Narcissism: ndichiyani, mawonekedwe ndi momwe tingakhalire limodzi

Zamkati

• Makhalidwe a munthu wankhanza
• Momwe mungakhalire ndi narcissism

Narcissism ndimkhalidwe wamaganizidwe omwe amadziwika ndi kudzikonda kwambiri kapena kudzikonda nokha, kufunika kokhala ndi chidwi chofuna kuwongolera ena. Vutoli limakhala lachizolowezi kwa ana mpaka azaka ziwiri mwachitsanzo, komabe limayamba kuda nkhawa anthu okalamba atakhala ndi mikhalidwe imeneyi, yomwe imadziwika kuti narcissistic personality disorder.

Wokonda zachiwerewere nthawi zambiri amapeputsa winayo kuti amve bwino, zomwe zimapangitsa kuti zibwenzi za tsiku ndi tsiku zikhale zovuta. Ngakhale izi, kudzidalira kwa a narcissists ndikudzidalira, ngati sachita mopitilira muyeso, kumatha kukhala kolimbikitsa kwa anthu ena ndikulimbikitsa kudzidalira.

Malinga ndi Freud, narcissism ili ndi magawo awiri:

• Gawo loyambira, yomwe imadziwika ndi kudzikonda komanso kudziona mopitirira muyeso;
• Gawo lachiwiri, momwe muli kukula kwa umunthu ndi zikhalidwe zomwe amakhulupirira kuti zimamusiyanitsa ndi anthu ena.

Makhalidwe a munthu wankhanza

Munthu wamankhwala osokoneza bongo nthawi zambiri amakhala ndi izi:

• Kufunika kwa chidwi ndi kusilira;
• Kufunika kovomerezeka;
• Kumva kuti dziko lapansi likuzungulira inu;
• Amakhulupirira kuti alibe zopindika, samalephera ndipo samalakwitsa;
• Kutsutsa;
• Kumva kukhala eni ake a chowonadi;
• Amakhulupirira kuti palibe wina wofanana nawo;
• Amadzimva apamwamba;
• Kudera nkhawa kwambiri zinthu zakuthupi;
• Kutsika kwa winayo;
• Kusamvetsetsa za momwe mnzake akumvera;
• Samvera ena;
• Kufunika ndikuwunikanso mawonekedwe;
• Kudera nkhawa za kukongola, mphamvu ndi kuchita bwino;
• Kulakalaka kwambiri;
• Amakhulupirira kuti ali ndi kaduka;
• Kupanda kumvera ena chisoni;
• Kupanda kudzichepetsa;
• Kunyoza ena;
• Chizolowezi chodzikuza.

Nthawi zambiri izi zimatamandidwa ngakhale ndi abale awo kapena anthu oyandikira kwa wanamisili, omwe amathera potha vutoli.

Anthu ochita zachiwerewere nthawi zambiri si anthu abwino kukhala nawo pafupi, chifukwa amasangalala akaona kuti winayo ndi wotsika. Komabe, ngati izi sizikulirakulira, ndizotheka kukhala bwino ndikuphunzira zina monga kudzidalira, kudzidalira komanso kudzidalira.

Momwe mungakhalire ndi narcissism

Nthawi zambiri anthu omwe ali ndi vuto lamankhwala osokoneza bongo samadziwa zomwe zikuchitika, amawona momwe zinthu ziliri zabwinobwino. Komabe, ngati abwenzi ndi abale azindikira zochitika za munthu wamankhwala osokoneza bongo, ndikofunikira kuti pakhale kuwunika kwamaganizidwe kapena amisala, kutengera mawonekedwe owonekera.

Anthu omwe amakhala ndi ma narcissist tsiku ndi tsiku ayeneranso kukhala ndi upangiri wamaganizidwe, chifukwa umunthu wawo ukhoza kutsitsidwa kwambiri kotero kuti ungayambitse kukhumudwa. Dziwani zomwe zingayambitse kukhumudwa.