Bodza vs.Zoona: Kodi Kuopsa Kwamantha Kumamveka Bwanji?

Zamkati

• Bodza: ​​Kuopsa konse kumakhala ndi zizindikiro zomwezi
• Bodza: ​​Kuopsezedwa ndi mantha ndi kuchita mopitilira muyeso komanso modabwitsa
• Zabodza: ​​Anthu omwe akukumana ndi mantha amafunikira thandizo kapena chithandizo chamankhwala
• Bodza: ​​Ndi anthu okha omwe amapezeka kuti ali ndi matenda amisala omwe amachita mantha

Nthawi zina gawo lovuta kwambiri ndikuyesera kuti mumveke chifukwa cha kusalidwa ndi kusamvetsetsa kwa mantha.

Thanzi ndi thanzi zimakhudza aliyense wa ife mosiyanasiyana. Iyi ndi nkhani ya munthu m'modzi.

Nthawi yoyamba yomwe ndinachita mantha, ndinali ndi zaka 19 ndikuyenda kuchokera kuchipinda chodyera kupita ku dorm yanga yaku koleji.

Sindikanatha kudziwa chomwe chinayambitsa, chomwe chinapangitsa kuthamanga kwa mtundu kumaso kwanga, kupuma pang'ono, kuyamba mwachangu mantha akulu. Koma ndidayamba kulira, ndikulunga mikono yanga mthupi langa, ndikubwerera mwachangu kuchipinda chomwe ndidangolowa - patatu ndi ophunzira ena awiri aku koleji.

Panalibe koti ndipite - palibenso pobisalira manyazi anga chifukwa champhamvu kwambiri komanso zosamvetsetseka - kotero ndinadzigoneka pabedi ndikuyang'ana kukhoma.

Kodi chimachitika ndi chiyani kwa ine? Chifukwa chiyani zimachitika? Ndipo nditha kuyimitsa bwanji?

Zinatenga zaka zambiri zamankhwala, maphunziro, ndikumvetsetsa manyazi okhudzana ndi matenda amisala kuti amvetsetse zomwe zimachitika.

Pambuyo pake ndinazindikira kuti kuthamanga mwamantha komanso nkhawa zomwe ndidakumana nazo nthawi zambiri zimatchedwa mantha.

Pali malingaliro olakwika ambiri pazomwe mantha amawoneka ndikumverera. Chimodzi mwazinthu zochepetsera kusalidwa pazomwe akumana nazo ndikuwunika momwe ziwopsezo zimawonekera ndikulekanitsa zowona ndi zopeka.

Bodza: ​​Kuopsa konse kumakhala ndi zizindikiro zomwezi

Zoona: Kuopsa kwamantha kumatha kukhala kosiyana ndi aliyense, ndipo makamaka kutengera zomwe mumakumana nazo.

Zizindikiro zodziwika ndizo:

• kupuma movutikira
• mtima wothamanga
• kumva kutaya mphamvu kapena chitetezo
• kupweteka pachifuwa
• nseru
• chizungulire

Pali zizindikiro zambiri ndipo ndizotheka kumva zina mwazizindikiro, osati zonsezi.

Kwa ine, kuopsa kwamantha nthawi zambiri kumayamba ndikutentha ndi nkhope, nkhope yamantha, mantha akulu, kugunda kwamtima, ndikulira popanda zoyambitsa.

Kwa nthawi yayitali, ndimadzifunsa ngati ndingatchule zomwe ndidakumana nazo mwamantha, ndikuvutika kuti "nditenge" ufulu wanga wosamalira ndi kuda nkhawa, poganiza kuti ndimangokhala wamkulu.

M'malo mwake, mantha amatha kuwoneka ngati zinthu zosiyanasiyana, ndipo mosasamala kanthu mtundu womwe mumalemba, muyenera kulandira chithandizo.

Bodza: ​​Kuopsezedwa ndi mantha ndi kuchita mopitilira muyeso komanso modabwitsa

Zoona: Mosiyana ndi zikhulupiriro zonyoza, mantha amantha sichinthu chomwe anthu amatha kuwongolera. Sitikudziwa chomwe chimayambitsa mantha, koma tikudziwa kuti nthawi zambiri zimatha kuyambitsidwa ndi zovuta, matenda amisala, kapena zoyambitsa zosadziwika kapena kusintha kwachilengedwe.

Ziwopsezo zimakhala zosasangalatsa, zodzifunira, ndipo zimachitika mosayembekezereka.

M'malo moyang'ana chidwi, anthu ambiri omwe amanjenjemera amakhala ndi manyazi amkati komanso manyazi, ndipo amadana ndi mantha pagulu kapena mozungulira ena.

M'mbuyomu, ndikakhala kuti ndili ndi mantha, ndimasiya msanga vuto linalake kapena kupita kunyumba mwachangu kuti ndisachite manyazi pagulu.

Nthawi zambiri anthu amatha kunena zinthu kwa ine ngati "Palibe chomwe chingakukhumudwitseni!" kapena "Simungodekha?" Zinthu izi nthawi zambiri zimandikwiyitsa kwambiri ndipo zimandipangitsa kuti ndizivutikira kukhazikika.

Chinthu chabwino kwambiri chomwe mungachite kwa munthu amene akuchita mantha ndi kungowafunsa mwachindunji zomwe akufuna komanso momwe mungawathandizire.

Ngati mumadziwa mnzanu kapena wokondedwa wanu yemwe nthawi zambiri amakumana ndi mantha, afunseni mwakachetechete zomwe angafune kuchokera kwa inu kapena iwo owazungulira ngati zingachitike.

Nthawi zambiri, anthu amakhala ndi mantha kapena malingaliro omwe angathe kugawana nawo omwe angawathandize kukhazikika ndikubwerera kuzotsatira.

Zabodza: ​​Anthu omwe akukumana ndi mantha amafunikira thandizo kapena chithandizo chamankhwala

Zoona: Zitha kukhala zowopsa kuwona wina akukumana ndi mantha. Koma ndikofunikira kukumbukira kuti sali pachiwopsezo chilichonse msanga. Chinthu chabwino kwambiri chomwe mungachite ndicho kukhala chete.

Ngakhale ndikofunikira kuthandiza wina kusiyanitsa pakati pa mantha am'mimba ndi matenda amtima, nthawi zambiri anthu omwe amanjenjemera nthawi zambiri amatha kusiyanitsa.

Ngati muli pafupi ndi wina yemwe ali ndi mantha ndipo mwawafunsa kale ngati akufuna thandizo, chinthu chabwino kwambiri kuchita ndikulemekeza yankho lawo lililonse, ndikuwakhulupirira ngati atanena kuti angathe kudzisamalira okha.

Anthu ambiri amakhala ndi luso lokulitsa maluso ndi zidule zothanirana ndi mantha ndikukhala ndi njira zosinthira pakagwa zotere.

Ndikudziwa zomwe ndingachite kuti ndidzisamalire munthawi zotere, ndipo nthawi zambiri ndimangofunika kanthawi kuti ndichite zinthu zomwe ndikudziwa kuti zindithandiza - osadandaula za chiweruzo cha omwe ali pafupi nane.

Ngati mwafunsa wina yemwe ali ndi mantha ngati akufuna thandizo, chinthu chabwino kuchita ndikulemekeza yankho lake - ngakhale atanena kuti angathe kuthana nawo okha.

Bodza: ​​Ndi anthu okha omwe amapezeka kuti ali ndi matenda amisala omwe amachita mantha

Zoona: Aliyense akhoza kukhala ndi mantha, ngakhale osazindikira matenda amisala.

Izi zati, anthu ena ali pachiwopsezo chambiri chokumana ndi mantha kwakanthawi m'moyo wawo wonse, kuphatikiza anthu omwe ali ndi mbiri yakubadwa mwamanjenje kapena nkhanza za ana. Wina amakhalanso ndi chiopsezo chachikulu ngati atapezeka ndi:

• mantha amantha
• matenda ovutika maganizo (GAD)
• post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD)

Anthu omwe sakukwaniritsa izi akadali pachiwopsezo - makamaka ngati akukumana ndi zoopsa, ali pantchito yovuta kapena kusukulu, kapena sanagone mokwanira, chakudya, kapena madzi.

Pachifukwa ichi, ndibwino kuti aliyense akhale ndi malingaliro wamba amantha amantha komanso zinthu zabwino kwambiri zomwe angachite kuti abwerere kukhazikika.

Kumvetsetsa zoopsa ndikuphunzira momwe mungadzithandizire nokha komanso ena kumathandizira kwambiri kuti muchepetse manyazi okhudzana ndi matenda amisala. Ikhoza kuchepetsa gawo limodzi mwazovuta kwambiri zamantha - kufotokozera zomwe zidachitika, kapena zomwe zikuchitika, kwa anthu okuzungulirani.

Manyazi a matenda amisala nthawi zambiri amakhala ovuta kwambiri kuthana nawo ngati wina ali ndi zovuta kale.

Pachifukwa ichi, kuphunzira kusiyanitsa nthano ndi zenizeni kumatha kupanga kusiyana konse, kwa anthu omwe akukumana ndi mantha, komanso kwa iwo omwe akufuna kumvetsetsa momwe angathandizire anthu omwe amawakonda.

Ndimasangalatsidwa nthawi zonse ndi momwe anzanga omwe aphunzira za nkhawa komanso mantha amandiyankhira ndikakhala ndi nthawi yovuta.

Thandizo lomwe ndalandira lakhala lodabwitsa. Kuyambira pomwe ndidangokhala chete mwakachetechete pomwe ndakwiya pondithandiza kulimbikitsa zosowa zanga ndikakhala ndi vuto loyankhula, ndimayamika kwambiri anzanga komanso ogwirizana omwe amandithandiza kuyenda matenda amisala.

Caroline Catlin ndi wojambula, wotsutsa, komanso wogwira ntchito zaumoyo. Amakonda amphaka, maswiti wowawasa, komanso kumvera ena chisoni. Mutha kumupeza patsamba lake.