Kodi Mungadziwe Bwanji Ngati Ndinu Gay, Wowongoka, kapena Chinachake Pakati?

Zamkati

• Zonsezi zinayamba ndikulota zogonana - kodi izi zikutanthauza zomwe ndikuganiza kuti zikutanthauza?
• Kodi pali mafunso omwe ndingatenge?
• Ndiye ndiyenera kudziwa bwanji?
• Kodi ndingatsimikizire bwanji kuti malingaliro anga ndi X?
• Kodi pali chilichonse chomwe 'chimayambitsa' malingaliro?
• Kodi izi zikutanthauza chiyani pa thanzi langa lachiwerewere ndi uchembere?
• Kodi ndiyenera kuuza anthu?
• Kodi izi zingatanthauze chiyani?
• Kodi ndingatani kuti ndiuze wina?
• Ndiyenera kuchita chiyani ngati sizikuyenda bwino?
• Kodi ndingapeze kuti thandizo?
• Mfundo yofunika

Kuzindikira momwe mungakhalire kungakhale kovuta.

M'dera lomwe ambiri mwa ife timayembekezeredwa kukhala owongoka, zingakhale zovuta kubwereranso ndikufunsa ngati ndinu amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, owongoka, kapena china chake.

Ndiwe munthu yekhayo amene angadziwe zomwe mumakondadi.

Zonsezi zinayamba ndikulota zogonana - kodi izi zikutanthauza zomwe ndikuganiza kuti zikutanthauza?

Ambiri aife timakula ndikuganiza kuti ndife owongoka kuti tidziwe, pambuyo pake, kuti sitili.

Nthawi zina, timazindikira izi chifukwa timakhala ndi maloto ogonana, malingaliro ogonana, kapena kukopeka kwambiri ndi amuna kapena akazi anzathu.

Komabe, palibe chimodzi mwazinthuzi - maloto akugonana, malingaliro azakugonana, kapena ngakhale kukopeka kwambiri - zomwe "zimatsimikizira" komwe mukukonda.

Kukhala ndi maloto ogonana okhudzana ndi amuna kapena akazi anzanu momwe simumapangira kuti mukhale ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha. Kukhala ndi maloto ogonana okhudzana ndi amuna kapena akazi anzawo sikutanthauza kuti mumawongoka.

Pali mitundu ingapo ya zokopa. Pankhani yakukonda, nthawi zambiri timatchula zokopa (omwe mumakonda kwambiri ndipo mumafuna kukondana naye) komanso kukopa (omwe mukufuna kuchita nawo zachiwerewere).

Nthawi zina timakopeka ndikugonana m'magulu amodzimodzi a anthu. Nthawi zina sitili.

Mwachitsanzo, ndizotheka kukopeka ndi amuna koma kukopeka ndi amuna, akazi, komanso anthu osagwiritsa ntchito bayinare. Izi ndizomwe zimatchedwa "malingaliro osakanikirana" kapena "mawonekedwe owoloka" - ndipo ndizabwino kwathunthu.

Kumbukirani izi mukamaganizira za kugonana kwanu.

Kodi pali mafunso omwe ndingatenge?

Buzzfeed akadakhala ndi mayankho onse! Tsoka ilo, palibe mayeso omwe angakuthandizeni kudziwa zomwe mumakonda.

Ndipo ngakhale atakhalapo, ndani anganene kuti ndi ndani amene akuyenerera kukhala gay kapena wowongoka?

Munthu aliyense wowongoka ndi wapadera. Mnyamata aliyense wamiseche ndi wosiyana. Munthu aliyense, wazikhalidwe zonse, ndi wapadera.

Simuyenera kukwaniritsa "zofunikira" zina kuti muyenerere kukhala amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, owongoka, ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, kapena china chilichonse.

Ichi ndi gawo lodziwika bwino, osati ntchito yofunsira ntchito - ndipo mutha kudziwa nthawi yomwe ikukuyenererani!

Ndiye ndiyenera kudziwa bwanji?

Palibe "njira yolondola" yovomerezera zomwe mumakonda. Komabe, pali zinthu zingapo zomwe mungachite kuti mufufuze momwe mukumvera ndikuthandizira kuzindikira.

Koposa zonse, lolani kuti mumve momwe mukumvera. Zimakhala zovuta kumvetsetsa momwe mukumvera mukazinyalanyaza.

Ngakhale pakadali pano, pali manyazi ambiri komanso kusala pozungulira mawonekedwe. Anthu omwe sali owongoka nthawi zambiri amapangidwa kuti azimva ngati akuyenera kupondereza malingaliro awo.

Kumbukirani, zomwe mumayang'ana ndizovomerezeka, ndipo momwe mumamvera ndizovomerezeka.

Phunzirani za mawu osiyanasiyana amalingaliro. Pezani zomwe akutanthauza, ndipo onani ngati aliyense wa iwo angagwirizane ndi inu.

Ganizirani zofufuziranso powerenga mabwalo, kulowa nawo magulu othandizira a LGBTQIA, ndikuphunzira za maderawa pa intaneti. Izi zingakuthandizeni kumvetsetsa mawuwo.

Mukayamba kudziwika ndi mawonekedwe ena kenako ndikumva mosiyana nawo, ndichabwino. Ndi bwino kumverera mosiyana komanso kuti dzina lanu lisinthe.

Kodi ndingatsimikizire bwanji kuti malingaliro anga ndi X?

Limenelo ndi funso labwino. Tsoka ilo, palibe yankho langwiro.

Inde, nthawi zina anthu amatengera malingaliro awo "olakwika" Anthu ambiri amaganiza kuti ndi chinthu chimodzi kwa theka loyamba la moyo wawo, ndikupeza kuti sizowona.

Ndikothekanso kuganiza kuti ndinu amuna kapena akazi okhaokha mukakhala kuti ndinu bi, kapena mukuganiza kuti ndinu bi pomwe muli amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, mwachitsanzo.

Palibe vuto kunena kuti, "Hei, ndinali kulakwitsa izi, ndipo tsopano ndimakhala womasuka kuzindikira kuti ndine X."

Ndikofunika kukumbukira kuti malingaliro anu amatha kusintha pakapita nthawi. Kugonana ndimadzimadzi. Kuwongolera kumakhala madzi.

Anthu ambiri amadziwika ngati njira imodzi pamoyo wawo wonse, pomwe ena amawona kuti amasintha pakapita nthawi. Ndipo zili bwino!

Malingaliro anu atha kusintha, koma izi sizimapangitsa kuti zikhale zosavomerezeka pakapita nthawi, komanso sizitanthauza kuti mwalakwitsa kapena mwasokonezeka.

Kodi pali chilichonse chomwe 'chimayambitsa' malingaliro?

N 'chifukwa chiyani anthu ena amachita zachiwerewere? Nchifukwa chiyani anthu ena amawongoka? Sitikudziwa.

Anthu ena amamva kuti anabadwira motere, kuti zomwe amakhala nthawi zonse zimangokhala gawo lawo.

Ena amamva kuti kugonana kwawo komanso momwe amagwirira ntchito amasintha pakapita nthawi. Kumbukirani zomwe tidanena zakukhala madzi?

Kaya chizolowezi chimayambitsidwa ndi chilengedwe, kulera, kapena kusakanikirana kwa awiriwo sikofunikira kwenikweni. Chani ndi Chofunika ndichakuti tilandire ena monga momwe alili, ndi kudzilandira tokha momwe ife tiriri.

Kodi izi zikutanthauza chiyani pa thanzi langa lachiwerewere ndi uchembere?

Maphunziro ambiri azakugonana m'masukulu amayang'ana kwambiri anthu ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha komanso a cisgender (ndiye kuti, osati transgender, amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, kapena osagwirizana nawo).

Izi zimatisiya tonsefe.

Ndikofunika kudziwa kuti mutha kutenga matenda opatsirana pogonana (matenda opatsirana pogonana) ndipo, nthawi zina, mumakhala ndi pakati posatengera momwe mumakondera.

Matenda opatsirana pogonana amatha kusamutsa pakati pa anthu ngakhale atakhala maliseche.

Amatha kusunthira ndikutuluka anus, mbolo, nyini, ndi pakamwa. Matenda opatsirana pogonana amatha kufalikira ngakhale kudzera pazoseweretsa zogonana zosasamba ndi manja.

Mimba siyosungidwa kwa anthu owongoka, mwina. Zitha kuchitika nthawi zonse anthu awiri achonde atagonana ndi maliseche.

Chifukwa chake, ngati zingatheke kuti mukhale ndi pakati - kapena kupatsa wina - yang'anani njira zakulera.

Ali ndi mafunso? Onani owongolera athu ogonana otetezeka.

Mutha kuganiziranso zokonzekera kukakumana ndi dotolo wa LGBTIQA + kuti mukalankhule zaumoyo wanu wogonana.

Kodi ndiyenera kuuza anthu?

Simuyenera kuuza aliyense chilichonse chomwe simukufuna.

Ngati mukumva kuti simumasuka kulankhula za izi, zili bwino. Kusawulula komwe mumayang'ana sikumakupangitsani kukhala wabodza. Simukuyenera kupereka chidziwitso kwa aliyense.

Kodi izi zingatanthauze chiyani?

Kuuza anthu kumatha kukhala kwakukulu, koma kuzisunga mwachinsinsi kungakhalenso kothandiza, nawonso. Izi zimatengera momwe zinthu zilili panokha.

Kumbali imodzi, kuuza anthu kungakuthandizeni kuti mukhale bwino. Anthu ambiri omwe amakhala achisangalalo amadzimva kukhala omasuka komanso omasuka atatuluka. Kukhala "kunja" kungakuthandizeninso kupeza gulu la LGBTQIA + lomwe lingakuthandizireni.

Kumbali inayi, kutuluka sikuli kotetezeka nthawi zonse. Kugonana kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha - ndi mitundu ina ya tsankho - ndi amoyo ndipo ali bwino. Anthu a Queer amasalidwabe kuntchito, mdera lawo, ngakhale m'mabanja awo.

Chifukwa chake, pomwe kutuluka kumatha kumasuka, ndibwino kuti mutenge zinthu pang'onopang'ono ndikuyenda palokha.

Kodi ndingatani kuti ndiuze wina?

Nthawi zina, ndibwino kuyamba kuuza munthu yemwe mukutsimikiza kuti amulandira, monga wachibale kapena mnzanu amene ali ndi malingaliro otseguka. Ngati mukufuna, mungawafunse kuti azikhala nanu mukamauza ena.

Ngati simumasuka kulankhula za izi pamasom'pamaso, mutha kuwauza kudzera pa foni, imelo, imelo, kapena meseji yolembedwa pamanja. Chilichonse chomwe mungafune.

Ngati mukufuna kuyankhula nawo pamasom'pamaso koma mukuvutikira kuyambitsa mutuwo, mwina mungayambe ndikuwonera kanema wa LGBTQIA + kapena kuti mubweretse za munthu wina wotchuka poyera. Izi zitha kukuthandizani kuti muyambe kukambirana.

Mutha kupeza zothandiza kuyamba ndi zina monga:

• "Nditaganizira kwambiri, ndazindikira kuti ndine gay. Izi zikutanthauza kuti ndimakopeka ndi amuna. ”
• "Popeza ndiwe wofunika kwa ine, ndikufuna ndikudziwitse kuti ndine wokonda amuna kapena akazi okhaokha. Ndikuyamikira chithandizo chanu. "
• "Ndazindikira kuti ndimakondana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, zomwe zikutanthauza kuti ndimakopeka ndi amuna kapena akazi onse."

Mutha kumaliza zokambiranazo powafunsa kuti awathandizire ndikuwatsogolera kwa omwe akuwathandiza, mwina pa intaneti, ngati angafune.

Pali zinthu zambiri kunja kwa anthu omwe akufuna kuthandiza anzawo anzawo komanso abale awo.

Komanso adziwitseni ngati mungasangalale nawo kugawana nawo nkhaniyi kapena ayi.

Ndiyenera kuchita chiyani ngati sizikuyenda bwino?

Nthawi zina anthu omwe mumawawuza samachita momwe mumafunira.

Amanyalanyaza zomwe munanena kapena kuseka ngati nthabwala. Anthu ena atha kuyesera kukutsimikizirani kuti mukuwongoka, kapena angoti ndinu osokonezeka.

Izi zikachitika, pali zinthu zingapo zomwe mungachite:

• Dzizungulirani ndi anthu othandizira. Kaya ndi anthu a LGBTQIA + omwe mwakumana nawo pa intaneti kapena panokha, anzanu, kapena kulandira abale anu, yesetsani kucheza nawo ndikulankhula nawo za nkhaniyi.
• Kumbukirani kuti siinu amene mukulakwitsa. Palibe cholakwika ndi inu kapena malingaliro anu. Cholakwika chokha apa ndikusalolera.
• Ngati mukufuna, apatseni malo kuti akwaniritse zomwe akuchita. Mwa ichi, ndikutanthauza kuti mwina adazindikira kuti zomwe adachita poyamba zinali zolakwika. Atumizireni uthenga kuti awadziwitse kuti ndinu okonzeka kuyankhula akakhala ndi nthawi yosintha zomwe mwanenazo.

Sizovuta kuthana ndi okondedwa anu omwe savomereza zomwe mumayang'ana, koma ndikofunikira kukumbukira kuti pali anthu ambiri kunja uko omwe amakukondani komanso kukuvomerezani.

Ngati muli m'malo osatetezeka - mwachitsanzo, ngati mwathamangitsidwa kunyumba kwanu kapena ngati anthu omwe mumakhala nawo akukuopsezani - yesani kupeza malo ogona a LGBTQIA + mdera lanu, kapena konzekerani kukhala ndi mnzanu kwakanthawi .

Ngati ndinu wachinyamata amene akusowa thandizo, lemberani The Trevor Project pa 866-488-7386. Amapereka chithandizo ndi chithandizo kwa anthu omwe ali pamavuto kapena akumva kuti akufuna kudzipha, kapena kwa anthu omwe amangosowa wina woti alankhule nawo.

Kodi ndingapeze kuti thandizo?

Ganizirani zolowa m'magulu amtundu wa anthu kuti mudzakumane ndi anthu pamasom'pamaso. Lowani ndi gulu la LGBTQIA + kusukulu kapena koleji yanu, ndipo yang'anani zokumana ndi anthu a LGBTQIA + mdera lanu.

Muthanso kupeza chithandizo pa intaneti:

• Lowani nawo magulu a Facebook, subreddits, ndi malo ochezera a pa intaneti a anthu a LGBTQIA +.
• Trevor Project ili ndimayendedwe angapo ndi zothandizira anthu osowa.
• Alemba zofunikira pa LGBTQIA + zaumoyo.
• Masamba a wiki a Asexual Visibility and Education Network ali ndi zolemba zingapo zokhudzana ndi kugonana komanso malingaliro.

Mfundo yofunika

Palibe njira yosavuta, yopusa yopezera momwe mumayendera. Itha kukhala njira yovuta komanso yamphamvu.

Pamapeto pake, munthu yekhayo amene anganene kuti ndinu ndani ndi inu. Ndinu yekhayo amene muli ndi ulamuliro panokha. Ndipo ngakhale mutasankha mtundu wanji - ngati mukugwiritsa ntchito dzina lililonse - liyenera kulemekezedwa.

Kumbukirani kuti pali zinthu zambiri, mabungwe, ndi anthu kunja uko omwe akufuna kukuthandizani. Zomwe mukufunikira ndikuwapeza ndikufikira.

Sian Ferguson ndi wolemba komanso wolemba pawokha ku Cape Town, South Africa. Zolemba zake zimakhudzana ndi chikhalidwe cha anthu, chamba, komanso thanzi. Mutha kufikira kwa iye Twitter.