Zomwe Atsikana Amalankhula Ndi Agogo Ako Zitha Kukuphunzitsani Za Ubale Wathanzi

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Mukuyang'ana kukometsera zokambirana pa chakudya chamadzulo ndi zochulukirapo kuposa zokhazokha zamsitolo? Zomwe zikuchitika, ena mwa zitsanzo zabwino kwambiri zogonana ndi agogo anu (kapena aliyense amene ali wamkulu kapena akulu kuposa inu), atero a Joan Price, katswiri wazakugonana komanso wolemba Wamaliseche Pazaka Zathu: Kuyankhula Mokweza Zokhudza Kugonana Akuluakulu.

"M'badwo uliwonse umaganiza kuti ndiwoyamba kugonana, pomwe izi sizowona! Koma kuzindikira kuti kugonana kumapitilira nthawi yonse ya moyo wanu, ndipo nthawi zambiri, kumatha kukhala bwino ndi ukalamba, kungakuthandizeni kusangalala ndi zomwe ' Ndili pano tsopano, "akutero.

Zikumveka zosamveka, koma mwina ndiyofunika mavumbulutso. Apa, zifukwa zina zitatu zakulankhulirana pogonana-kapena, kudandaula, kubweretsa agogo aakazi kuti adzaone 50 Mithunzi ya Imvi-angakhale abwino kwa nonse. (Ponena za achibale osakondedwa kwambiri, fufuzani Momwe Mungathanirane ndi Achibale Okhumudwitsa pa Tchuthi.)

Imakupatsirani Kuzindikira Zomwe Zimapangitsa Banja Lanu Kukhala Lolemba

Sitikunena kuti muyenera kusinthana zambiri za malo omwe mumawakonda, koma khalani omasuka pofunsa kuti kugonana kunali kotani m'masiku ake, kapena malingaliro ake pa nkhani yomwe imazungulira pakati pa atsikana. Mutha kupeza kuti agogo anu aakazi amalimbikitsa kuti azichita nawo chidwi, kapena kuti amayi anu akufuna kuti atakhala pachibwenzi asanakhale iwo ndi abambo anu. Ngakhale zitakhala zotani, kumva malingaliro awo m'mayanjano awo kumatha kukupatsani mawonekedwe atsopano kuti muwone anu, Mitengo ikuti.

Zimakupangitsani Kuwona Kuti Ubwenzi Umakhala Wonse

Mwina agogo anu ndi agogo awo amakupsompsona m'mawa uliwonse, mwina amayi anu akupitabe kukagona nthawi yomweyo ndi abambo anu-kuwona momwe mibadwo yakale imasinthira matupi awo osintha ndi moyo wawo ndi chikumbutso champhamvu kuti malo ogonana ndi zosangalatsa 'osati za achinyamata okha, akutikumbutsa Mtengo. "Mukamakula, mumakhala olimba mtima kwambiri pazomwe zimakugwirirani ntchito komanso zomwe muyenera kupeza ndikusunga zosangalatsa," akutero. Kudziwa agogo ndi abambo anu kumapangitsa chidwi kukhala choyambirira-m'njira iliyonse yomwe angawapeze-ndichikumbutso champhamvu kuti muchite zomwezo pamoyo wanu. (Ngati chikumbutso chamwayi chomwe inu ndi wokondedwa wanu mwakhala nacho, phunzirani Momwe Mungagonere Kunyumba kwa Makolo Anu.)

Ndi Chikumbutso Chakuti Kugonana Kumayamba Bwino Ndikukula

Mumamufunsa agogo anu zaufulu zaulendo wawo waposachedwa, ndipo iye ndi agogo anu amasinthana ndikuwoneka manyazi. Pewani kulakalaka, ndipo m'malo mwake, onani izi ngati chikumbutso kuti kugonana kosangalatsa, kwakuthupi, kosayiwalika ndikotheka ngakhale mutabadwa zaka khumi. "Kugonana kumasintha, koma kumatha kukhala kopanga komanso kokulirapo mukakula chifukwa mukudziwa kuti ndinu ndani," akufotokoza Price.

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