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Kukulitsa chidwi chamalingaliro

ndipo mudziwe nthawi yoti mumvetsere kwachibadwa chanu. "Chidziwitso chimalongosola masomphenya anu ndikukufikitsani ku cholinga choyenera," akutero Judith Orloff, M.D., wothandizira pulofesa wazachipatala ku University of California, Los Angeles, yemwe buku lake lodzithandizira Mphamvu Zabwino idangotulutsidwa m'mapepala ndi Three Rivers Press. "Ikukuuza zowona momwe ungadzithandizire mwakuthupi, mwamalingaliro komanso m'njira zakugonana zomwe malingaliro ako sangakuuze."

Njira Zothetsera

Mvetserani ku zizindikiro za thupi lanu. Nthawi zina thupi lanu limamva zoopsa kapena zoopsa maganizo anu asanayambe. Kupuma kwanu kapena kugunda kwa mtima kumatha kusintha, kapena mutha kumva kuzizira mwadzidzidzi pakhungu mukakhala pafupi ndi anthu ena. Onetsetsani ngati mumakhala mwamtendere kapena mozungulira mukakhala ndi ena, ndipo mudzatha kupanga zisankho zabwino za omwe mukufuna kuti mugwire nawo ntchito kapena kucheza nawo.

Sungani zidziwitso zobisika za mdera lanu. Mukakhala pakadali pano ndipo mukuyang'ana kwambiri pano komanso pano, mutha kuyamba kupeza zidziwitso zofunikira - monga kukomoka mwa mnyamata yemwe muli pachibwenzi kapena kusamvana pakati pa abwenzi. "Malo aliwonse azinyamula mphamvu za anthu omwe akukhalamo," akutero a Lauren Thibodeau, Ph.D., wolemba Skillman, N.J. Kutengera Kwachilengedwe (New Page Books, 2005). "Ngati mumvera za mphamvu zake, mudzayamba kuzindikira zomwe zikuchitika kumeneko."

Limbikitsani kusaka kwanu. Osadalira mphamvu yanu yachisanu ndi chimodzi mwachimbulimbuli - ifunseni ndikuyesa kulondola kwake poyendetsa malingaliro anu am'mbuyomu abwenzi odalirika komanso achibale anu. "Poyamba, ndimalingaliro nthawi zina mumalondola ndipo nthawi zina mumalakwitsa," akutero Orloff. Komabe, mukamayesetsa, mudzapeza nthawi yabwino yomvera mawu anu amkati.

Phindu

Kulemekeza malingaliro anu kumatha kukuthandizani kupanga zisankho zabwino, kukhala ndi malingaliro anzeru kwambiri kuti mudziwe kuti ndi ndani kapena zomwe mungadalire. Zili ngati kukhala ndi mphunzitsi wanu, nyumba yosungiramo zinthu zakale, alonda ndi gulu la alangizi, zonse zitakulungidwa kukhala imodzi. Orloff anati: “Kuzindikira kumakuthandizani kuchita zinthu zimene zili zoyenera kwa inu osati zimene munthu wina wakuuzani kuti muchite. "Ndipo izi zingakuthandizeni kukhala moyo wanu wonse."

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