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Tawonani, palibe kukana kuti zikuwoneka ngati njira yokondeka, yodekha yoyambira tsiku lanu pa phazi lakumanja. Koma, kwa anthu ambiri, zimawonekanso kuti sizingachitike.

Kodi zimamveka bwanji munthu wanthawi zonse, wopanda nthawi akuwona anthu omwe ali ndi zisonkhezero, otchuka, kapena moona mtima anthu omwe amawadziwa omwe ali ndi moyo wosiyana kwambiri, mobwerezabwereza zofunika chikhalidwe cha chizolowezi cham'mawa - chomwe chimaphatikizapo ma latte opangidwa m'makina okwera mtengo a Starbucks ndi gulu lazinthu zamtengo wapatali zosamalira khungu, zonse zimachitidwa kumbuyo kwa nyumba yosamalidwa bwino? Ndinadabwa! Osati zazikulu.

M'malo mwake, kuwonera mobwerezabwereza mawonekedwe "abwino" awa kumatha kuwononga thanzi lanu, malinga ndi Terri Bacow, Ph.D., katswiri wazamisala ku New York City. (Zokhudzana: Momwe Makonda Azomwe Amakhudzira Moyo Wanu Wam'maganizo ndi Thupi Lanu)

"Ndinganene kuti anthu amwayi, ndili ndi nthawi yambiri, ndili ndi ndalama zambiri, ndili ndi bandwidth ambiri, atero a Bacow." Ngati muli ndi ntchito ziwiri, ngati mukuvutika kupeza zofunika pamoyo, simuganiza za [kupanga mtundu uwu wa chizolowezi cham'mawa] ngati njira yothanirana ndi vutoli. Psychology zambiri zimatengera kudzidalira. Kuwona izi sikuthandiza, makamaka ngati mukumva kale kusatetezeka." (Zokhudzana: Momwe Mungapangire Nthawi Yodzisamalira Pamene Mulibe)

Ndipo anthu ambiri ndi kumva kusatetezeka pompano. Mwina ndinu kholo lomwe mukuyesera kuti muzitha kugwira ntchito kunyumba osasamalira ana.Mwina ndinu m’modzi mwa anthu amene anachotsedwa ntchito pa nthawi ya mliriwu. Mwinamwake mukulimbana kuti mukhale ndi maubwenzi anu. Mulimonse momwe zingakhalire, ngati mukudandaula kale kuti simukukwaniritsa zomwe mukuyembekezera m'mbali imodzi ya moyo, mauthenga onena za "momwe mungakhalire moyo wabwino kwambiri m'mawa uliwonse" atha kukulitsa kumverera kumeneko, akufotokoza Bacow. Ndipo ngakhale simukumva kuti mukusowa, nkhani yomwe muyenera kuyika patsogolo kudzisamalira musanayambe tsiku lanu itha kukhala yoopsa ngakhale pang'ono. Monga ngati panalibe kukakamizidwa kokwanira kuti mungosiya kugunda batani la snooze (mwachitsanzo, kutero kungakupangitseni groggy), tsopano mukuuzidwa kuti muyenera kudzuka kale kwambiri kuti mukhale ndi nthawi yokwanira yochitira litany. zinthu ngati mukufuna kukhala ndi thanzi labwino. (Zokhudzana: Ogwira Ntchito 10 Wakuda Wakuda Gawani Momwe Akuchitira Kudzisamalira Pa Nthawi Ya Mliri)

"Kunena zowona, ndikuganiza kuti kudzisamalira ndikofunikira," akutero Bacow. "Koma ndikuganiza kuti zatengeka pang'ono ndipo mwina zimapita njira yomwe ili pang'ono ... yowonjezera. Ziri ngati chinthu cha poizoni. Ndi chinthu chabwino kwambiri. [Ndinawerenga nkhani yomwe wolemba] adati kudzisamalira kumayenda bwino mukachotsa poyerekeza. Anthu amaganiza kuti 'ndiloleni ndiwonjeze kusinkhasinkha. Ndiloleni ndiwonjezere yoga.' Koma amene ali ndi nthawi ndi ndani? kuchoka mbale yako. Zimenezi zinandikhudza kwambiri ngati bambo.”

Kwa makolo, makamaka, kuwona zomwe zachitika m'mawa uno ndizosagwirizana kwenikweni (komanso kudzidalira), atero a Bacow ndi a Amanda Schuster, omwe onse ndi amayi a awiri. Schuster, manejala wa namwino wazaka 29 ku Toronto, akukumbukira atakumana ndi kanema wa Instagram wamunthu wina yemwe akuwonetsa zomwe amachita m'mawa ndi mwana wakhanda. Kanemayo adaphatikizapo kupaka mankhwala ake osamalira khungu (omwe amawoneka kuti ndi gawo lazolemba) ndikumunyamula mwana wake pabedi lokongoletsedwa mwaluso. Schuster, yemwe amakhulupirira kuti izi zitha kupangitsa amayi ena kumva ngati akulephera, adakakamizika kuyankha ndikuwonetsa kuti kanemayo sizomwe m'mawa amawonekera kwa makolo ambiri atsopano.

"Nditawona koyamba [kanemayo] zidandipweteka," akutero Schuster. "Kuwona wina akunama monyoza ngati wotsatsa kunali kovuta kwa ine, makamaka ngati mayi, podziwa momwe zilili poizoni kuwona mtundu wamtunduwu pazanema. Tonse tikudziwa kuti sizowona, koma kwa wachinyamata mayi yemwe alibe chithandizo kapena yemwe amayang'ana kuma social media kuti athandizidwe ndikuwona izi sizingachitike, zitha kukhala zowononga kwambiri. "

Katswiri wa zamankhwala Kiaundra Jackson, L.M.F.T, akuvomereza kuti makolo ndi omwe ali pachiwopsezo chachikulu cha uthengawu. "Amayi ambiri samatha kusamba kapenanso kugwiritsa ntchito chimbudzi mwamtendere, osatinso zomwe amachita maola awiri m'mawa," akutero. "Ma social network ndi abwino kwambiri koma nawonso, pamlingo wina, ndi mawonekedwe akunja. Ndikuwona anthu omwe ali achisoni chifukwa amaganiza kuti akuyenera kukhala ndi moyo wabwino. cholakwika."

Poganizira izi, Jackson ndi Bacow amavomereza machitidwe am'mawa ndi akadali chinthu chabwino - sakuyenera kukhala okhudzidwa ngati omwe mumawawona nthawi zambiri pa intaneti.

"Kudziwa zomwe tingayembekezere ndikupanga zizolowezi kumapangitsa kuti tizitha kuchita zinthu mwadongosolo," akutero Bacow. Kukhala ndi dongosolo kumachepetsa nkhawa komanso kukhumudwa. "Koma chizolowezi sichiyenera kukhala chovuta cha maola awiri ... kapena chokongola. Chingofunika kukhala choyendetsedwa ndikuphatikiza kubwereza." Kubwereza ndikofunikira pakupanga chizolowezi chifukwa kumafuna china chake chomwe chimatchedwa kuti chizolowezi chamakhalidwe, [chomwe] chimathandizira kuphunzira komanso chimapangitsa kuti munthu akhale waluso, "akufotokoza kuti" Zimapangitsanso china kuti chizolowere; chizolowezi chimabweretsa chitonthozo komanso chitonthozo, kenako, chimalimbikitsa kudzilamulira komanso kukhala ndi moyo wabwino. "

"Pali zinthu zambiri zomwe sitingathe kuzilamulira, ndipo timasangalala tikasinthasintha," akutero a Jackson. "Ndizo momwe machitidwe a m'mawa ndi machitidwe a usiku alili - kusinthasintha kumeneku kumatipangitsa kukhala okhazikika. Kumabweretsa kukhazikika komwe kumatonthoza anthu."

Mukufunanso kuti zinthu zikhale zosavuta pankhani yopanga chizoloŵezi cham'mawa chogwira ntchito. "Ndikofunikira kwambiri kukhala wololera ndikupangitsa kuti zikuthandizeni," akutero Bascow. "Ngati chizoloŵezi sichili chenicheni kapena chotheka, chikhoza kugwa, chomwe sichili chabwino kwa kudzidalira." (Zogwirizana: Chifukwa Chake Tiyeneradi Kuleka Kuyitanira Anthu "Superwomxn")

"Pangani nthawi yazomwe mumakonda kwambiri," akufotokoza Jackson. Ngati mumayamikiradi pemphero m'mawa kapena mukuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi, mutha kupeza njira yochitira. Koma sizitanthauza kuti zidzakhala zosavuta kapena woyenera IG. "Zitha kukhala kuti mukuyatsa vidiyo yolimbitsa thupi ndipo muli ndi mwana m'modzi m'manja mukamayesera kuchita masewera," akutero. Ndipo ngati inu sindingathe kupeza njira yochitira kapena kutsatira zomwe mumachita nthawi zonse? Osadzimenya. "Moyo umachitika," akugogomezera. "Zowopsa zimachitika, ndondomeko ya ntchito imasintha, ana amadzuka pakati pa usiku. Pali zinthu zambiri zosiyana zomwe zingatheke." Ndipo nthawi zambiri (makamaka kuyambira pomwe mliri udayamba), "muyenera kuvala zipewa zambiri," akuwonjezera.

Onse a Bacow ndi a Jackson amawona kuti mwayi walowa mu lingaliro la anthu pazochitika zam'mawa komanso kudzisamalira nthawi zonse. Pa social media, malingaliro amenewo amaperekedwa m'njira zomwe zimayika patsogolo komanso pakati. Zotsatira zake, mutha kumva ngati inu zosowa mapijama a silika, makandulo okongola, madzi obiriwira obiriwira, zonunkhira zokwera mtengo, zida zapamwamba zolimbitsa thupi - ndikuti zochita zanu za tsiku ndi tsiku zizimangidwa mozungulira zinthu izi.

Koma chowonadi ndichakuti, simukulephera ngati mulibe nthawi ndi / kapena zida zopangira m'mawa zomwe zikufanana ndi omwe amakukakamizani kapena bwenzi lolemera lomwe lili ndi mwana. Ngakhale mutakhala kuti mumangomwa khofi, kumvetsera nyimbo mukamavala, kapena kukumbatira mwana wanu tsiku lanu lisanayambe....akutumikirabe.

Ndipo ngati mumachita izi m'mawa uliwonse - mwachitsanzo, kusuntha malo ochezera a pa Intaneti- ayi kukutumikirani bwino? Chabwino, mwina chizoloŵezi chanu chokhazikika chikanakhala bwino popanda icho. "Mukadzuka ndipo chinthu choyamba kuchita ndikufika pa malo ochezera a pa Intaneti ndikukhumudwa chifukwa wina wakwatiwa ndipo simuli kapena wina ndi wolemera koma simuli, ndipo mumanyamula mkwiyo wonsewo za tsikulo, izi sizabwino, "atero a Jackson. "Koma mukayamba ndi [china chabwino], chimakusunthirani mphamvu ndikukuyikani pamwamba tsiku lonse."

"Ganizirani pazinthu zomwe mungathe kuwongolera," akuwonjezera. "Mukapeza chinthu chimodzi kapena ziwiri zomwe mungagwiritse, zomwe zingakuthandizeni kukhala ndi thanzi labwino kwambiri."

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