Mukakhala ndi Makwinya komanso Mwana Wongobadwa kumene

Zamkati

• Zomwe makwinya anga akuyimira
• Ndi ukalamba umabwera nzeru kapena zina zotero

Nthawi zonse ndimadziona ngati mayi wachichepere wokhala ndi nthawi yolingalira zinthu. Zapezeka kuti sindine wachichepere kwenikweni.

Masana ena, ndikudutsa nthawi ndili ndekha ndi mwana wanga wamwezi wa 4, ndidaganiza zodzitengera awiri a ife. Mwana wanga anali atagona pamiyendo yanga ndipo ndinali nditasambadi tsitsi langa ndi kuvala m'mawa, choncho zimawoneka ngati mwayi wabwino kutenga mphindi yabwino ya amayi-mwana.

Kenako ndinawona chithunzi.

Ndipo ndidachita mantha kuzindikira kuti zidachitika. Mwadzidzidzi, monga choncho, mayi yemwe akuyang'ana kumbuyo kwanga pachithunzichi sakugwirizananso ndi mayi yemwe ndimaganiza kuti ndimamuwoneka ngati mutu wanga.

Ndinayang'ana chithunzicho mwamantha, nditadandaula ndi makwinya akuya kuchokera m'maso mwanga - ndimawoneka ngati moyo weniweni wa fyuluta yokalambayo, kupatula kuti iyi inali #unfiltered kwambiri.

Kodi ndimaonekadi chonchi? Ndinalembera mamuna wanga chithunzi cha chithunzicho, chithunzicho chidalembedwa m'maso mwanga. OMG sindinadziwe kuti ndinali ndi makwinya, Ndinalembera mlongo wanga (wocheperako ine, kotero sanazilandire, ugh).

Monga choncho, ndinazindikira kuti unyamata wanga watha. Atachoka anali mayi wazaka 22 wazaka zomwe ndidakhala ndi mwana wanga woyamba ndipo anali mayi wazaka za 30 yemwe ali ndi ana achikulire komanso wakhanda - ndipo tsopano, makwinya.

Zomwe makwinya anga akuyimira

Ndiroleni ine ndinene kuti sindinachite mantha chifukwa cha makwinya enieni kapena chifukwa chakuti ndinali nditagula lingaliro lakuti pazifukwa zilizonse, amayi sayenera kukalamba. Ndikumvetsa kuti makwinya ndi chizindikiro cha mwayi wokalamba.

Monga zotambasula, ndikudziwa kuti makwinya ndi zisonyezo zowoneka za chikondi chomwe tapatsa ndi blah, blah, blah. Zowopsya zanga zidayamba chifukwa sindimadziwa kuti ndimawonekeradi, ndipo inali nthawi yodabwitsa kuzindikira kuti ndinali wovomerezeka, wamkulu kwathunthu.

Zinali ngati ndinayamba kukhala ndi ana ndili ndi zaka 22, kenako ndinangoti khunyu, ndipo mwadzidzidzi, ndinali mu 30s, ndikubwera kwa khungu lokalamba ndipo sindimadziwa kuti ndafika bwanji pano.

Ndinakhala pafupifupi "ntchito" yonse yakulera ndikudziwika kuti "mayi wachichepere"; Ndinali mayi yemwe ndimaganizirabe zinthu, yemwe anali ndi moyo wambiri ndisanakhalepo, yemwe amatha kutenga nthawi yanga ndisanakhale ndi mayankho omwe amayi "achikulire" amawoneka kuti anali nawo mwabwinobwino.

Koma nditayang'ana chithunzi changa tsiku lomwelo, zidawoneka ngati kusintha kwakukulu m'moyo wanga, pomwe ndidazindikira zinthu ziwiri zofunika kwambiri: 1) sindiyenera kuti ndidapondapo m'misasa yopusako khungu kusukulu yasekondale ndi 2) zinali nthawi yolandira amayi ndili lero.

Ndi ukalamba umabwera nzeru kapena zina zotero

Kuwona makwinya anga tsikulo kunasintha china mwa ine. Zinasintha dzina langa kuchokera kwa "wachichepere," mayi woyamba kudziona ndekha - monga mayi wachikulire, wokhazikika. Ndinazindikira kuti ine, ndi khungu langa, tawoloka malire.

Tonse tinadutsapo zinthu.

Ndipo makamaka, ndinali ndi zisankho ziwiri: Nditha kupsa mtima pang'ono pazomwe ndidasiya mzaka 20 kapena ndimatha kusankha kupita patsogolo ndikukweza mutu wanga pamwamba, makwinya ndi zonse.

Sindinganame. Izi ndizosavuta kuzinena kuposa kuzichita. Ndipo, ngati ndikunena zowona, ndikuyendabe. Ndi mphindi yachilendo kwambiri kuzindikira kuti mwayamba kulowa zaka zapakati. Ndi mphindi yachilendo kusiya mkazi yemwe mwakhala ndikulowa mtsogolo - wamkulu, wanzeru, komanso er, wamakwinya.

Za ine, pokhudzana ndi kukula monga mayi, komabe ndikuyamba ndi mwana wakhanda mnyumba, zatanthawuza kuti ndiyenera kukhala wofunitsitsa kuposa kale pazomwe ndikufuna moyo wanga monga mayi, mkazi, ndi mkazi kuti aziwoneka. Chowonadi chophweka ndikuti, sindikuyenda pang'ono - ndipo tsopano ndili ndi umboni wa izi.

Mosiyana ndi kale, pomwe ndimakhala ndi nthawi yodziwira zinthu, tsopano ndili ndi nthawi kumbuyo kwanga, ndipo nditha kupezerapo mwayi. Ndikhoza kuyang'ana ku maphunziro omwe ndaphunzira kale. Nditha kuwunika zomwe zagwira ndi zomwe sizinagwire ntchito. Nditha kusankha ndikusankha buffet ya makolo akale, ngati mungafune.

Zachidziwikire, sipadzakhala konse kutha kwa woyamba wanga monga mayi. Ndikhala mayi "woyamba" mwanjira ina kwa moyo wanga wonse. Koma tsopano, m'malo mochita mantha ndi chilichonse chomwe chikubwera, ndimatha kuyang'ana mmbuyo ndikuzindikira kuti ndadutsapo kale kwambiri monga mayi - ndipo ndili ndi makwinya kuti nditsimikizire.

Chifukwa chake, zibweretseni, ana: zaka za khanda ndipo chibwenzi, kuyendetsa, zaka zakoleji. Mayi wamakwinya uyu ndiokonzeka zonsezi.

Chaunie Brusie ndi namwino wogwira ntchito ndi yobereka yemwe adasandutsa wolemba komanso mayi watsopano wa ana asanu. Amalemba za chilichonse kuyambira zachuma mpaka thanzi mpaka momwe mungapulumukire masiku oyambilira aubereki pomwe zonse zomwe mungachite ndikuganiza za kugona konse komwe simukupeza. Tsatirani iye apa.