Kuyankhula Kwapenga: Katswiri Wanga Anandiuza Kuti Ndidzipereke Ndekha. Ndachita Mantha.

Zamkati

• Sam, ndakhala ndikulimbana ndi matenda osokoneza bongo kwa nthawi yayitali, ndipo zikuwoneka kuti ndikusintha.
• Ndakhala ndikudzipha mwakachetechete kwa milungu ingapo, ndipo pomwe sindikufuna kudzipha, wothandizira wanga adandiuza kuti ndipitebe kuchipatala kukalandira chithandizo china. Ndimachita mantha, komabe. Sindikudziwa choti ndingayembekezere - thandizo la {textend}?
• Chowonadi, komabe, sinali kanema wowopsa womwe ndimaganizira.
• Chifukwa chiyani aliyense, kwenikweni, ngati sizabwino?
• Izi zati, ndizovuta kudziwa momwe mungakonzekerere kukhala mchipatala china, popeza aliyense ndi wosiyana.
• Sungani sutikesi (kapena thumba la duffel)
• Sankhani gulu lothandizira
• Lembani manambala a foni omwe mungafune
• Imani pafupi ndi malo ogulitsa mabuku kapena laibulale
• Pangani (zazing'ono) mapulani amtsogolo
• Fotokozani zomwe mukuyembekezera
• Ndipo chinthu chomaliza, ndisanatsike m'bokosi langa la sopo: Mukapita kuchipatala, osa thamangitsani kuchira kwanu.
• Monga mavuto ena aliwonse azaumoyo, nthawi zina chisamaliro chofunikira chimafunika. Icho ndi chowonadi cha moyo ndipo palibe chifukwa chochitira manyazi.

Monga munthu yemwe ndakhalapo kawiri, ndili ndi upangiri wambiri kwa inu.

Awa ndi Openga: Nkhani yolangiza zokambirana moona mtima, mopanda tanthauzo pazokhudza zamisala ndi loya Sam Dylan Finch. Ngakhale kuti siwodalirika, amakhala ndi moyo wathanzi wokhala ndi matenda osokoneza bongo (OCD). Adaphunzira zinthu mwanjira yovuta kuti inu (mwachiyembekezo) musasowe.

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Chidziwitso Chazambiri: Psychiatric hospital, kudzipha

Sam, ndakhala ndikulimbana ndi matenda osokoneza bongo kwa nthawi yayitali, ndipo zikuwoneka kuti ndikusintha.

Ndakhala ndikudzipha mwakachetechete kwa milungu ingapo, ndipo pomwe sindikufuna kudzipha, wothandizira wanga adandiuza kuti ndipitebe kuchipatala kukalandira chithandizo china. Ndimachita mantha, komabe. Sindikudziwa choti ndingayembekezere - thandizo la {textend}?

Anthu akandifunsa za momwe zimakhalira ndikulandilidwa kuchipatala, sindimenya nawo tchire: "Tchuthi choipitsitsa chomwe ndidakhalako."

Ndi tchuthi chomwe, mwa njira, ndakhala ndikusangalala kukumana kawiri. Ndipo sindinathe kuyika zithunzi zanga za tchuthi pa Instagram, chifukwa adandichotsera foni. Mitsempha!

Ndikadakhala kuti, zikadakhala zikuwoneka ngati izi:

(Kodi munganene kuti nthabwala ndi imodzi mwazomwe ndimatha kuthana nazo?)

Chifukwa chake ngati mukuchita mantha, ndikumva chisoni ndi mantha omwe mukunenawa. Atolankhani sanatichitirepo izi.

Nditajambula 'ma psych psych wards' (mukudziwa, ndisanakhale m'modzi), ndimaganiza momwemo mungakumbukire kena kake kuchokera mufilimu yowopsya - {textend} yokhala ndi zipinda zokhala ndi zikopa, odwala akukuwa, ndi anamwino akumangirira anthu pansi ndikuwakhazika pansi.

Zomwe zimamveka ngati zomveka, nkhani zosangalatsazo zinali zanga zokhazokha mpaka pano.

Chowonadi, komabe, sinali kanema wowopsa womwe ndimaganizira.

Makoma anga sanali otchingidwa (ngakhale izi zimamveka ngati zabwino), odwala anali ochezeka kuposa kufuula, ndipo sewero lomwe tidali nalo linali kukambirana za omwe amayang'anira kutali usiku uliwonse tikamaonera TV.

Izi sizikutanthauza kuti zinali zosangalatsa. Kugonekedwa mchipatala kunali kovuta - {textend} ndipo munjira zambiri zowopsa chifukwa sizachilendo munjira iliyonse. Ndikukuuzani zonsezi kuti musakuwopsyezeni, koma, kuti ndikonzekere ndikuthandizeni kukhazikitsa ziyembekezo zoyenera.

Kusintha kwakukulu kumakhudzana ndi kuwongolera, komwe aliyense amachita mosiyanasiyana. Simulamuliranso chakudya chomwe mumadya, komwe mumagona, nthawi yomwe mungagwiritse ntchito foni, ndandanda yanu, komanso nthawi zina, mukachoka.

Kwa ena, kutha kusiya kukonzekera kwa tsiku ndi tsiku ndikulola wina kuti aziyang'anira ndi mpumulo. Kwa ena, ndizovuta. Ndipo nthawi zina? Ndizochepa zonse ziwiri.

Gawo lomwe ndimakonda koposa, linali kumverera kokhala pansi pa microscope.Lingaliro lakuyang'aniridwa mphindi iliyonse (komanso, kutaya chinsinsi) sizinali zovuta kupirira.

Ndinkamva bwino ndisanaloledwe, koma ndimamva ngati ndangodzaza mafuta ndikawona wina yemwe ali ndi bolodi lowerengera kuti alembe kuchuluka kwa chakudya chomwe ndasiya pa tray.

Inde inde, sindidzapaka shuga: Zipatala ndi malo ovuta. Izi sizinandiletse kuti ndibwerere kachiwiri ndikafunika kutero. (Ndipo ngati mupitiliza kuwerenga, ndikupatsani maupangiri kuti izi zikhale zosavuta, ndikulonjeza.)

Ndiye ndichifukwa chiyani ndidapita mofunitsitsa? Ndipo kawiri, osachepera? Limenelo ndi funso lovomerezeka.

Chifukwa chiyani aliyense, kwenikweni, ngati sizabwino?

Yankho losavuta lomwe nditha kupereka ndikuti nthawi zina zomwe timachita zosowa kuchita ndi zomwe tikufuna amakonda kuchita ndi zinthu ziwiri zosiyana kwambiri.

Ndipo nthawi zambiri, zomwe timakonda zimapitilira malingaliro athu pazomwe timafunikira, ndichifukwa chake malingaliro akunja - {textend} monga othandizira anu - {textend} ndiofunika kwambiri kuti achire.

Ndi anthu ochepa omwe amasangalala kupita kuchipatala pazifukwa zilizonse. Koma ndikadangopanga zomwe ndidachita amafuna kuti ndichite, ndikadakhala ndikudya Sour Patch Kids pachakudya cham'mawa ndikuwononga maphwando a ana kubadwa kuti nditha kugwiritsa ntchito nyumba yawo yopumira ndikudya keke yawo.

Mwanjira ina, ndikadamangidwa chifukwa cholakwa.

Ndinapita kuchipatala chifukwa nkhawa zomwe ndinali nazo zinali zitandipweteka kwambiri. Ndinkafuna thandizo, ndipo ngakhale sindinkafuna kuchipatala, ndinazindikira kuti ndi komwe ndimakapeza.

Ngati mungathe kuona m'maganizo mwanu chithunzi ichi: Ndinagundana mpaka kwa munthu amene anali m'chipinda chodzidzimutsa ndipo ndinanena mosasamala, "Ndimafuna kudumpha kutsogolo kwa sitima, ndiye ndabwera pano."

Si zokambirana zomwe ndimaganizira kuti ndikhoza kukhala nazo, koma kenanso, ndi anthu ochepa omwe amayembekezera kusokonezeka kwa malingaliro kapena kulemba zolemba zake.

Mwina ndikadanena izi mopepuka - {textend} ndipo mwina ndidachita mantha kutuluka mwa wantchito - {textend} koma pansi, ndidachita mantha.

Ndi chinthu cholimba mtima chomwe ndidachitapo. Ndipo ndiyeneranso kukhala woonamtima kwa inu, inenso: Sindingakulonjezeni kuti ndikadakhalabe ndi moyo ndikadapanda kusankha.

Simuyenera kukhala pamphepete mwa imfa kuti mupite kuchipatala, komabe.

Sindikudziwa wothandizira wanu, sindinganene motsimikiza chifukwa chokhala ndi odwala omwe adwala adalimbikitsidwa (ngati simukudziwa, mumaloledwa kufunsa, mukudziwa!). Ndikudziwa, komabe, kuti si malingaliro omwe asing'anga sapeputsa - {textend} amangoperekedwa ngati akhulupilira kuti zidzakuthandizani.

“Mukupindula?” Ndikudziwa, ndikudziwa, ndizovuta kulingalira kuti chilichonse chabwino chingatulukemo.

Koma kupitirira "kukhala ndi moyo," pali maubwino ena ofunikira kuchipatala chamaganizidwe omwe tiyenera kukambirana.

Ngati muli pa mpanda, Nazi zina zofunika kuziganizira:

• Muyenera kuyang'ana pa inu. Ndidayitcha tchuthi, sichoncho? Palibe malemba oti ayankhe, palibe maimelo ogwira ntchito oti muthe kuchita izi - {textend} ino ndi nthawi yoti muziganizira kwambiri za kudzisamalira kwanu.
• Mumakhala ndi malingaliro owonjezera azachipatala. Gulu latsopano lachipatala, motero, maso atsopano atha kubweretsa dongosolo la chithandizo kapena matenda ena omwe angakuthandizeni kuti mupeze bwino.
• Zopindulitsa zazing'ono zomwe zimalephereka zimapezeka mosavuta. M'malo ambiri, maubwino akanthawi kochepa olumala amakhala osavuta kufikira mukakhala mchipatala (ndipo mudzakhala ndi ogwira nawo ntchito omwe alipo kuti akuthandizeni kuyendanso njirayi).
• Mutha kukonzanso zomwe mumachita. Zipatala za Psych zimatsata ndandanda zosasinthasintha (chakudya cham'mawa pa 9, luso lazamasana masana, mankhwala am'magulu 1, ndi zina zotero). Kubwereranso kuzinthu zodalirika kungakhale kothandiza kuposa momwe mungaganizire.
• Kusintha kwamankhwala kumatha kuchitika mwachangu kwambiri. Ngati china chake sichikugwira ntchito, simuyenera kudikirira milungu itatu kufikira nthawi yomwe mudzakumane ndi dokotala wazamisala.
• Simuyenera kunamizira kuti simuli osokoneza. Aliyense ali ngati akuyembekeza kuti mudzakhala chisokonezo, sichoncho? Pitirizani kulira ngati mukufuna kutero.
• Mwazunguliridwa ndi anthu omwe "amalandira." Ndikakumana ndi odwala ena, ndidapeza mizimu yapachibale yomwe imatha kumvetsetsa zomwe ndikukumana nazo. Thandizo lawo lidangokhala lothandiza monganso la azachipatala, kapena kupitilira apo.
• Nthawi zambiri zimakhala zotetezeka kuposa kukhala nokha. Sindingathe kudumpha kutsogolo kwa sitima pomwe sindinathe kutuluka mu wadi wopanda kiyi, tsopano ndingatero?

Izi zati, ndizovuta kudziwa momwe mungakonzekerere kukhala mchipatala china, popeza aliyense ndi wosiyana.

Koma ngati mukudzivomereza nokha mwaufulu, awa ndi ena mwa malingaliro omwe angapangitse chidziwitso kukhala chabwino:

Sungani sutikesi (kapena thumba la duffel)

Izi zidandipangitsa kuti ndigoneke kachiwiri kotero bwino kuposa woyamba wanga.

Bweretsani ma pyjamas ambiri ndi zingwe zochotsedwa, zovala zamkati kuposa momwe mukuganizira, bulangeti lofewa, ndi zinthu zilizonse zolimbikitsa zomwe sizimakhudza zamagetsi kapena zinthu zakuthwa.

Sankhani gulu lothandizira

Kodi pali wina wofunitsitsa kukhala m'nyumba mwanu ndikusungabe zinthu zoyera (ndipo, ngati muli ndi anzanu, pitirizani kudyetsa?). Ndani azilankhula ndi kuntchito kwanu pakafunika zosintha? Ndani yemwe ali "pagulu" ngati anthu ayamba kudabwa kuti bwanji sanamve kwa inu kwakanthawi?

Ganizirani zomwe mudzafunika kuthandizidwa nazo, ndipo musawope kufikira ndikufunsa okondedwa anu kuti akuthandizeni.

Lembani manambala a foni omwe mungafune

Zowonjezera, atenga foni yanu. Chifukwa chake ngati pali anthu omwe mukufuna kuwaimbira foni, koma mulibe manambala awo a foni pamtima, ndibwino kuwalemba papepala ndikukhala nanu.

Imani pafupi ndi malo ogulitsa mabuku kapena laibulale

Ndi zamagetsi ziti zomwe mungathe kapena zomwe simungakhale nazo mosiyanasiyana kuchipatala, koma ambiri amalakwitsa ndi detox yodzaza ndi digito.

Osataya mtima, komabe! Pitani "kusukulu yakale" ndi zosangalatsa zanu: Mabuku ojambula, zoseweretsa, mabuku achinsinsi, komanso mabuku othandiza kudzithandiza anali anzanga apamtima nditagonekedwa mchipatala. Ndinasunganso zolemba, inenso.

Pangani (zazing'ono) mapulani amtsogolo

Ndinkadziwa kuti nditagonekedwa koyamba kuchipatala ndikulemba tattoo yatsopano kuti ndikumbukire mphamvu zomwe ndidawonetsera pochira. Ngati zingathandize, sungani mndandanda wazomwe mukufuna kuchita mukafika kutsidya lina.

Fotokozani zomwe mukuyembekezera

Kodi mukufuna kutuluka chiyani muchipatala? Zimathandiza kukhala ndi lingaliro losamveka pazomwe mukuyang'ana, ndikulankhula izi kwa omwe amakupatsani momwe mungathere.

Ndizosintha ziti zomwe mukuyenera kuwona - {textend} pazinthu, mwamalingaliro, komanso mwakuthupi - {textend} kuti moyo wanu ukhale wosavuta?

Ndipo chinthu chomaliza, ndisanatsike m'bokosi langa la sopo: Mukapita kuchipatala, osa thamangitsani kuchira kwanu.

Ili ndiye langizo labwino kwambiri lomwe ndingakupatseni koma lidzakhala lotsutsa kwambiri, nalonso.

Ndikumvetsetsa mwachangu kutulutsa gehena chifukwa ndizo ndendende zomwe ndidachita nthawi yoyamba - {textend} Ndidafalitsanso pulogalamu kuti ndimasulidwe koyambirira ... nthawi yayitali ndisanakonzekere kuchoka.

Koma kuchipatala ndiko, kwenikweni, kukumanga maziko a kuchira kwanu konse. Simungathamangitse maziko a nyumba yayitali, sichoncho?

Sipanathe ngakhale chaka chimodzi kuti ndinali kumbuyo kwa ambulansi kachiwiri, okonzeka kuchita izi kachiwirinso (ndi malipiro ambiri atayika ndipo ngongole yachipatala yasonkhanitsidwa - {textend} ndendende zomwe ndimayesetsa kupewa).

Dzipatseni mwayi wabwino wopambana. Onetsani gulu lililonse, gawo lililonse, chakudya chilichonse, ndi zochitika zilizonse zomwe mungathe. Tsatirani zomwe mwapatsidwa, kuphatikiza chisamaliro chotsatira, momwe mungathere, nanunso.

Khalani okonzeka kuyesa chilichonse - {textend} ngakhale zinthu zomwe zimawoneka zotopetsa kapena zopanda ntchito - {textend} kamodzi, ngati sichoncho kawiri (kungowonetsetsa kuti simunali okhumudwa koyamba chifukwa, Hei, zimachitika).

Ndipo ndikhulupirireni, azachipatala anu sakufuna kuti mukhale mchipatala nthawi yayitali kuposa momwe muyenera kukhalira. Palibe phindu kukupatsani bedi pamene wina angafune kwambiri. Khulupirirani izi ndikuzikumbukira izi ndizakanthawi.

Monga mavuto ena aliwonse azaumoyo, nthawi zina chisamaliro chofunikira chimafunika. Icho ndi chowonadi cha moyo ndipo palibe chifukwa chochitira manyazi.

Ngati mukukumana ndi mantha chifukwa chakuda nkhawa kuti ena aganiza chiyani, ndikufuna ndikukumbutseni kuti palibe - {textend} ndipo ndikutanthauza kalikonse - {textend} ndikofunikira kwambiri kuposa thanzi lanu, makamaka panthawi yamavuto amisala.

Kumbukirani kuti kulimba mtima sikutanthauza kuti simumawopa. Sindinayambe ndakhala wamantha monga ndinaliri tsiku lija lomwe ndinalowa mu ER.

Ngakhale panali mantha amenewo, ndidachita cholimbacho - {textend} ndipo inunso mutha kutero.

Muli ndi izi.

Sam

Sam Dylan Finch ndi woimira kumbuyo kwa LGBTQ + wathanzi, atadziwika padziko lonse lapansi pa blog yake, Tiyeni Tilimbikitse Zinthu Up!, Yomwe idayamba kufalikira mu 2014. Monga mtolankhani komanso waluso pankhani zanema, Sam adasindikiza kwambiri pamitu yonga thanzi lamisala, kudziwika kwa transgender, kulemala, ndale ndi malamulo, ndi zina zambiri. Pobweretsa ukadaulo wake pazaumoyo waanthu komanso media digito, Sam pano akugwira ntchito ngati mkonzi wazachikhalidwe ku Healthline.