Njira 10 Zowongoka, Anthu a Cisgender Kukhala Othandizana Bwino Pakunyada

Zamkati

• Kunyada kumasintha… Nazi zomwe muyenera kulingalira
• 1. Dzifunseni chifukwa chomwe mumapezekera
• Mafunso oyenera kufunsa:
  
• 2. Google musanapite kukasunga mafunso mtsogolo
• Kuwerenga kwa LGBTQ + musanakhale Kunyada:
  
• 3. Chithunzi mozindikira - kapena osatero ayi
• 4. Tengani mpando wakumbuyo
• 5. Khalani achisomo
• 6. Dzidziwitseni ndi matchulidwe anu
• Kuti mubweretse matchulidwe, mutha kunena kuti:
  
• 7. Muzikumbukira chilankhulo chanu
• 8. Perekani ndalama ku mabungwe a LGBTQ +
• Ganizirani zopereka ku:
  
• 9. Bweretsani ana anu
• 10. Sangalalani

Patha zaka 49 kuchokera pomwe Pride yoyamba inayamba, koma Kunyada kusanachitike, panali Stonewall Riots, kamphindi m'mbiri pomwe gulu la LGBTQ + lidalimbana ndi nkhanza za apolisi komanso kuponderezedwa mwalamulo. Chaka chino chikumbukira zaka 50 za Stonewall Riots.

"Ziwombankhanga za Stonewall zidayamba pa June 28, 1969, ndipo zidatsogolera masiku atatu achionetsero komanso zachiwawa zotsutsana ndi apolisi kunja kwa Stonewall Inn pa Christopher Street ku New York City," akutero mtsogoleri wa gulu la LGBTQ, a Fernando Z. Lopez, wamkulu ku San Kunyada kwa Diego. "Kawirikawiri, zochitika izi zimawerengedwa ngati chiyambi komanso chothandizira pantchito yolimbikitsa ufulu wa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha ku United States."

Masiku ano, zochitika zoposa 1,000 za Kunyada zikuchitika m'mizinda padziko lonse lapansi ngati umboni kwa magulu a LGBTQ + kuyesetsabe kupitiriza kuponderezana komanso kusagwirizana. Ngakhale pakhala kupita patsogolo, kudana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha komanso transphobia akadali vuto mu United States komanso padziko lonse lapansi.

M'zaka zisanu zapitazi, tawona zachiwawa zakupha kwa anthu a LGBTQ + ku United States:

• kuwombera misanje yaku Pulse mu 2016
• transgender anthu oletsedwa kunkhondo motsogozedwa ndi Purezidenti Trump
• osachepera 26 trans transks adaphedwa mu 2018, ambiri mwa iwo anali akazi akuda, omwe anali ndi 10 osaphedwa ndi transgender mpaka pano mu 2019
• Dongosolo la Trump-Pence lothetsera chitetezo cha LGBTQ posasankha pamankhwala

Ndicho chifukwa chake Lopez akuti: "Chikumbutso cha 50 ichi ndichinthu chofunikira kwambiri pagulu la LGBTQ + ndipo chifukwa cha kuwukira kwaposachedwa komanso kwaposachedwa kwa ufulu wa LGBTQ +, ndikofunikira monga kale." Chifukwa chake pakunyada chaka chino, anthu aziguba kukakondwerera ndikumenyananso - motsutsana ndi nkhanza komanso kusala pantchito, ufulu wogwira ntchito zankhondo mosavomerezeka ndikupeza chithandizo chamankhwala, ndikuvomerezedwa kwathunthu.

Kunyada kumasintha… Nazi zomwe muyenera kulingalira

"Zaka 20 zapitazo, Kunyada inali sabata kumapeto kwa anthu a LGBTQ + ndi abwenzi athu apamtima. Unali phwando labwino kwambiri, komanso mwayi wosangalala ndikukhala momwe muliri m'malo omwe mumamva kuti ndinu otetezeka, "atero Purezidenti wa FUSE Marketing Group komanso loya wa LGBTQ +, a Stephen Brown. "Tsopano, Kunyada kumawoneka mosiyana."

Pomwe zochitika zodzikuza zikukula, pakhala pali anthu ena kunja kwa gulu la LGBTQ + omwe amabwera - ndipo nthawi zina, pazifukwa zosafunikira kwenikweni, monga chowiringula paphwando ndi kumwa kapena kungowonera anthu.

"Zochitika zonyada sizimayikidwa molunjika, anzanu achisoni. Mosiyana ndi malo komanso zochitika zambiri zomwe zimadutsa mkati, Kudzitamandira sikuli kwa anthu wamba owongoka komanso zomwe akumana nazo, "akutero Amy Boyajian, woyambitsa mnzake ndi CEO wa Wild Flower, malo ogulitsira ogonana pa intaneti omwe atulutsidwa kumene woyamba kunjenjemera wopanda jenda, Enby.

Ngakhale Kunyada sikuli chifukwa Anthu owongoka a cisgender, othandizira a LGBTQA + alandilidwa. “Ndikufuna aliyense apite ku Kunyada. Anthu a LGBTQ + komanso ogwirizana mofanana, ”akutero a J.R. Gray, wolemba zachikondi chokhazikika ku Miami, Florida. “Ndikufuna anzathu kuti abwere adzasangalale nafe. Bwerani mudzatisonyeze kuti mumalemekeza komanso kukonda omwe tili. ”

Koma, ayenera kutsatira zomwe amachitcha "lamulo lachiwiri" la Kunyada: "Lemekezani anthu onse, kaya akhale amuna kapena akazi okhaokha."

Kodi izi zikutanthauza chiyani ndipo zimawoneka bwanji pochita? Gwiritsani ntchito ndondomekoyi kuti ikuthandizeni kukhala aulemu komanso othandizana nawo mukamapita Kunyada-anzanu omwe gulu la LGBTQ + likufunikira komanso liyenera.

1. Dzifunseni chifukwa chomwe mumapezekera

Kunyada si malo oti mumangoyang'ana ndi kuwonera anthu. Komanso, sindiwo malo oti musonkhanitse zomwe zili mu nkhani ya Instagram (yomwe ikhoza kukhala yotsutsana). Monga a Boyajian anenera, "Ndikuganiza molondola, anthu omwe ali ndi chidwi chodzifunsa ayenera kudzifunsa mafunso angapo asanapite kumsonkhano."

Mafunso oyenera kufunsa:

• Kodi ndikunyada kugwiritsa ntchito anthu osawoneka ngati gwero la zosangalatsa zanga?
• Kodi ndimadziwa mbiri ya Kunyada ndipo chifukwa chake chikondwererochi ndi chofunikira kwa anthu wamba?
• Kodi ndimothandizadi pagulu la LGBTQ +?

"Mafunso awa atha kuthandiza anthu kulingalira zolinga zawo kuti athe kutsimikiza kuti akulowa m'malo a Kunyada mwanzeru komanso mwadala," akutero Boyajian.

Ngati mupita Kunyada kuti muwonetse kuthandizira kwanu ndipo mutha kulowa mumalowo ndikumvetsetsa kuti Kunyada ndi chifukwa chiyani ndikofunikira kufotokozera anthu, mwalandilidwa!

2. Google musanapite kukasunga mafunso mtsogolo

Kodi muli ndi funso lokhudza jenda, kugonana, kapena kunyada? Google izo musanapite. Sintchito ya gulu lachifumu kukhala aphunzitsi, makamaka pa Kunyada. Titha kukhala opanda chidwi komanso chovuta kufunsa wina za zonena, zogonana pakati pawo, pakati pa chiwonetsero (komanso nthawi ina iliyonse).

Chifukwa chake ndikofunikira kuti ogwirizana kuti achite kafukufuku wawo m'malo mongodalira anzawo kuti ayankhe mafunso awo onse okhudza mbiri ya LGBTQ +, jenda, komanso kugonana, atero Boyajian.

"Kubwera patebulopo mutachita kafukufuku wanu kukuwonetsa ndalama mu LGBTQ +, yomwe imapitilira Kudzikuza," akutero Boyajian. Pali zinthu zomwe zitha kupezeka kwa iwo omwe akufuna kuphunzira, kuphatikiza malo omwe muli LGBTQ +, zochitika zapakati pa chaka ndi intaneti. Zolemba pansipa za Healthline ndi malo abwino kuyamba:

Kuwerenga kwa LGBTQ + musanakhale Kunyada:

• Kodi Zimatanthauzanji Kusocheretsa Wina
• Chonde Lekani Kufunsa Anthu a LGBTQ + Zokhudza Kugonana Kwawo
• Momwe Mungalankhulire Ndi Anthu Omwe Ali Transgender Komanso Osakhala Binary
• Kodi Zimatanthauzanji Kukhala ndi Bisexual Kapena Bi?
• Ndi chiyani chosiyana pakati pa kugonana ndi jenda
• Kodi Zimatanthauzanji Kuzindikiritsa Monga Genderqueer?

Monga Lopez anenera, "Palibe vuto kupempha thandizo ndi chitsogozo, koma kuyembekezera mnzanu / mnzake wa LGBTQ kudziwa zonse ndikukhala wofunitsitsa kukuphunzitsani alibe nzeru." Yankho limodzi ndikuti musafunsenso kuchuluka kwa mafunso anu pambuyo pa Kunyada.

"Kwa ambiri a ife, Kunyada kumatha kukhala mphindi yaufulu pomwe sitiyenera kufotokoza kapena kubisa zina zathu. Moyo ndi wovuta, ngakhale wowopsa kwa anthu osawadziwa, kotero Kunyada kumatha kumva ngati kupumula ku zowawa. Kuchita kudzifotokozera wekha komanso umunthu wako kapena ena ku Pride kwa ena kulibenso ufulu patsikuli, ”akutero Boyajian.

3. Chithunzi mozindikira - kapena osatero ayi

Ngakhale mungafune kuti mutenge mphindiyo, ndikofunikira kusamala mukamajambula zithunzi za anthu ena komanso omwe amapita Kunyada. Ngakhale chiwonetsero ndi zochitika zina za Kunyada zingawoneke ngati chithunzi chabwino, sikuti aliyense amafuna kujambulidwa.

Taganizirani izi: Chifukwa chiyani ndikujambula chithunzi ichi? Kodi ndikuchita izi kuti ndipange zowoneka bwino kapena nthabwala kuchokera kwa winawake kapena / kapena zomwe wavala? Kodi kujambula ndikuyika chithunzi ichi kuvomerezana? Kodi kutenga ndikutumiza chithunzi ichi kumatha "kutulutsa" wina kapena kungakhudze ntchito, chitetezo, kapena thanzi lake?

Chifukwa choti wina akupita Kunyada, sizitanthauza kuti akumva bwino kugawana izi ndi dziko lapansi. Amatha kupezeka mwachinsinsi, ndipo zithunzi zitha kuwaika pachiwopsezo.

Chifukwa chake ngati mungatenge zithunzi za winawake nthawi zonse mupemphe chilolezo chake poyamba, kapena osangotenga zithunzi za ena konse - ndikusangalala ndi chikondwererochi! Anthu ambiri amakhala okondwa kwambiri kujambula nanu chithunzi, kapena kujambulidwa, koma kufunsa pasadakhale kukuwonetsa gawo loyambira la ulemu.

4. Tengani mpando wakumbuyo

Kunyada ndiko kukondwerera ndikupatsa mphamvu gulu la LGBT, osachotsapo. Ndipo izi zikutanthauza kupanga malo akuthupi kwa anthu a LGBTQ + ku Pride kuti azisangalala.

"Kunyada, mgwirizano ndi kukweza anthu a LGBTQ, kutipangira malo, osati kulamulira malo. M'malo modzikuza timapempha anzathu kuti atipatse malo, "akutero a Lopez. Izi zikuphatikiza malo akuthupi, monga kusatenga mzere wakutsogolo. Kapena mzere wachiwiri kapena wachitatu. M'malo mwake, perekani mipando ija kwa gulu la LGBTQ +.

Onetsetsani kuti mwayang'ana pamasamba osangalatsa musanawonetsenso. "Okonza madyerero ndiabwino kufotokoza zomwe muyenera kuyembekezera ndikuchita paziwonetsero zawo ndi zikondwerero zawo patsamba lawo komanso masamba azama TV, komanso omwe alandilidwa," atero a Gary Costa, wamkulu ku Golden Rainbow, bungwe zomwe zimathandiza kupereka nyumba, maphunziro, komanso thandizo lazandalama kwa amuna, akazi, ndi ana omwe ali ndi HIV / AIDS ku Nevada.

Komanso kumbukirani kuti si malo kapena zochitika zonse pa Kunyada zomwe zili zotseguka kwa ogwirizana. Mwachitsanzo, zochitika zomwe zitha kutchedwa Ma Leather Baars, Dyke Marches, Bear Parties, Trans Marches, Disability Pride Parades, S&M Balls, ndi QPOC Picnics nthawi zambiri sizotseguka kwa ogwirizana. Ngati simukutsimikiza, ingofunsani wokonza bungwe kapena membala wa gulu lanu ngati zili bwino kuti mupite nawo, ndipo mulemekeze kuyankha kwawo.

5. Khalani achisomo

Kuyamba, izi zikutanthauza kusiya lingaliro (kapena mantha) kuti wina amene sazindikira kuti ndi amuna kapena akazi anzawo amakopeka nanu. "Kungokhala kuti si amuna kapena akazi okhaokha omwe amakopeka ndi amuna kapena akazi anzawo, kukhala pafupi ndi munthu amene mumakopeka naye sikukutsimikizira kuti munthuyo adzakukhudzani," akutero Kryss Shane, katswiri wa LGBTQ +, MS, MSW, LSW, LMSW.

Izi zati, kukopana kumachitika pa Kunyada chifukwa ndi njira yabwino kwa anthu omwe amakumana ndi anzawo kuti akumane ndi anzawo ena. “Ngati muli ndi chikondi chomwe simukufuna, tsikani mwaulemu monga momwe mungachitire ndi munthu aliyense yemwe simukukopeka naye. Kukopa kwa Queer, kukondana, ndi chikondi sikulakwa choncho osazitenga ngati izi, "akutero Boyajian.

Choyipa chachikulu, "musasake" anthu omwe angakuthandizeni kukwaniritsa zokonda zanu. Kunyada si malo oti mabanja owongoka apeze gudumu lachitatu. Komanso si malo oti anthu owongoka kuti apeze anthu omwe akufuna kuti aziwonera akugonana chifukwa "mwakhala mukufunitsitsa kudziwa."

6. Dzidziwitseni ndi matchulidwe anu

Simungadziwe za amuna kapena akazi, zogonana, kapena matchulidwe ena mwa kungowayang'ana. "Ndibwino kuti musaganize zaomwe munthu angafune kapena kudziwika," akufotokoza Boyajian. Mukatero, mumakhala pachiwopsezo chowaponyera zomwe zitha kukhala zoyambitsa komanso zopweteka.

M'malo mongoganiza, ingofunsani - koma onetsetsani kuti mwangoyambitsa matchulidwe anu poyamba. Imeneyi ndi njira yodziwitsira ena kuti ndinu othandizanadi, ndipo mumalemekeza ndi kulemekeza amuna kapena akazi onse. Ndipo munthu wina akatchula matchulidwe awo, athokozeni ndikupitilira - osayankhapo pazitchulidwe zawo kapena kufunsa chifukwa chomwe amazigwiritsira ntchito. Ichi ndi chizolowezi chokhala m'masiku 365 pachaka, koma ndikofunikira makamaka kwa Kunyada.

Kuti mubweretse matchulidwe, mutha kunena kuti:

• "Dzina langa ndine Gabrielle ndipo ndimagwiritsa ntchito matchulidwe ake."
• “Ndasangalala kukumana nanu, [X]. Ndine Gabrielle ndipo mayina anga ndi ake / ake. Zako ndi ziti? ”

"Panokha, nthawi zonse ndimayenera kuwongolera anthu okhala ndi mayina anga kotero zimakopa chidwi wina akadziwikitsa ndi mayina awo," Boyajian. "Kwa ine, izi zikusonyeza ulemu komanso kumasuka kuti ndidziwe kuti ndine ndani."

Kufikira nthawi yomweyo, musaganize kuti maanja ena omwe "amawoneka" owongoka ali. Kumbukirani kuti chimodzi kapena zonsezi zitha kukhala bi, poto, transgender, kapena zosakhala zosakanikirana. Mwachidule, osaganizira chilichonse chifukwa, chabwino ... mumadziwa mawu akale.

7. Muzikumbukira chilankhulo chanu

Ponyadira, mungamve anthu akudzitcha okha ndi mawu a anzawo omwe amaonedwa kuti ndi onyoza, kapena omwe kale amawawona ngati onyoza. Izi sizitanthauza kuti aliyense akhoza kufuula chilichonse chomwe angafune. Monga mnzake, muyenera ayi gwiritsani ntchito mawu awa. Ngati mukuganizabe chifukwa chake, nayi malongosoledwe:

Anthu am'magulu a LGBTQ + amagwiritsa ntchito mawuwa ngati njira yobwezera china chake chomwe chidagwiritsidwa ntchito ngati chipongwe choyipa kwa iwo kapena gulu lonse la LGBTQ + - izi nthawi zambiri zimawoneka ngati mphamvu.

Monga mnzanu, simungathandizire kubweza mawu omwe amagwiritsidwa ntchito motsutsana ndi gulu lomwe simuli m'gulu lanu. Chifukwa chake ogwirizana omwe amagwiritsa ntchito mawuwa amadziwika kuti ndi achiwawa. Ndipo ngati simukutsimikiza ngati mawu ali oyenera kuti muwagwiritse ntchito, osangonena konse.

8. Perekani ndalama ku mabungwe a LGBTQ +

Pambuyo popita kumisonkhano yonyada, dzifunseni zomwe mukuchita kapena zomwe mukuchita pagulu la LGBTQ +, akuwonetsa a Shane. "Ngati muli okonzeka kulipira poyimitsa magalimoto kapena Uber, valani t-sheti ya utawaleza kapena mikanda ya utawaleza, ndikuvina momwe zimayandikira pa chiwonetserochi, ndingolimbikitseni kuti nanunso mukhale ofunitsitsa kuthandiza anthu amtundu womwewo ngakhale pamene sichisangalatsa komanso sichikhala ndi zonyezimira. ”

Kufikira pamenepo, Lopez akuti: "Tikupempha anzathu omwe atithandizira kuti apereke zomwe zathandizira, zothandiza, ndi magulu athu."

Ganizirani zopereka ku:

• Anthu a LGBTQ + kudzera pa Venmo, Cash-App, ndi Patreon
• Iliyonse yamabungwe awa a LGBTQ +
• likulu la LGBTQ + kwanuko

Ngati mulibe njira zopezera ndalama, Boyajian akuwonetsa kuganiza za njira zina zomwe mungathandizire anthu ammudzi. "Atha kukhala kuti mukuchita nawo ziwonetserazi mosatekeseka ndikupereka mahatchi opita kumalo obisalamo anthu otetezedwa, kuteteza anthu ovomerezeka ku otsutsa a LGBTQ + ndi omwe akuyesera kutipweteketsa pamwambo wonyada kapena zina, kapena kutipezera madzi."

Izi zitha kuphatikizanso kuwonetsetsa kuti zochitika za Kunyada zimapezeka kwa anthu olumala a LGBTQ +, kukweza mawu amtundu wa LGBTQ + pobwezeretsanso / kutumizanso zomwe zili, ndikutseka anthu omwe akupanga nthabwala za "Kudzikuza Kowongoka" kapena kunyoza / kunyoza / kupangitsa gulu la LGBTQ + .

9. Bweretsani ana anu

Ngati ndinu kholo, mwina mungadzifunse kuti, "Kodi ndiyenera kubweretsa mwana wanga kunyada?" Yankho ndilo inde! Malingana ngati muli omasuka kutero ndipo nonse ndinu okonzeka kubweretsa chidwi chanu ndikuthandizani.

"Kunyada kungakhale nthawi yabwino kwambiri yophunzirira ana ndi achinyamata," akutero Boyajian. “Kuwona achikulire akukondana ndichinthu chabwinobwino ndipo kuyika chikondi pakati pawo ndikofunikira. Kuwonetsa achichepere kuti kukhala odandaula kumatha kukhala chinthu chabwino kumangowalimbikitsa kuti akhale omwe akufuna kukhala opanda chiweruzo. ”

Mukambirane ndi ana anu, a Antioco Carrillo, wamkulu wa Aid for AIDS of Nevada, akuwonetsa. "Afotokozereni kuti dera lathu ndi lolemera komanso losiyanasiyana komanso kuti ndizosiyana bwanji kukhala ndi mwayi wopita ku mwambowu komwe aliyense amavomerezedwa. Fotokozani m'njira yomvetsetsa ndipo akumbukire kuti pali mwayi kuti atha kukhala LGBTQ + iwowo. ”

Costa akuvomereza, ndikuwonjezera kuti: "Ponena za momwe mungafotokozere ana anu zomwe awona siziyenera kukhala zosiyana ndi momwe munthu angachitire ngati anawo awona zomwe sanazionepo pa TV kapena mufilimu. Uthengawu uyenera kukhala kuti 'chikondi ndi chokongola' nthawi zonse. ”

Mukulongosola kwanu, ikani Kunyada muzolemba. Fotokozani kufunikira kwa mbiriyakale komanso kufunikira kwa Kunyada, atero Shane. Zambiri zomwe mungapatse mwana wanu zisanachitike, zimakhala bwino. "Ngakhale kunyada kumakhala kosangalatsa ndi utawaleza wambiri komanso nyimbo, ngati ana anu samamvetsetsa kuti pali zina zambiri kuposa kungopita kuphwando, mukuphonya mwayi wowapatsa chidziwitso chamtengo wapatali," akutero.

10. Sangalalani

Ngati mupita Kunyada, pitani mukasangalale! "Khalani ndi nthawi yabwino, kuvina, kufuula ndi kusangalala, sangalalani, khalani odabwitsidwa ndi kuchuluka kwa anthu omwe akuthandiza gulu la LGBTQ + komanso kukhala eni ake," amalimbikitsa a Brown.

"Kunyada ndi chisangalalo cha chikondi ndi kuvomereza, ndipo mamembala osiyanasiyana amaonetsa chikondi m'njira zosiyanasiyana," akutero a Brown. "Ngati muwonekera ndikofunikira kwambiri kuti muzikumbukira nthawi zonse." Ndipo ngati mungatero, mwayi mukhala kuti mukuthandizira LGBTQ + mwanzeru komanso mwaulemu.

Ingokumbukirani, ogwirizana, “Tikukusowani chaka chonse. Sitingapambane nkhondoyi popanda inu. Kuthandiza gulu la LGBTQ komanso kukhala mnzake weniweni sikungotanthauza kuvala masokosi a utawaleza kamodzi pachaka, "akutero a Lopez. “Tikufuna kuti muime nafe kutisamalira chaka chonse. Tilembeni ntchito m'mabizinesi anu. Sankhani anthu omwe adzakwaniritse mfundo zomwe zimapanga ndalama za LGBTQ. Thandizani mabizinesi omwe ali ndi LGBTQ. Lekani kuvutitsa anzawo kapena kuwazunza nthawi iliyonse mukakumana nawo. ”

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