Ichi ndichifukwa chake Tonse Timaganizira Kwambiri ndi Meghan Markle

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Ukwati wachifumu, womwe Meghan Markle akwatira Prince Harry (mwina simukudziwa!), Watsala masiku atatu. Koma a TBH, okwatiranawo amamva ngati ukwati wa bwenzi lathu lapamtima kuposa zochitika zapadziko lonse lapansi - kwa miyezi ingapo, dziko lapansi lakhala likuganizira zonse, ndikupanga zolosera zamtsogolo komanso zoyankhulana zam'mbuyomu zomwe wojambulayo adapereka pazokongola zilizonse zomwe adapatsidwa. (Ngati mukufuna kudziwa, nayi momwe Meghan Markle akugwirira ntchito ukwati wachifumu usanachitike).

Koma ndi ayi kwenikweni ukwati wa bwenzi lako wapamtima-ndiye n'chifukwa chiyani inu akadali otengeka?

Akatswiri azamaganizidwe amatcha "matenda opembedza otchuka" ndipo malinga ndi kafukufuku, sizachilendo. Mu kafukufuku wofalitsidwa mu British Journal ya Psychology, ofufuza anafotokoza mwapadera kulambira anthu otchuka. Potsika kwambiri, zimakhudza machitidwe anu owerengera za celeb, kudutsa kudzera pa chakudya cha IG, kapena kuwayang'ana (kapena ukwati wawo) pa TV. Koma pamwambamwamba, kupembedza kwa anthu odziwika kumadzisankhira nokha - mumangoganizira zambiri za miyoyo yawo ndikuzindikira kuti ndi otchuka. Mumakhutira ndi kupambana kwawo komanso kupweteka chifukwa cholephera kwa celeb ngati kuti ndi zanu. Pankhani ya Meghan Markle, zikuwoneka kuti dziko lonse lapansi lili ndi vuto lalikulu la anthu olambira.

Malinga ndi akatswiri amisala, malingaliro athu onse mwina chifukwa cha zinthu zochepa. "Iye mophiphiritsira akuyimira zopeka kuti anthu ambiri ayenera kukokedwa ndi Prince Charming," akufotokoza Brandy Engler, Psy.D, wothandizira maanja ku LA. Ochiritsa nthawi zambiri amathera nthawi yochuluka kukuthandizani kuti musiye zodabwitsazi kuti muwone wokondedwa wanu ngati munthu weniweni-osati ngati njira yamatsenga yothanirana ndi nkhawa zanu zonse, akutero. "Pamenepa, Megan Markle amakwaniritsa zokhumba zake [zongopeka za Prince Charming] ndipo tonse timazichitira umboni ndikukhala mosangalala," akutero Engler.

Zowona kuti Meghan Markle akuwoneka ngati munthu amene mungakhale naye pachibwenzi mwina zimawonjezera chodabwitsa. "Meghan sanabadwire m'chuma kapena mwayi," akufotokoza Rebecca Hendrix, dokotala wamankhwala ku New York. "Ndiye chithunzi cha loto laku America loti adagwira ntchito molimbana ndi zovuta zamtundu, jenda, komanso zachuma kuti achite bwino." Ali ndi ntchito yabwino, mbiri yolimbikitsa kulimbikitsa azimayi komanso zaumoyo wa amayi padziko lonse lapansi. Ndipo amavala nsapato zokongola, zotsika mtengo. (Onani: Kumene Mungagule Zovala Zovala Zoyipa Zoyeserera za Meghan Markle) "Ndani samamuletsa?" akufunsa Hendrix. M'malingaliro mwanu, kuyika mizu kwa munthu amene ali ndi izi akhoza kumva ngati kuti mukudziwombera nokha, akutero.

Pomaliza, pali lingaliro loti ma duchess amtsogolo ndi chizindikiro cha chiyembekezo ndikusintha-zomwe mumakonda kukopeka nazo. "Chifukwa mwina amayembekezeredwa kuti Harry akwatire wina pafupi ndi kwawo m'magulu ambiri, mizu ya anthu masiku ano yopeka iyi komanso mabanja amitundu iwiri makamaka chifukwa zimatipatsa chiyembekezo chosintha," akutero Hendrix. Chiyembekezo chamtundu uwu ndi champhamvu kuposa momwe mungaganizire. "Izi ndizofunikira ku psyche yaku America-timafunikira izi," akutero Engler. "Zimatilimbikitsa ndipo zimatithandiza kufunitsitsa kukhala odzidalira - ngakhale zitakhala zonyenga."

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