Chilichonse Chimene Muyenera Kudziwa Zokhudza Kuonera Zolaula '

Zamkati

• Ndi chiyani?
• Kodi ndikulowereratu?
• Kodi kuledzera kumawoneka bwanji?
• Zimayambitsa chiyani?
• Kodi mungayime nokha kapena muyenera kukaonana ndi akatswiri?
• Kodi ndi njira ziti zamankhwala zomwe zingapezeke?
• Chithandizo
• Magulu othandizira
• Mankhwala
• Bwanji ngati sanasamalire?
• Ngati mumakhudzidwa ndi wokondedwa
• Mfundo yofunika

Ndi chiyani?

Zithunzi zolaula zakhala ndi ife nthawi zonse, ndipo nthawi zonse zimakhala zotsutsana.

Anthu ena alibe nawo chidwi, ndipo ena amakhumudwa kwambiri ndi izi. Ena amadya nawo nthawi zina, ndipo ena nthawi zonse.

Zonse zimadalira zokonda zanu komanso kusankha kwanu.

Ndikofunika kuzindikira kuti "zolaula" sizomwe zimadziwika ndi American Psychiatric Association (APA). Koma kukhala ndi chizoloŵezi chosalamulirika choonera zolaula kungakhale kovuta kwa anthu ena monga zizolowezi zina zamakhalidwe.

Popeza kukhalapo kwa "zolaula" sikudziwika ndi APA, palibe njira zotsimikizika zodziwitsira omwe amatsogolera akatswiri azaumoyo pakuwazindikira.

Tiona kusiyana pakati pakukakamizidwa ndi kuzolowera, ndikuwunikanso momwe tingachitire:

• zindikirani zizolowezi zomwe zingaoneke ngati zovuta
• kuchepetsa kapena kuchotsa mikhalidwe yosafunikira
• kudziwa nthawi yolankhula ndi katswiri wazachipatala

Kodi ndikulowereratu?

Popeza anthu akhoza kukhala osafuna kulankhula za izi, ndizovuta kudziwa kuti ndi anthu angati omwe amakonda zolaula nthawi zonse, kapena ndi angati omwe amalephera kukana.

Kafukufuku wa Kinsey Institute adapeza kuti 9 peresenti ya anthu omwe amaonera zolaula ayesayesa kusiya. Kafukufukuyu adachitika mu 2002.

Kuyambira pamenepo, zakhala zosavuta kupeza zolaula kudzera pa intaneti komanso ntchito zotsatsira.

Kufikira kosavuta kumapangitsa kukhala kovuta kusiya ngati kuonera zolaula kwakhala vuto.

Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disways (DSM), lofalitsidwa ndi American Psychiatric Association, imagwiritsidwa ntchito ndi akatswiri azaumoyo kuti athandizire kupeza matenda amisala.

DSM sazindikira zolaula ngati njira yodziwitsa matenda amisala.

Koma akuwonetsa kuti zizolowezi zamakhalidwe ndizovuta.

Nkhani ina yowunikira mu 2015 yatsimikiza kuti zolaula zapaintaneti zimagawana njira zoyambira bongo.

Kafukufuku woyerekeza ubongo wa anthu omwe amakonda zolaula ndi ubongo wa anthu omwe amakonda kugwiritsa ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo kapena mowa adatulutsa zotsatira zosiyanasiyana.

Ofufuza ena amati mwina kukakamizidwa kumangokhala kokakamira.

Pali kusiyana kochepa pakati pakukakamizidwa ndi kuledzera. Kutanthauzira uku kungasinthe tikamaphunzira zambiri, malinga ndi Go Ask Alice.

Zokakamiza ndizobwerezabwereza zomwe sizimakhala zomveka, koma nthawi zambiri zimachitidwa kuti muchepetse nkhawa. Zizoloŵezi zimaphatikizapo kulephera kusiya khalidweli, ngakhale kuti zotsatira zake zimakhala zoipa. Zonsezi zimakhudza kusadziletsa.

Mulimonse momwe zingakhalire, ngati kuonera zolaula kumakhala kovuta, pali njira zomwe mungayesere kuyambiranso.

Kodi kuledzera kumawoneka bwanji?

Kungowonera kapena kusangalala ndi zolaula sikungakupangitseni kukhala osuta, komanso sikufuna kukonza.

Kumbali inayi, zizolowezi zokhudzana ndi kusowa kwa kuwongolera - ndipo izi zimatha kubweretsa mavuto akulu.

Zizolowezi zanu zowonera zitha kukhala zodetsa nkhawa ngati:

• pezani kuti nthawi yomwe mumawonera zolaula imakulabe
• kumva ngati kuti mukufuna "kukonza" zolaula - ndipo kukonza kumeneko kumakupatsani "kukwera"
• ndikudzimva kuti ndine wolakwa pazotsatira zakuwona zolaula
• amathera maola ambiri akuwerenga zolaula, ngakhale zitatanthauza kunyalanyaza maudindo kapena kugona
• onetsetsani kuti wokondedwa wanu kapena wokondedwa wanu amawonera zolaula kapena amachita zachiwerewere ngakhale sakufuna
• sangathe kusangalala ndi kugonana popanda kuwonera zolaula
• sungathe kukana zolaula ngakhale kuti zikusokoneza moyo wanu

Zimayambitsa chiyani?

Ziri zovuta kunena chifukwa chake kuonera zolaula nthawi zina kumatha kukhala njira zosalamulirika.

Mutha kuyamba kuyang'ana zolaula chifukwa mumazikonda, ndipo kuziona sikuwoneka ngati vuto.

Mutha kusangalala ndikuthamangitsidwa komwe kumakupatsani ndipo mumadzipeza nokha mukufunanso kuthamanga nthawi zambiri.

Pakadali pano, sizingakhale zofunikira kuti zizolowezi zowonera zikubweretsa vuto kapena kuti mudzadzimvera chisoni pambuyo pake. Ndikuti munthawi yayitali simungathe kukana.

Ngati mungayese kuyima, mutha kupeza kuti simungathe kutero. Ndi momwe zizolowezi zamakhalidwe zimazembera anthu.

ikuwonetsa kuti zizolowezi zina zamakhalidwe, monga kugwiritsa ntchito intaneti, zimakhudza njira za neural zofananira ndi zosokoneza bongo - komanso kuti zolaula za pa intaneti ndizofanana.

Ikhoza kuyamba munthawi yomwe mumasungulumwa, kusungulumwa, kuda nkhawa, kapena kukhumudwa. Monga zizolowezi zina zamakhalidwe, zitha kuchitika kwa aliyense.

Kodi mungayime nokha kapena muyenera kukaonana ndi akatswiri?

Mutha kukhala ndi mwayi wodziyang'anira nokha zolaula.

Nazi zinthu zingapo zomwe mungayesere:

• Chotsani zolaula zamagetsi ndi ma bookmark pazida zanu zonse.
• Chotsani zolaula zanu zonse zolimba.
• Pemphani wina kuti aike pulogalamu yoletsa zolaula pazida zanu zamagetsi popanda kukupatsani mawu achinsinsi.
• Khalani ndi pulani - sankhani chochita china kapena ziwiri zomwe mungapite kukakumana ndi chilimbikitso champhamvu.
• Mukafuna kuonera zolaula, zikumbutseni momwe zakhudzira moyo wanu - zilembeni ngati zingakuthandizeni.
• Ganizirani ngati pali zomwe zimayambitsa ndikuyesera kuzipewa.
• Gwirizanani ndi wina yemwe angakufunseni za chizolowezi chanu chazolaula ndikukuyimbani mlandu.
• Sungani zolemba zanu kuti muchepetse zopinga, zikumbutso, ndi zinthu zina zomwe zikugwira ntchito.

Kodi ndi njira ziti zamankhwala zomwe zingapezeke?

Ngati mungathe, lingalirani kuwona wothandizira kuti mukambirane za nkhawa zanu. Amatha kukhala ndi njira yothandizirana payokha yokuthandizani kuthana nayo.

Chithandizo

Ngati mukukhulupirira kuti muli ndi kukakamizidwa kapena chizolowezi chomwa mowa mwauchidakwa, ndibwino kuti muwone katswiri wazachipatala kuti awunike. Izi zitha kukhala zothandiza makamaka ngati mulinso ndi nkhawa, zizindikilo zakukhumudwa, kapena matenda osokoneza bongo (OCD).

Kutengera momwe zolaula zimakhudzira moyo wanu, othandizira anu amatha kupangira upangiri waumwini, gulu, kapena mabanja.

Chenjerani ndi azachipatala omwe amati ndi "akatswiri" pakuzindikira ndikuchiza zolaula. Ndizovuta "kudziwika" muvuto lomwe lilibe tanthauzo lovomerezeka mwaukadaulo kapena njira zofananira zowunikira.

Magawo operekera upangiri adzakuthandizani kumvetsetsa chomwe chidapangitsa kukakamira koyambirira. Wothandizira anu amatha kukuthandizani kuti mupange njira zothanirana ndikusintha ubale wanu ndi zolaula.

Magulu othandizira

Anthu ambiri amapeza mphamvu polankhula ndi ena omwe adadzionera okha zomwezo.

Funsani dokotala wamkulu wa zamankhwala, wamisala, kapena chipatala chakwanuko kuti mumve zambiri za zolaula kapena magulu othandizira odwala.

Nazi zina zomwe mungapeze zothandiza:

• DailyStrength.org: Gulu Lothandizira Kugonana / Zithunzi Zolaula
• Kugwiritsa Ntchito Mankhwala Osokoneza bongo ndi Maganizo a Zaumoyo (SAMHSA): National Helpline 1-800-662-4357
• American Psychological Association: Wolemba zamaganizidwe Wopezeka

Mankhwala

Chithandizo cha zizolowezi zamakhalidwe nthawi zambiri chimakhudza kuyankhula ndi chithandizo chazidziwitso. Koma dokotala wanu angakulimbikitseni mankhwala ngati muli ndi zochitika zina, monga kukhumudwa kapena OCD.

Bwanji ngati sanasamalire?

Osatengera, kukakamizidwa kapena kuledzera kumatha kukhala chiwonongeko m'moyo wanu. Maubwenzi, makamaka okondana komanso maubale, atha kusokonekera.

Kuledzera kumatha kubweretsa:

• ubale wabwino
• kuchepetsa kukhutira pogonana
• kudzikweza

Zingathenso kuyambitsa mavuto a ntchito kapena azachuma ngati mukunyalanyaza maudindo kapena kusowa udindo, kapena kuonera zolaula kuntchito komwe mungakalandire chilango.

Ngati mumakhudzidwa ndi wokondedwa

Kuyang'ana zolaula sikumayambitsa nkhawa nthawi zonse.

Itha kukhala nkhani yochita chidwi, kapena munthuyo atha kusangalala ndi zolaula popanda zovuta.

Kungakhale vuto mukawona kuti wokondedwa wanu:

• ulonda ali kuntchito kapena kumalo ena osayenera komanso nthawi zina
• amathera nthawi yochulukirapo akuwonera zolaula
• satha kutsatira zomwe akuchita, pantchito, kapena zina zofunika
• akukumana ndi zovuta zaubwenzi
• wayesa kudula kapena kusiya, koma sangathe kudzitchinjiriza

Ngati wina amene mumamukonda akuwonetsa zizindikilo zakukakamizidwa kapena kuledzera, itha kukhala nthawi yoti mutsegule njira yolumikizirana popanda kuweruza.

Mfundo yofunika

Kuwonera zolaula kamodzi - kapenanso chizolowezi - sizikutanthauza kuti muli ndi vuto.

Koma ngati mwayesa kuyimitsa ndipo simungathe, lingalirani kulumikizana ndi katswiri wazamisala wodziwa zamankhwala osokoneza bongo, zosokoneza bongo, komanso zovuta zogonana.

Katswiri wophunzitsidwa bwino atha kukuthandizani kuthana ndi zizolowezi zosayenera ndikuwongolera moyo wanu.