimabanja abwino.

Ndipo malingaliro awa akuwoneka kuti amakhudza kwambiri azimayi aku Asia makamaka.

Woseketsa Amy Schumer nthawi ina adayesa nthabwala: "Zilibe kanthu zomwe mungachite, azimayi, mnyamata aliyense adzakusiyani kuti mukhale mkazi waku Asia… Ndipo amabweretsa bwanji kunyumba kuti apambane? O, nyini zazing'ono kwambiri pamasewerawa. ”

Anamuuza kuti akuganiza kuti atsikana aku Asia ndiopambana chifukwa maliseche awo anali olimba.

Dr. Valinda Nwadike, MD ndi katswiri wa azamba ndi azimayi ku California, Maryland, amatha kuwona momwe izi zilili, ndipo mtima wonse sukugwirizana ndi zomwe zanenedwa. "Kunena zowona musaganize kuti [azimayi aku Asia okhala ndi nyini zazing'ono] ndizowona. Sindikutsutsana nazo. Sitipanga zisankho zakukula - tiribe ma speculum a ku Asia. Izi zokha zingasokoneze nthanoyo. Tiyenera kukagona kwathunthu. ”

Kotero tiyeni tigone nthanoyo

Sizikudziwika bwinobwino kuti nthanoyi idayambira pati, koma ambiri akukayikira kuti idachokera mchikoloni. Patricia Park, wa Bitch Media, amatchulanso zakugonana kumeneku ku Nkhondo yaku Korea ndi Vietnam, pomwe United States idakhazikitsa gulu lankhondo.

Amayi zikwizikwi aku Asia, kuphatikiza azimayi aku Thailand ndi Philippines, adagulitsidwa ndikuwakakamiza kuti azichita uhule ndi asitikali achizungu aku America. (Zowonongekazi zikuwonekera makamaka ku Thailand, komwe zokopa alendo ambiri adakonzedwa kuti alipire ngongole.)

Zotsatira zake, kukumana koyamba kwa azungu azungu ndi azimayi aku Asia kunali munthawi yogonjetsedwa yankhondo komanso kuwazunza.

Mu Journal of the American Philosophical Association, a Robin Zheng adanenanso kuti mbiriyi yakumba momwe anthu akuwonekera kwa azimayi aku Asia masiku ano. Olankhula ku Hollywood makamaka amajambula azimayi aku Asia ngati ogonana, kuyambira pa msungwana wogonjera mpaka ku China Doll ndi dona wamkazi, mpaka atabereka ndikukhala amayi agalu. (Ithaca College Library imasunga mndandanda wazithunzi za aku Asia m'makanema, kuwonetsa momwe maudindowo aliri ochepa pazogonana, zigawenga, kapena kufufutiratu.)

Koma njira yatsopano yatsopano pomwe zambiri zabodza izi zikupitilizabe? Zolaula, nthaka yomwe ikufulumira kukhala gwero lalikulu la maphunziro azakugonana kwa achinyamata.

Mzungu wina wazaka 27, yemwe adapempha kuti asadziwike, akufotokoza momwe njirayi inali komwe adaphunzirira lingaliro loti azimayi aku Asia ali ndi nyini zolimba.

Iye anati: “Zithunzi zolaula zimalimbikitsa kwambiri mfundo imeneyi. "Pali zolaula zambiri, zomwe zingagwirizane ndi azimayi aku Asia ndi amuna akuda, kusewera malingaliro olakwika pazakugonana. Chifukwa chake, ndikuganiza kuti ndi chinthu chomwe amuna adazika mizu yawo. "

Amayi ambiri aku Asia amakumana koyamba ndi izi atayamba kugonana ndi amuna.

Komabe, nthano iyi sikuti imangofalikira m'magulu amuna. Ngakhale azimayi amapitiliza izi.

Jenny Snyder, mayi wazaka 27 wazaka za ku Asia nawonso wochokera ku Louisville, akuti mnzake wamkazi wachizungu adamufunsa kusukulu yasekondale ngati nyini yake idali cham'mbali. Snyder akukumbukira kuti: "Amandifunsa ngati maliseche anga anali osasunthika." "Amaganiziranso kuti kubowola kwanga kunali kopingasa - ngati tsaya lina pamwamba pa linzake."

Michelle Eigenheer, mayi waku Korea wakubadwa waku Louisville, Kentucky, akukumbukira zomwe zidamuchitikira pomwe mayi wake wazachipatala - mayi wachizungu - adasinthira ku speculum yomwe nthawi zambiri imasungidwira achinyamata pakati pa mayeso.

"Zikuwoneka kuti ndimakhudzidwa kwambiri ndikuti ndinali wovuta m'malo mosiyana kwenikweni ndi chilengedwe," akutero Eigenheer. "Koma zidandipangitsa kudabwa - kodi izi ndi zenizeni?"

Monga katswiri wamankhwala azachipatala, a Dr. Nwadike sanawonepo kufunika kosintha ma speculum. "Ndizotheka kuti samalumikizana ndi anthu ambiri aku Asia. Zimatengera kuti ndi anthu ati omwe amakhala nawo, mwina alibe mwayi wowona kuti izi zatha, "akutero, atafunsidwa chifukwa chomwe amaganiza kuti izi zikupitilirabe, ngakhale azachipatala. "Anthu ambiri amaganiza kuti amuna akuda ali ndi mawonekedwe ena, ndipo sizowona, koma malingaliro omwewo akupitilizabe."

Amayi ambiri aku Asia amakumana koyamba ndi izi atayamba kugonana ndi amuna

Mayi wina wazaka 19 wa ku America wa ku America dzina lake Grace Que, wochokera ku Chicago, ananena kuti anamva “akugwedezekagwedezeka ndi anthu angapo komanso anthu amene amakonda kwambiri nyimbo za pop.”

Koma sanadziwe yekha mpaka atayamba kugonana.Amuna omwe anali nawo pachithandara ankanena za kulimba mtima kwake ponena mawu akuti, "O mulungu wanga, ndinu olimba kwambiri."

Jennifer Osaki, wazaka 23 wazaka zaku Japan waku America wakulira ku Los Angeles, California, adakumana ndi zotere. Adamva zamakedzana kuchokera kwa amuna am'kalasi mwake ku koleji, koma sanadziwone yekha mpaka atakhala pachibwenzi ndi mzungu chaka chachiwiri.

Anamuuza kuti akuganiza kuti atsikana aku Asia ndiopambana chifukwa maliseche awo anali olimba.

Osaki anati: "Ndidaseka pang'ono chifukwa munthawiyo, ndidazindikira kuti ndichinthu chabwino."

Ndipo zowonadi, chizindikiro chokhala ndi nyini yolimbikira chimakondedwa kwambiri ndikuwoneka ngati "chinthu chabwino" ndi azimayi ambiri aku Asia.

"Ngati nyini yolimba ndichinthu, ndikukhulupirira kuti ndili nayo," akutero Que. "Zachidziwikire kuti kugonana kumayamikiridwa kwambiri ndi munthu winayo kuposa kale. Anzanga ambiri abwino nthawi zonse amati zolimba ndizabwino kwambiri. ”

Monga kutsutsana kwa nyini yolimba yofunika, nyini "yotayirira" imalumikizidwa ndi akazi "oyipa" - azimayi omwe ali ndi zibwenzi zochuluka kwambiri.

Zoe Peyronnin, mayi wazaka 21 waku America waku America wakulira ku New York, akuwonetsanso izi. Ngakhale akutchula zakukayikira kuti kuthekera kotereku kutha kupititsa patsogolo azimayi aku Asia, pomaliza pake amaliza kuti, "Mwini, lingaliro lokhala ndi nyini yolimba ndilabwino, osagonana."

Amayi ena aku Asia, komabe, zimawona kuti zomwe amafanazo zimakhala zovuta komanso zosasangalatsa.

"Ngati muli ndi minofu yolimba kumusi uko, ndizodabwitsa," akutero a Phi Anh Nguyen, mayi waku America waku America waku San Francisco, California. “Ndikuganiza kuti ndichinthu chonyadira. Komabe, kumangiriza khalidweli kwa azimayi aku Asia kuti awapangitse kukhala okondweretsedwa si chinthu chabwino. Zimatilepheretsa. ”

Eigenheer akuti samakhala womasuka kwambiri amuna a Tinder akaugwiritsa ntchito ngati mzere wawo wotsegulira, kapena amuchitira mosiyana kutengera malingaliro omwe anali nawo okhudzana ndi nyini yake.

"Amangofuna kulumikizana kwatsopano," akutero. "Koma kwenikweni, akudyetsa machitidwe omwe ndi ankhanza kwambiri kwa amayi. Chikhulupiriro chimenechi chimachokera kuzikhulupiriro zambiri zosankhana mitundu zomwe azimayi amavutika nazo. ”

Chikhumbo chokhala ndi nyini yolimba chikadachulukabe mdziko lonselo - ndipo mwina, dziko lapansi - lomwe limakhudza amayi kulikonse.

"Pali lingaliro ili lakufuna nyini yothina," akutero Dr. Nwadike. Ngakhale sanakhale ndi odwala aku Asia omwe amapanga zisankho zaumoyo kutengera izi, wakumanapo ndi mafuko ena omwe amapanga pempho potengera nthano ya nyini yolimba. "Ndakhala ndikulankhula ndi azimayi aku Middle East akufuna kupanga maliseche awo, kufuna kuchitidwa opaleshoni yodzikongoletsa chifukwa amuna awo adawafunsa."

Yerekezerani kutengera kutsika kwa nyini yaku Asia yolimba ndi kufanana kwa nyini yotayirira. Monga kutsutsana kwa nyini yolimba yofunika kwambiri, nyini "yotayirira" imalumikizidwa ndi akazi "oyipa" - azimayi omwe ali ndi zibwenzi zambiri zogonana.

"Palibe mkazi amene amafuna kukhala womangika," akutero Eigenheer. “Ndi zopweteka! Kukongola konse kwa 'nyini yothina' kuli mu zowawa za mkazi - chisangalalo chamwamuna poyambitsa mavuto amkazi. "

Lingaliro limeneli nthawi zambiri limagwiritsidwa ntchito pochita manyazi, monga ngati mayi wachikhristu amayerekezera kumaliseche kwa Taylor Swift ndi sangweji ya ham kutanthauza kuti anali wachiwerewere. Ndipo mawu onyoza "kuponyera galu wotentha munjiramo" akuwonetsanso kuti maliseche azimayi amatambasulidwa atagonana kwambiri.

Vuto, komabe, ndilakuti nthano yamaliseche iyi, komanso nthano zina zambiri zazimayi, sizokhazikitsidwa ndi sayansi.

Sayansi imawonetsa mobwerezabwereza kuti kutuluka kwachikazi kulibe mgwirizano uliwonse ndi chiwerewere. Sipanakhalepo kafukufuku wina aliyense wofananitsa azimayi aku Asia ndi mitundu ina.

Anthu ambiri omwe ndidayankhula nawo amanenanso kuti zikuwoneka kuti palibe maziko asayansi pazotsutsana. "Amayi amabwera mosiyanasiyana," Nguyen akuwonetsa.

Komabe, popeza kuti nthanoyi imazikidwa kwambiri pazomwe munthu adakumana nazo, zomwe zimakhudzidwa kwambiri, padzakhala ena, monga mzungu wazaka 27 yemwe sanatchulidwe, omwe amaumirira kuti zomwe akunenazo ndi "zowonadi."

"Pazochitikira zanga, ndapeza kuti zatsimikizika kuti ndizowona mobwerezabwereza kuti azimayi aku Asia adasala nyini," akutero. "Ndinganene kuti ndiothina kuposa akazi amitundu ina."

Kumbali inayi, Eigenheer ali ndi zokumana nazo zomwe zikusonyeza zosiyana.

"Kwa zomwe ndakumana nazo, izi sizowona," akutero. “Palibe bambo amene adandiuzapo kuti nyini yanga inali yosiyana ndi ya munthu wina aliyense. Ndipo polankhula ndi azimayi ena aku Asia, ndikuganiza kuti nawonso anganene zomwezo. "

Irene Kim, wazaka 23 wazaka Korea waku America waku New Jersey, akuvomereza, akukana malingaliro omwewo. Akuti ndizosatheka kukhala zoona kwa akazi onse aku Asia.

"Simungathe kudziwika ndi anthu onse okhala ndi mawonekedwe ngati amenewo," akutero Kim. "Ngati sizowona kwa mayi aliyense waku Asia, ndiye kuti siziyenera kukambidwa ngati zilili."

Kupatula pakukhala kosagwirizana ndi sayansi, malingaliro azakugonanazi nawonso ndi owopsa chifukwa amatsindika kufunikira kwakusangalatsa kwamwamuna mopweteketsa ululu wamkazi.

"Palibe mkazi amene amafuna kukhala womangika," akutero Eigenheer. “Ndi zopweteka! Kukongola konse kwa 'nyini yothina' kuli mu zowawa za mkazi - chisangalalo chamwamuna poyambitsa mavuto amkazi. "

Chifukwa chake, sizosadabwitsa kuti nthano yoti azimayi aku Asia ali ndi nyini zolimba zimakhudzanso amayi omwe sianthu aku Asia. Kafukufuku akuwonetsa kuti azimayi a cis amamva kuwawa (pafupifupi 30% ku United States) akagonana.

Chosangalatsa ndichakuti, pali azimayi ena aku Asia aku America - makamaka azaka zapakati pa 18 mpaka 21 omwe amakhala m'mizinda yayikulu m'mphepete mwa nyanja - omwe sanamvepo za nthano iyi.

“Kodi ichi ndi chinthu?” akufunsa Ashlyn Drake, mayi wazaka 21 wazaka za ku China wochokera ku New York. "Sindinamvepo izi kale."

Koma nthano yakufa sikutanthauza kuti zotsatirapo zake zimazimiririka

Kusaka kwaposachedwa kwa google kwa "mtundu wolimba wa nyini" kumabweretsanso ulusi angapo wonamizira nthano iyi. Tsoka ilo, m'malo mongotaya lingaliroli, ulusi uwu - kuyambira 2016 - amagwiritsa ntchito maphunziro ang'onoang'ono osakwanira (omwe amangoyang'ana mafuko atatu okha ndi kusayenda kwamikodzo) kuti ayambitsenso mandala kwa akazi akuda m'malo mwake.

Palibe chifukwa chophunzirira zambiri zamtundu ndi nyini zomwe sizingachitike. "Chifukwa chiyani aliyense angawerenge izi ndipo zingagwire ntchito yanji?" anatero Dr. Nwadike. Amatchulanso momwe pali zizindikilo zina zambiri zakukula m'chiuno kupitilira mtundu, monga mtundu wa thupi, zaka, ndi kubala. "Pali zosintha zambiri kuti tizinena mawu motakata. Ngati mutayang'ana kukula, ndiyo metric imodzi yokha. Ndimaona kuti munthuyo si wofanana ndi anthu ena. ”

Funso, chotero, siloti kaya ndi akazi owona aku Asia alidi ndi maliseche olimbirana kuposa akazi amitundu ina.

Kukhala ndi zokambirana "za mtundu uti" ndizosokoneza kwenikweni komanso kumachepetsa kufunikira kwa amayi ngati anthu mpaka kukhutitsidwa ndi kugonana komwe angapatse amuna (nthawi zambiri mopweteketsa chisangalalo chawo ndi chisangalalo).

Makamaka pakadali maphunziro ndi malipoti azimayi omwe amagonana dala kuti asangalatse amuna.

M'malo mwake - pomwe nthano ili ndi mphamvu zambiri zopweteketsa kuposa zothandiza - funso lomwe tiyenera kufunsa ndiloti, chifukwa chiyani "kulimba" kwanyengo kulibe kanthu?

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