Kupewa Kusamvana Sikukuthandizani

Zamkati

• Ndi chiyani
• Momwe zimawonekera
• Chifukwa chiyani sizothandiza
• Njira zothanirana ndi izi
• Sinthani kukangana
• Pangani pulani
• Gwiritsani ntchito mphamvu zanu kuti muchepetse nkhawa
• Zindikirani ndikuwongolera momwe mumamvera
• Kuthetsa mavuto pompopompo
• Nthawi yoti muthandizidwe
• Mfundo yofunika

Ndi chiyani

Tangoganizirani izi: Mwakhala mukugwira ntchito molimbika kwa milungu ingapo, mumathera maola ochulukirapo kuyesera kuti zonse zikhale bwino. Mwayang'anira zonse ndipo mwadzuka m'mawa kukonzekera msonkhano walero ndi bwana wanu.

Tsopano talingalirani wogwira naye ntchito akulowerera ndikutenga mbiri yonse yanu ntchito. Koma m'malo moyanjana ndi mkwiyo wanu ndipo (moyenera) kuyankhula, mumasankha kusiya mwakachetechete.

Kukhala wopewa mikangano kumatanthauza chimodzimodzi: kuwopa kusamvana komwe kungachitike.

Kupatula pantchito yathu, kupewa mikangano kumatha kuwonekera m'mabwenzi athu, maubwenzi, ngakhalenso mabanja.

Ngakhale kutuluka munjira zowonongekazi ndizovuta, pali njira zopitira patsogolo tikakumana ndi mantha athu ndikufotokozera zakukhosi kwathu moona mtima.

Momwe zimawonekera

Kupewa mikangano ndi mtundu wamakhalidwe okondweretsa anthu omwe amabwera chifukwa cha mantha ozama okhumudwitsa ena.

Zambiri mwazizolowezizi zimachokera kukukula m'malo omwe amakakamira kapena kusokoneza ena.

Anthu omwe amayankha kusamvana motere nthawi zambiri amayembekezera zotsatira zoyipa ndipo zimawavuta kudalira zomwe anzawo achite.

Mwanjira ina, kunena malingaliro anu kumawoneka kowopsa kapena kopanda mantha.

Mumakonda kuwonedwa ngati "munthu wabwino" pantchito, mwachitsanzo, kapena mwina mumatha kupewa mikangano yabwinobwino, kuti musagwedeze bwato.

Pakubwenzi, izi zitha kuwoneka ngati kungokhala chete ndi mnzanu, kusintha nkhani, kapena kupirira zovuta m'malo mofotokozera nkhani poyera.

Nazi zitsanzo zambiri za momwe izi zingawonetsere:

• kuponyera miyala, kapena kukana vuto kulipo posalabadira
• kuwopa kukhumudwitsa ena
• kupewa mwadala zokambirana
• okwiya mwakachetechete pazinthu zosathetsedwa

Chifukwa chiyani sizothandiza

Mukamapewa kusamvana kwakung'ono, mukuwononga malingaliro anu enieni ndikusunga kukhumudwa komwe kumatha kusokoneza thanzi lanu.

Mmodzi adapeza kuti kutsekereza malingaliro athu kumatha kuwonjezera ngozi zakufa msanga, kuphatikizapo kufa ndi khansa.

Kuseka mwamantha kapena kuponyera kumwetulira kwabodza pamaso pathu m'malo movomereza kukhumudwa kungayambitsenso kusungulumwa komanso kukhumudwa.

Kukhala wopewa mikangano kumakhudzanso ubale wathu chifukwa tikudula kulumikizana koona ndi mnzake.

Ngakhale kupewa nthawi zina kumawoneka ngati njira yabwino yothetsera mikangano, pamapeto pake imatha kuwononga ubale wathu.

Njira zothanirana ndi izi

Kodi mukudziwa chimodzi mwazizindikiro pamwambapa mwa inu? Malangizo omwe ali pansipa angakuthandizeni kuthana ndi vuto molimbika.

Sinthani kukangana

Kusagwirizana ndi wina sikutanthauza "kumenya nkhondo." Kumbukirani kuti sizokhudza kudzudzula munthuyo kapena kutsimikizira yemwe ali wolondola ndi wolakwika munthawi ina.

Kuthetsa kusamvana ndikutanthauza kuyimirira nokha ndikulankhulana mukakwiya kapena kukhumudwa.

Ndizofunikanso kuti mavuto omwe akukumana nawo (monga omwe mumagwira nawo ntchito) achitidwe kuti asadzachitikenso mtsogolo.

Pangani pulani

Kukhazikitsa dongosolo musanakumane ndi munthu kumatha kukuthandizani kuti mukhale okonzeka munthawiyo.

Yesezani mfundo zachidule zomwe mungafune kudutsa kwa abwana kapena anzanu kuti mudzakhale olimba mtima mukamawafotokozera.

Fotokozani momveka bwino zomwe mukufuna kuthana ndi mkanganowo ndipo lembani mayankho a zamzitini, zowona zomwe mungagwiritse ntchito zikafunika ("Ndagwira ntchito mochedwa masabata awiri apitawa pomwe wogwira naye ntchito sanapereke gawo lawo la kafukufuku") .

Gwiritsani ntchito mphamvu zanu kuti muchepetse nkhawa

Khalani okhazikika munthawi yovuta pongoyang'ana ndi kugwiritsa ntchito bokosi lazida zanu: kuwona, kumveka, kukhudza, kulawa, ndi kununkhiza.

Izi zidzakuthandizani kuti mukhale omasuka komanso kuti muzitha kudzilamulira nokha munthawi yamavuto.

Ngati ndinu munthu wowoneka, mwachitsanzo, mutha kuthetsa nkhawa ndikutseka maso anu ndikulingalira zithunzi zolimbikitsa.

Mofananamo, ngati mutatonthozedwa kwambiri ndi fungo, mutha kusunga mafuta ofunikira kuti mutenge msanga msanga mukakhala ndi nkhawa.

Zindikirani ndikuwongolera momwe mumamvera

Kudziwa momwe zimakukhudzirani kumatha kukuthandizani kuti muzimvetsetsa za inu eni ndi ena. Musanakumane ndi munthu, yesani kupenda ndikudzifunsa zakukhosi kwanu.

M'malo moyesa kukhazika mtima pansi ngati mkwiyo, chisoni, kapena mantha, yesani kuwayang'ana kudzera mu malingaliro a kudzimvera chisoni, ndikulola kuti muwone malingaliro anu olakwika ndikumvera chisoni.

Mutha kuyesa kuchita izi:

• "Palibe vuto kumva momwe ndikumvera pakadali pano - malingaliro anga ali ovomerezeka."
• "Ndine woyenera ndipo ndiyenera kumvedwa."
• "Zomwe ndakumana nazo (zabwino ndi zoyipa) zimandipatsa mwayi wokula."

Kuthetsa mavuto pompopompo

M'malo mongowunikiratu kwamuyaya ndikulola kuti mikangano ifalikire m'mutu mwanu, yesani kuchita modekha.

Mutha kuyamba ndikunena nkhaniyi osakhudzidwa mtima ndikugwiritsa ntchito ziganizo zofotokoza ngati, "Zikuwoneka kuti ndagwira ntchito molimbika pantchitoyi komabe dzina langa silinaperekedwe."

Pewani kuneneza kapena kudzitchinjiriza mukamayandikira wantchito mnzanu yemwe adalandira mbiri yonse pantchito yanu.

M'malo mwake, nenani "Ndikuthokoza ngati, popitabe patsogolo, tigwiritse ntchito mayina athu onse pulojekitiyi ndikuphatikizana maimelo onse kwa woyang'anira wathu."

Nthawi yoti muthandizidwe

Ngakhale zingakhale zokopa kubisa malingaliro ngati mkwiyo ndi kukhumudwitsidwa posagwedeza bwato, njira zopewera mikangano zimatha kuwononga thanzi lanu lamaganizidwe.

Kusiya mikangano osayithetsa kumabweretsa chisokonezo chokwanira ndikukhala osungulumwa komwe kumatha kukula pakapita nthawi.

Kulankhula ndi wothandizira woyenera kungakuthandizeni kuphunzira momwe mungathetsere kusasangalala kwanu. Mutha kugwira ntchito limodzi kuthetsa mikangano moyenera.

Mfundo yofunika

Mtundu wina wamakangano ndi gawo labwinobwino pamoyo wathu waumwini komanso waluso.

Ngakhale zili bwino kuti musakhale omasuka kwathunthu ndikamakumana, kutha kuthetsa mavuto kumatanthauza kuvomera ngati gawo loyenera lolumikizana ndi ena.

Kumbukirani kuti kusagwirizana kumapereka chidziwitso chakuya komanso kumapangitsa kukhala kosavuta kulumikizana ndi anzathu, anzathu, komanso ogwira nawo ntchito.

Kuphunzira momwe mungalimbane ndi wina molimba mtima sizingachitike mwadzidzidzi. Koma mutha kuchitabe zochepa tsiku lililonse kuti mukhale omasuka kuthana ndi mantha anu ndikudziyankhulira nokha.

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