Kugwirizana ndi mwana wanu wakhanda

Kugwirizana kumachitika pamene inu ndi mwana wanu mumayamba kumvana kwambiri. Mutha kumva chikondi chachikulu komanso chisangalalo mukamayang'ana mwana wanu. Mutha kumva kuti mukuteteza mwana wanu.

Uwu ndi ubale woyamba ndi inu womwe umaphunzitsa makanda kuti azikhala otetezeka komanso azisangalala ndi anthu ena. Amaphunzira kukukhulupirirani chifukwa amadziwa kuti mumawakonda komanso kuwasamalira. Ana omwe ali ndi ubale wolimba ndi makolo awo amatha kukhulupirira ena ndikukhala ndi ubale wabwino akamakula.

Inu ndi mwana wanu mutha kulumikizana pakadutsa mphindi zochepa, masiku angapo, kapena milungu ingapo. Kugwirizana kumatha kutenga nthawi yayitali ngati mwana wanu amafunikira chithandizo chamankhwala pobadwa, kapena ngati mwalandira mwana wanu. Dziwani kuti mutha kulumikizana ndi mwana wanu wobadwa naye komanso makolo obadwira amamvana ndi ana awo.

Osadandaula kapena kudziimba mlandu ngati zimatenga nthawi yochulukirapo kuposa momwe mumayembekezera kuti mupange ubale wapamtima ndi mwana wanu. Izi sizitanthauza kuti ndinu kholo loipa. Malingana ngati mukusamalira zosowa za mwana wanu, mgwirizanowu umakhala.

Ngati kubereka kunayenda bwino, mwana wanu akhoza kukhala tcheru atabadwa. Tengani nthawi ino kuti mugwire ndikuyang'ana mwana wanu. Uwu ndi mwayi wabwino kwambiri wolumikizana. Nthawi zina zolumikizana zitha kuchitika mukakhala:

• Kuyamwitsa. Ngati mwasankha kuyamwitsa, mwana wanu adzalumikizidwa ndi fungo lanu ndikukhudza mukamadyetsedwa.
• Chakudya cha botolo.Mukamadyetsa mabotolo, mwana wanu amatha kudziwa fungo lanu komanso kukhudza kwanu.
• Gwirani mwana wanu, makamaka khungu pakhungu pomwe mungathe.
• Yang'anani maso ndi mwana wanu.
• Yankhani kwa mwana wanu akalira. Anthu ena amada nkhawa za kuwononga mwana. Koma simudzawononga mwana wanu mosamala kwambiri.
• Sewerani ndi mwana wanu.
• Lankhulani, werengani, ndikuyimbira mwana wanu. Izi zimamuthandiza kuti adziwe bwino mawu anu.

Mukamabweretsa mwana wanu wakhanda, ntchito yanu ndikusamalira mwana wanu komanso ubale wanu. Izi ndizosavuta ngati muli ndi thandizo kunyumba. Mutha kukhala otopa kwambiri ndiudindo watsopano womwe umadza ndi kukhala ndi mwana watsopano. Lolani abwenzi ndi abale kuti azigwira ntchito wamba monga kuchapa zovala, kugula zakudya, ndi kuphika.

Mutha kukhala ndi vuto logwirizana ndi mwana wanu ngati:

• Anali ndi nthawi yayitali kapena yovuta yoberekera
• Muzimva wotopa
• Kukumana ndi kusinthasintha kwamaganizidwe kapena kusintha kwa mahomoni
• Mukudwala matenda a postpartum
• Khalani ndi mwana yemwe amafunikira chithandizo chamankhwala chapadera

Apanso, izi sizitanthauza kuti ndinu kholo loipa kapena simudzapangana. Zingatenge nthawi yambiri ndi khama.

Pambuyo pa masabata angapo osamalira mwana wanu wakhanda, ngati simukumva kuti mukugwirizana kapena mukumverera kuti simukukonda mwana wanu, lankhulani ndi wothandizira zaumoyo. Ngati muli ndi vuto la postpartum, onetsetsani kuti mwalandira chithandizo cha akatswiri posachedwa.

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Robinson L, Saisan J, Smith M, Segal J. Kupanga mgwirizano wolimba ndi mwana wanu. www.helpguide.org/articles/parenting-family/building-a-secure-attachment-bond-with-your-baby.htm. Idapezeka pa Marichi 13, 2019.

Webusaiti ya US Department of Health and Human Services. Kugwirizana ndi mwana wanu. www.childwelfare.gov/pubPDFs/bonding.pdf. Idapezeka pa Marichi 13, 2019.

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