Njira 5 Zomwe Taylor Swift Amadziwa Kuti Watuluka M'nkhalango

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Pakati pausiku Lachiwiri, nyimbo wapamwamba Taylor mwepesi, teleka (ndi cat lady extraordinaire) adapatsa mafani ake nyimbo yatsopano kuchokera mu chimbale chake chomwe chikubwera, 1989, yotchedwa "Kuchokera M'nkhalango." Ngakhale satchula mayina (ahem, Zithunzi za Harry) panjira yovuta kwambiri, a T. Swift adauza Mmawa Wabwino waku America kuti nyimboyi ikutanthauza "kulanda kufooka ndi kusweka kwa maubwenzi."

Ndi mawu ngati "Tatuluka kutchire kodi? Kodi tili omvekabe?" nyimbo yokoka imasonyeza momwe zimakhalira kukhala muubwenzi watsopano. Ndikumverera kwa "chisangalalo, komanso, kuda nkhawa kwambiri komanso kuda nkhawa," monga Swift akunenera.

Kumveka bwino? Ifenso. Osadandaula, Taylor-tonse tinakhalako. Kuchita zibwenzi ndi munthu yemwe mumamusilira ndikosangalatsa koma kumakhumudwitsa nthawi yomweyo. Nanga tingadziwe bwanji ngati tili "otetezeka" mu chibwenzi? Tidalankhula ndi a Patti Feinstein, yemwe ndi chibwenzi komanso katswiri wazamaubwenzi, kuti aphunzire zizindikilo zisanu kuti ndinu "omveka bwino."

1. Simukudabwa kuti adzayitana liti.

M'malo mongoyang'ana foni yanu tsiku lonse kuyembekezera kuti dzina lake liwonekere, mutha kukhala pansi ndikupumula chifukwa muli ndi chidaliro kuti mudzamva kwa iye - kapena muli ndi malingaliro kale. "Akuti," Tiyeni tikumane Lachisanu. Ndikukutengani pa 9, "akutero Feinstein. Ngakhale mulibe mapulani enieni, amalembera mameseji kuti, "Lili bwanji tsiku lanu?" kotero inu mukudziwa kuti iye akuganiza za inu.

2. Mumakhala momasuka momuzungulira.

Mukudziwa kuti mwagunda lotale yaubwenzi pomwe mutha kukhala nokha opanda zodzoladzola, ndi mpweya wam'mawa, kapena munyengo yanu-ndipo zonse zili bwino ndi iye, Feinstein akutero. Ndipo mukamacheza, simayamba kungolankhula zopanda pake-chifukwa ngakhale chete kumakhala kovuta naye.

3. Mwakumana ndi mabanja a wina ndi mnzake.

Chochitika chachikulu mu ubale uliwonse, kuyendera banja lake kumawonetsa kuthekera kwa kukwatira. Ndipo kumbukirani, sikuti ndi mayeso kuti muwone ngati amakukondani, Feinstein akutero. "Tawonani zomwe banja lake limachita: Kodi makolo ake amakhala bwanji? Amakhala bwanji ndi anzawo?" Mukufuna kuonetsetsa kuti zikhalidwe za banja lake zikugwirizana ndi zanu.

4. Mwakhalapo ndewu-ndipo mwathana nayo.

Ndikosavuta kuti muyambe kumvana koyamba, koma chochitika chofunikira kwambiri muubwenzi uliwonse ndi pamene mwasemphana-ndipo mumathana nawo. "Mukakangananso mtsogolomo, chifukwa chake mukufuna kuti muzitha kulumikizana bwino ndikupita kutsidya lina," akutero Feinstein. Ziribe kanthu kuti nkhaniyo ndi yayikulu kapena yaying'ono (ngati muyitanitsa Chijapani kuti muwerenge chakudya chamadzulo), munatha kuyithetsa-modekha.

5. Simukufunsanso mafunso awa.

"Ichi ndiye chizindikiro choyamba kuti zonse zili bwino," akutero Feinstein. Mafunso monga "Kodi ife tiri bwino?" mwachibadwa kumachoka pamene inu mukudziwa mu mtima mwanu kuti iye ndiye, ndipo m'malo nkhawa kapena nkhawa, muli ndi maganizo a mtendere wonse.

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